Im so confused

[Nathan13]

hi i dont know if this is the right place but.....

Ok so im quite shy and look,act and think much younger than i am just about 14 is this normal or ok?
And to be specific i dont like to do what most of my friends and class mates do shout about the room to annoy teachers, sort of bad things. my familt and freinds say i act and look 12 and i now think that i think like a 12 year old
i dont want to go about with my friends alot because they act older and dont like to actually play like catch games(your it) ect..
So i want to play with some freinds that i know near me they are 11-12 and there brothers 8 and 5 lol their brothers are not relevent to this question
So heres the question- As i said im shy so i would feel embarrest about playing with 11-12 year old but i of course do have friends of my own age but i mainly talk to in school or play on xbl so i want to play games and have water fights and stuff with 11-12 or 13 year olds but my cousin (17) says go play with ppl ur own age in stead of babys and my dad gets angry saying he neeeds to find some friends so i would like to know is it normal or ok for an extremely shy 14 yo to want to play with younger friends? and my closest friend(14) is immature so i can easily go about with him ect

And i have all sorts of freinds on xbl of all ages 5-whatever

so i guess they main question is-im quite shy and look,act and think much younger than i am just about 14 is this normal or ok?

And-so i would like to know is it normal or ok for an extremely shy 14 yo to want to play with younger friends?

Please if their is anyone else like me please tell me im having some sort of crysis about it and here is my soloution


at age 11 i was still shy i had a best friend(11) and 12 13 14 7 8 9 yo freinds
untilm at age 12 we fell out he is quite shy so we dont say a word to each other so because of that i stayed in and played xbox only went to school beaches swimming parks ect with family now ive moved house and i want to actualy play with the ppl mentioned above is this because i lost my chance to do this for 3 years? :confused::confused::confused::confused:

[Nathan13]

Some additional info- up until i was early 12ish i still played "real life army games" with my bro and cousin so you see my immaturity

i sometimes even want to play them games now can i? is it ok?



and i like war games so i still like to have water fights and make up squads and then go- "go go go breach the buildng" ect with my 13< friends

[skater94]

You're not having a crisis, it's just that you're really shy. Wait a bit, because many of our personalities change throughout puberty. For now, just stick to whatever you're comfortable with. I'm certain it's normal to play with younger friends.

Also, try to find other shy people with common interests as you. You will be surprised about the number of people out there who are looking for new friends.

[Nathan13]

That help a bit but i dont like the fact that my familt annoy me about not playing with friends at own age andcould you please answer my 2 q's like-

1. ....
2. .....

that helped but the specific things arent the same.

[skater94]

I really didn't know which two questions, so I guess they are the ones in the first post.
1. It's totally normal to look younger and act younger than one's age. I actually have a friend who was like that, and to tell you the truth I found him quite cute. The girls went mad for him, and he still acts like he's 12 (he's 17).
2. Yes, you can still play with your younger friends. If you enjoy yourself and feel comfortable, go for it.
If you have got interests in sports, try to meet new people. Parents will not only stop harassing you about making friends, you will also have fun. You mentioned beaches and water parks. My suggestion is for you keep at it
It's not immature to play with guys younger than you.

[FullyAlive]

1) Looking younger and acting younger is perfectly normal everyone grows up at their own pace, so what if you're doing it slower than others, it isn't important. Try not to worry, you seem perfectly happy with being "immature" and if you're happy that's the main thing.

2) Yes, it's completely ok for you to play with younger friends, and tbh they don't even sound that much younger than you. I have quite a few friends with an age difference, older mainly but a few younger. You're family are only teasing you, my brother was the same when he was younger, he was forever with the younger kids, I used to tease him non-stop. But it was never serious and eventually he grew out of it, just as you will.