taking control!

[alley]

So far this year i've achieved pretty much nothing. Self harm has got worse, grades have slipped, lost friends, become depressed. I need to find something worth doing now, i need too change.
So that's it. I want too take control. I need too tell someone. I want too get help.
I want too tell my parents. Does anyone have any advice on letting down the two people who you love and aren't supposed too? any stories when you told a relative? It would be helpful, thank you.
note: I once told my parents before, but they ignored it. Does this mean I should tell someone else? I have already told my friends and they didn't seem to phased either...but i really want too tell my parents....again....

[cheldy]

First of all, congrats on having the courage to get help!
I think it would be great if you told your parents about it.Maybe the first time you talked to your parents, they thought it was just a phase, it would pass, or maybe they were worried but didn't know what to do, so didn't talk to you about it because they were scared. I am sure they remember what you told them, and I think it won't be as hard to tell them as it was the first time.
So maybe when you tell them again, you could tell them that it's linked to your depression and to you feeling down. Some people can't seem to link these two, I got this happen with a friend, she thought it was for attention.
Other people to tell would be a school counselor, and if you say your parents ignore you trying to talk to them, the counsellor could talk to them and explain what is happening.
About your friends, I personally got three types of reactions: some will try to talk to you and be understanding, some will judge you, and some will try not to get involved;
I haven't told my parents yet, as I am not living with them, but I am thinking of talking to them once I visit them.
Even if your friends and parents don't end up being as supportive as you would have wanted to, don't get discouraged, you can talk to people here online or to a counsellor:).

[Njathind]

Well, first off well done, its great you wanna get help now before things get any worse. Trust me you dont wanna go down the route of things getting so bad you get put in a psych ward.

If your parents didnt take any notice first time, then I would make an appointment to go see your gp, after all at the end of the day they are the people that are gonna help you.

With regards your parents, you are not letting them down at all. They are your mum and dad, and at the end of the day, no matter what you think or they say, deep down they love you. If you really can not face telling them, then maybe you could get a profeesional to tell them, at the end of the day its down to what you feel most comfortable with. If anything feels comfortable at all. :hug:

[alley]

thanks guys :)
I think i am going too try and tell them this weekend...and yeah i think maybe they didn't think it was a big thing, and it was just a phase. Hopefully now they'll take it more seriously as last time i told them was year ago..so if i say i have been doing it that long they may recognise it.
if for some reason i chicken out or something, i may tell my form tutor. i feel comfortable enough too tell her i think..just need too tell someone and get some help... sort this :)

[Njathind]

I think thats really brave of you, good luck :)

[Love.Hate]

First off well done!! Thats a really brave thing to do, so good luck :D

Getting help sooner is always good because these things tend to get progressively worse overtime, and you wont ever be able to stop unless you want too. So take control and do the right thing! Your parents probably dont understand why someone would ever want to hurt themselves (i know mine didnt understand) and truth of the matter is they will never properly understand this addiction until they have been through it. But i hope they are there to support you and give you a hug when you need one.

I hope things work out well for you :hug:

[Weeping]

It's really good you'll try to get help! That's a huge step!

And.. I think you should try telling them once more, even though they "ignored" it the first time. And if it's hard for you to tell them, maybe write a note? Or an sms? Or just, which I doubt most people would do, show them.

If it doesn't work, I guess a teacher you trust would be a pretty good idea. You can use pretty much the same "methods" if you have a hard time to speak it out.

I hope you'll get the help you need, and get better soon.

:hug: