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IanMilo
July 13th, 2011, 10:59 PM
To start I just want to say i personally believe in the friend zone, once you are to good of friends with someone dating just becomes awkward and potentially ruins a great friendship. That being said i am sure there is an exception to this, its probably rare though. So i just wanted to see who all believes in the friend zone and who does not. Thanks :)
Angel Androgynous
July 13th, 2011, 11:10 PM
I believe that it is possible to get out of a friend zone, though I do agree, that dating a friend, can lead to ruining a friendship. :c Well, it's all part of teen drama. *sigh*

I also believe that you meet that special someone by being friends with them and getting to know them.... so yes, there is a friend zone, but the friend zone can be crossed. (:
Sage
July 14th, 2011, 12:22 AM
The only way to get out of the friend zone is to stop being the person's friend for a long time and then start over with them. And by a long time, I mean upwards of at least a year.
Drew7
July 14th, 2011, 03:27 PM
if you start fooling around with your friend you're out of the zone...
Angel Androgynous
July 14th, 2011, 03:48 PM
The only way to get out of the friend zone is to stop being the person's friend for a long time and then start over with them. And by a long time, I mean upwards of at least a year.

Exactly. I was friends with one of my guy friends for over a year and then it just happened. ^_^ Lasted like 4 months. xD That's pretty long in middle school time!
Solo Rider
July 14th, 2011, 03:59 PM
To start I just want to say i personally believe in the friend zone, once you are to good of friends with someone dating just becomes awkward and potentially ruins a great friendship. That being said i am sure there is an exception to this, its probably rare though. So i just wanted to see who all believes in the friend zone and who does not. Thanks :)

I don't believe in it. If it don't work you can still be friends WTF?
Jennifer's Ashes
July 14th, 2011, 04:06 PM
I think there are two ways that can go. Knowing each other well can either strengthen the relationship because you understand everything about one another, or it can be awkward thinking of each other in that way. I have some friends who I can totally see going out with, but with some it would be just weird and awkward. I love them all dearly, just think of some differently than others. I agree with Sage also.
Angel Androgynous
July 14th, 2011, 04:08 PM
I don't believe in it. If it don't work you can still be friends WTF?

Yeah, but the whole: "You're my ex" thought stays and can work as something to drift the friendship apart. With my ex, we stayed friends, but then he dated my best friend and then he dated me again then her then me then her then my friend moved and he broke her heart and stopped talking to me. I didn't mind that he stopped talking to me, but I was so pissed off at him for breaking my friend's heart. >:c Then while texting him, my friend apparently said that my ex wanted to be friends with me again and I was like: Well let him tell me that! Haha
Solo Rider
July 14th, 2011, 04:09 PM
Yeah, but the whole: "You're my ex" thought stays and can work as something to drift the friendship apart. With my ex, we stayed friends, but then he dated my best friend and then he dated me again then her then me then her then my friend moved and he broke her heart and stopped talking to me. I didn't mind that he stopped talking to me, but I was so pissed off at him for breaking my friend's heart. >:c Then while texting him, my friend apparently said that my ex wanted to be friends with me again and I was like: Well let him tell me that! Haha

^ Glad I'm not a unicorn :D
Angel Androgynous
July 14th, 2011, 04:17 PM
^ Glad I'm not a unicorn :D

Us unicorns have the same amount of drama as you human beans do!
Solo Rider
July 14th, 2011, 04:21 PM
Us unicorns have the same amount of drama as you human beans do!

I think you have more I feel for ya :(
Jennifer's Ashes
July 14th, 2011, 04:28 PM
Us unicorns have the same amount of drama as you human beans do!

She's right, we do. And you should know that, knowing what you know about me ;)
Solo Rider
July 14th, 2011, 04:30 PM
She's right, we do. And you should know that, knowing what you know about me ;)

Yes we do... It's true, But WE as humans do it. We can't help it but WE DO IT.
HaydenM
July 15th, 2011, 03:00 AM
Oh it definitely exist, I have been stuck in it with some beautiful girls for years. It sucks and I am yet to get out of it with any of them :S
jhsjsams719
July 22nd, 2011, 01:48 AM
I believe in the friend zone!
I've tried...and it was not really that good. It may seem like you're going to have the best dating relationship with you opposite sex best friend, but it doesn't work.
However, like you said, in rare cases, in may happen. Who knows?
The Madman
July 22nd, 2011, 06:45 AM
Yeah i do know about the friend zone and I do believe in it.
Since i'm in it with every girl in my school :(, literally I have so much girl - friends its unbelieveable but I wouldn't date them cause I like them as friends too much.

FML :P
Monster.Mike
July 22nd, 2011, 05:03 PM
I believe in it! It sucks!
MilitemDilectam
July 22nd, 2011, 05:22 PM
Reading The Mystery Method..it's very true..that's why you build attraction..comfort..and THEN you seduce..hehe
DerBear
July 22nd, 2011, 09:19 PM
I think it is there but its not so hard to get out of it if 2 people are close together
kai99
July 26th, 2011, 09:11 AM
There is rare exception, but you have to be very lucky to keep a friendship after you broke up
makememoo
July 29th, 2011, 11:39 PM
once you're in it, it really is hard to get out of it. Best thing to do is keep your space for a while and hope that things can get better later. Starting to get other people interested in dating you always makes you more desirable.
kai99
July 30th, 2011, 03:20 PM
Sure it exists. Do you believe on it ?
Dan_UK
July 31st, 2011, 08:45 PM
The best way to get out of it: STOP THINKING ABOUT THEM IN THAT WAY

I know it may be hard, I've had the same problem myself and managed to overcome it, and trust me I was in pretty deep. Out of the 3 girls I've been with 2 of them were friends first, one of them I had feelings for when we were first friends and one of them I didn't, but what both situations had in common were that I didn't think that way about them at the time we "hooked up" as such.

Or you can go for Sage's option of not seeing them for a long time, the idea being when they next see you they'll probably see you in a new light (unless you are exactly the same as before you spent the time away from each other)