Ex-Friend blames me for his life sucking

[DerBear]

For now what seems like close to or just over a month my friend blames me for his life

So this is what HE has done

Shut down from everyone

Attacked me and my friends, mostly verbal but has thrown things and has hit me twice

Stole important documents from me

AND to round it all off attacked me with a knife

The things i have done to him

supported him

asked whats wrong

and broke a small pannled window (offered to pay for it to get replaced)

So that would be about it

now he claims that its because his life sucks and mines is so good...

and to be honest i dont know what i have done...the only thing i know for sure is that he/his family are having money (his mum told me that)

So i dont know why he is being like this

Can anyone give any opinons or advice

p.s If you have any questions dont hesitate to ask...

[Ambrosia]

Well, you stated in your topic title that he is your "Ex-friend", meaning, you two are no longer friends (Obviously! Haha--). So, dare I ask, WHY are you two no longer friends? And when did it happen? Before or after all of this drama?

If your friendship ended before the drama began well, there's the answer. He lost his friends an it can cause an awful rift in a persons mind to have to lose their friends. I know the feeling personally, and it can be a big cause in why he has acted towards you all the way he has.

If it ended after the drama, and because of the drama, well...I would most likely bet on the age and the money problems. It's not easy being a teenager and life can really get you down. Undoubtedly, life has grabbed him in a choke hold and he is trying to fight back the way he can. Blaming you is probably his way of avoiding the truth. The majority of people do not want to admit that their life generally sucks, or that there is something in their direct line of view that is causing everything to go down hill so fast. He might not want to admit to himself that his family life has dropped off the side of a cliff. On top of this, his friends have all abandoned him, making it seem that much more worse. You've said you tried to be nice, and it didn't work. You tried more, and it still didn't work. Try once more, and if it fails a third time, perhaps you should find an adult who can talk to him about all the feelings going through his head at the moment.

[DerBear]

Well, you stated in your topic title that he is your "Ex-friend", meaning, you two are no longer friends (Obviously! Haha--). So, dare I ask, WHY are you two no longer friends? And when did it happen? Before or after all of this drama?

If your friendship ended before the drama began well, there's the answer. He lost his friends an it can cause an awful rift in a persons mind to have to lose their friends. I know the feeling personally, and it can be a big cause in why he has acted towards you all the way he has.

If it ended after the drama, and because of the drama, well...I would most likely bet on the age and the money problems. It's not easy being a teenager and life can really get you down. Undoubtedly, life has grabbed him in a choke hold and he is trying to fight back the way he can. Blaming you is probably his way of avoiding the truth. The majority of people do not want to admit that their life generally sucks, or that there is something in their direct line of view that is causing everything to go down hill so fast. He might not want to admit to himself that his family life has dropped off the side of a cliff. On top of this, his friends have all abandoned him, making it seem that much more worse. You've said you tried to be nice, and it didn't work. You tried more, and it still didn't work. Try once more, and if it fails a third time, perhaps you should find an adult who can talk to him about all the feelings going through his head at the moment.

Well thanks and congrats on being a new VT Mod

Well you see to cut a long story short

This first started when he stole something from me and i confronted him and i had proof (CCTV) When i confronted him he did not take it well and it began to get worse everytime i tried to discuss the issues at hand....eventualy it got worse and worse so for now i am giving him distance and intend to keep it that way...I mean if i go back again i really dont feel like geting into another fight...So yes this all started when he stole something from me...So thats how it started...

[Ambrosia]

Well thanks and congrats on being a new VT Mod
Thanks! =)

Well, he's obviously bad news. Keeping your distance might do well on both of your parts, and alerting a parent or adult about his suddenly odd behavior might do him a world a good. He obviously has some issues he needs to sort out!

[SosbanFach]

the only thing i know for sure is that he/his family are having money (his mum told me that)

Should this read 'money problems', because the phrasing and it's placing in the main body of text suggest that it should?

[DerBear]

Should this read 'money problems', because the phrasing and it's placing in the main body of text suggest that it should?

The only thing i mean by saying that was that this was the only issue i was aware of i did not know if he had any other problems or issues

[SosbanFach]

In other words, yes, it should.

[DerBear]

In other words, yes, it should.

Sorry i have completly lost me here

What do you mean??