Boyfriend trouble...

[jack_dawkins]

Hey i met this guy (Ted) on Twitter about a year a go and we really hit it off, we live in different cities, but we decided to become boyfriends in "an open relationship". So we have been dating for almost 6 months, but about once a month we have these nasty text, twitter fights. Ted just lashes out at me, over nothing, or something really small like a joke or something. So we have these fights, then they end with him deleting me and blocking me for twitter, and ignores my text and emails . Then in a few days he says hes sorry, ( he was feeling bad or was high or........) and forgive him and take him back.

Any ideas on why he does this, and what should i do about it. We are both the same age 15/16. Both are BI, and we just seem to hit it off so good. then this happens, I just dont know if i should keep taking him back or not. Thanks

[Salvi]

If I were you I'd stop talking to him. If he has those episodes monthly and it's over nothing you're better off without him. Personally that's my opinion but then again I like to live drama free.

[tyler007]

I think that if Ted is always picking fight or lashing out at you then there is a good chance he is really stresses about something or is uncomfortable with what you guys are chatting about. Maybe he is not really Bi, or is not totally accepting it, and he lashes out at you because of this because he is confused about him self.

You need to have a good talk with him and ask him why he does this to you, your should ask a few question and make sure he answers them, before you just take him back.

[Angel Androgynous]

I remember I had a boyfriend like that. He would randomly lash out at something I said and yell at me and stuff. Then he would say he's sorry and that's he's a monster and sink to his knees. I think he is just insecure. Talk to him about it. (: Besides both of you are teenage boys with your testosterone and your hormones. Hehe ^_^ Part of life....part of life! Teen drama. We all experience it. <3 (At least a lot of us do)

[Pancakes]

I think that if Ted is always picking fight or lashing out at you then there is a good chance he is really stresses about something or is uncomfortable with what you guys are chatting about. Maybe he is not really Bi, or is not totally accepting it, and he lashes out at you because of this because he is confused about him self.

You need to have a good talk with him and ask him why he does this to you, your should ask a few question and make sure he answers them, before you just take him back.

Ty said it all :)

[Solo Rider]

Hey i met this guy (Ted) on Twitter about a year a go and we really hit it off, we live in different cities, but we decided to become boyfriends in "an open relationship". So we have been dating for almost 6 months, but about once a month we have these nasty text, twitter fights. Ted just lashes out at me, over nothing, or something really small like a joke or something. So we have these fights, then they end with him deleting me and blocking me for twitter, and ignores my text and emails . Then in a few days he says hes sorry, ( he was feeling bad or was high or........) and forgive him and take him back.

Any ideas on why he does this, and what should i do about it. We are both the same age 15/16. Both are BI, and we just seem to hit it off so good. then this happens, I just dont know if i should keep taking him back or not. Thanks
TIME TO USE THE "OPEN" PART...
Thats a lot a drama and stress... And BS really. Not "Hitting it off" Anymore so move on?

[jack_dawkins]

Hey all thanks for the advice.....
sometimes i think I know what i should do, i just like to hear it form others too.
I told Ted today, that when he is read to talk about this to let me know... so far nothing. Might be time to move on and say " that was fun, some of the time"

[Ambrosia]

Moved Teen Sexuality> Relationships and Dating

[Bard95]

Its because you don't see eachother :'( I was once in a relationship like that, you wan to cuddle up and hold eachother all the time, but you can't :\ and tn sadnss turns into anger and then drags on into worse things

[FullyAlive]

Long distance relationships are hard. The majority don't work out. After all matter how much you love each other, seeing words on a screen isn't the same as a hug after a difficult day.

But back to your fights, it sounds like Ted is frustrated at the distance or something else, and is taking it out on you because he knows you'll let it go. Or he might be doing it to keep the relationship interesting in which case I'm pretty sure there's other stuff you can do to do that. Either way if its bothering you talk to him. Stop letting him walk all over you, and tell him if he does that shit again next time you won't take him back.

[terbear]

He probably just wants to see you but is having trouble making up his mind--or there could be some family problems at home for him. Try to Skype him!

[ExhibitG]

usually whenever this happens it's because the person that lashes out is insecure about something. talk to him and see if you both can prevent this from happening in the future, at least not as often.

[xktx]

two things may solve this as everyone else says, try meeting up with him, maybe not just you and him in a really secluded area the first time, but it may help once youve seen each other face to face. x
Or try talking to him, he may just be stressed about something, whether its emotions or school or whatever. if he doesnt tell you or doesnt want to tell you, then theres obviously something hes hiding from you and if its getting in the way of your relationship then you need an answer, or id get out, it would hurt for a while, itd hurt alot, but youll find someone else. x