I Need Some Advice

[Tommy-]

Hey, my cousin's friend has a crush on me apparently. Shes quite good looking and a nice girl but the problem is that she is two years bellow me in school, is it kinda wierd for a guy my age to have a girlfriend two years younger than him?

[Ambrosia]

Well in a way, yes. At 15 the age difference is highly notable seeing how you're still in school and people will see it as a "High school dating a middle schooler" which is, in today's society, gross seeming. Wait a few years and then see what happens. Once you're around a junior/senior in high school it will be much more acceptable for you to be dating girls up to four years younger than you.

[Tommy-]

Well in a way, yes. At 15 the age difference is highly notable seeing how you're still in school and people will see it as a "High school dating a middle schooler" which is, in today's society, gross seeming. Wait a few years and then see what happens. Once you're around a junior/senior in high school it will be much more acceptable for you to be dating girls up to four years younger than you.

Its different here in Ireland, there's no middle school here. I know guys my age who date people the same age as her and they seem happy, its just the girls they go out with look a little older than this girl

[Ambrosia]

Then you still might want to wait. The age difference is still a big gap and other people might take it a bit wrong.

[Tommy-]

I'll do that, she'll be 14 soon and I'll be 16, is that still as wrong as it would be now or should I wait another year?

[davisbr2]

no my gfs 2 years older than me

[Ambrosia]

Honestly, her being 14 would be a bit better. When I was fourteen I dated an 18 year old and that was highly frowned on but if he had been 16 they'd have all been for it.

[SuperSuraj]

i think 14--16 seems better just cause the gap somehow feels less, i doesnt make sense but it just seems more respectable :)

[Derek951]

i think 14--16 seems better just cause the gap somehow feels less, i doesnt make sense but it just seems more respectable :)

I gotta agree. 14/16 just sounds like a better fit. Not to dis anyone who is 13, but some (including parents i bet) will wonder if that's too young or about the maturity level. I think if you wait til 14/16, you'll get a lot more support all around from friends and family.

[terbear]

Nah I don't think so. I mean I've never been with a girl but I think it's fine.