Ignored

[morbidmonkey]

Why the fawk are they so distracted by men? I'm not really used to having a male figure around but I don't mind if one of them manage to slip into the picture. Usually I like them but what I absolutely hate is when my mom gets all distracted by him. She just completely forgets about me. She just acts different in front of him. Its the same with my sister, but its worse for her. She never pays attention to me in front of her friends/boyfriend(s). She's 21 and I'm staying by her for the rest of the summer. She always wonders why the hell I'm so quiet when her friends are gone. I just hate when people are oblivious...

[Ambrosia]

It's only natural for women to get sucked up into the world of socializing with the opposite gender. You'll do it too, one day, even if you say you won't. I'm not saying it's right but it is something we all have had to deal with. It's more common to watch our friends do it. They find a new male and get so sucked up into the 'happiness' that accommodates it that they simply tune out everything and everyone else around them. Your mother is most likely lonely and these men she finds help fill that lonely void that her own daughters can't.

Take into consideration that she doesn't mean to, it just happens. Try and talk to her about it next time your with her and she ignores you. Letting her know can do a world of good.

As for you sister, since you are living with her for the time being, well. Sisters naturally ignore their little sisters when it comes to friends and boyfriends, no matter how old you two get. My own 26 year old sister gets so wrapped up in her friends that she'll forget she even brought me with her! I know it can get annoying, and it can be heartbreaking when you're trying to spend quality time with her, but it all pays out in the end. Grit your teeth the next time it happens and but in. Try and include yourself, no matter how hard they ignore. You have to have a hard head and force yourself into the conversation. After it's all said and done and everyone's gone than take the time to explain your emotions to her. Let her know that you want to be part of the conversations and all just as well.

There's not much to say towards the boyfriend parts for her. She's looking for that right man and, as I said before, we women tend to get caught up in a whirl of lovey dovey emotions. But remember, all of us are always here to talk! (:

[TheMatrix]

Being a guy, I might not be able to completely understand your viewpoint, but I'll certainly try.
Perhaps you could offer them a glass of water when they come in, take their coat and scarf if it's cold outside and hang them up, or something else. While you're doing that, try making small talk. Ask them how they've been. Be nice. They might repulse you at first because they have a reputation to maintain, so be prepared for that. After a while, though, they might actually accept you into their conversations.
Of course, you shouldn't be too friendly. Let them have their own private conversations, I'm sure you'd appreciate the same.

Geddit? :)