Problems with friends...

[Cable]

sigh...
I dont know if this is the right section as it has nothing to do with dating but...

Last year my best friend moved away. Now I mostly only hung out with him, so I had enough friends but I only really was close to him, so when he moved, I didnt have any close friends.

Theres this group of guys that Ive known since... well since 1st grade. (im in tenth now) I started hanging out with one of the guys in the group near the end of last school year, and a lot more this school year.
So I start talking to this guy a lot, and we start to get a friendship going again. We really have a lot of the same interests and hobbies and we get along well. Of course being friends with him, I was seeing a lot more of the other guys in that tight-knit group. I got the feeling that I wasnt too welcome, but after a while they started to invite me to hang out with them a few times, outside of school.
The thing is though... he (the guy ive been mainly hanging out with) has been acting a bit... like he doesnt want me around or something, but I dont know. Like, when hes around me or talking to me, it seems like he wants to be, but then its easy to see that he's been talking behind my back...
And I wasnt really concerned, but then something happened that got me thinking...
On friday, I wasnt sure if anything was going on, like a party or something with the group of friends, and I had nothing to do over the weekend, so I called him to see if anyone had made plans for a party or something. He didnt answer his cell phone so I called his home. His dad answered the phone and when I asked if he was home, his dad said "no, he went over to (other friends name)'s house." Now every few weeks or so, this whole group goes over to said friend's house to sleepover, order pizza, watch movies and play xbox. Since it was a friday, I figured that this was happening.
So I called his cell again, and he answered this time. I asked if there was going to be anything going on this weekend, or if he was doing that day. He said, "no, im just playing the N64 that my little brother just got. Yeah so, see you teusday."
Now I know for a fact that unless he was only at the other guys house for a few minutes, that he was lying.
Plus, it was a three day weekend, and he basicly told me he didnt want to hang out at all during it.
And then when I called him just today, he offers to give me a ride to school like he always does and talks to me like a friend.


I really dont know what to do. Should I be mad at him for lying to me? Should I pretend I dont know that he was lying, and just forget it?

I feel like shit, because right now, he's really the only somewhat close friend I have, and I dont even know if he really wants to be my friend.
Im confused as hell, and I dont really want to lose a friend but I just dont know...

[Underground_Network]

Sometimes, I know its true for me, a person will be nice to someone else but only when its just you and them. Sometimes they're afraid if they act like a friend with you around other friends, they may lose those friends. I think he's just insecure. You should try and hang around (in school) with your friend and his group. Once you gain their trust and prove that you're worthy to be their friend, they'll let you in. Give it some time. Also, if you're really unsure as to whether he wants to be your friend or not, try hanging out with other people. At my school, I have a lot of interests, so I fit in with a lot of groups. See if you can find a different group of people who share interests with you. If you want more friends, try playing a sport, or doing some activities outside of school. I know that these suggestions helped me get friends, so I hope they help you too. Good Luck! :P

[Cable]

i geuss that the people who i thought were my friends... really aernt.

goddamnit.

I dont know what to do... im a fucking wreck. The one person who I really thought was my friend... he has lied to me, insulted me.
All of them have made it very clear that I am no longer welcome.
The one still pretends to be my friend but even he is ready with insults.

I had been trying to tell him.. tell him that it... everything... is making me feel like shit, that I can even be around any of them without feeling like they wish i would just go away. It so hard...
I finally called him today. I asked him what problem there was with me.
He said he lied to me because he thought I would... ask myself over. I would never do that... im not stupid enough to think that anybody would appreciate that. He said he thought I was being stupid... Im not doing anything different than I ever did.

I told him we need to talk in person tommorow.

I am losing it. I dont know what to do with myself. I feel worthless.

[thesphinx]

Im sorry that sounds hard, but he might of just wanted to hang out with his other friends and even though it sounds offensive not you.
sometimes i just want to hang out with surtain friends and its ok.
but you really need to talk to him and ask him if he wants to be your friend.
hope it turns out ok :)

[Cable]

I dont think you understand...

I wouldnt say these things if this was no big deal.

Im not some whiny little bitch who starts squealing when he doesnt get what he wants.

Ive been trying to make new friends... and Ive been putting faith in a friendship that apparently isnt worth it.
You dont know how hard it was for me to even say anything to him, leaving myself open to be seen as...

[Christheman]

This is life bro. Forget him, this shit happened to me move on you deserve much better than that piece of crap.