I feel like I am distancing myself from my best friend?

[Portable Desert]

We have been great friends, we would see eachother every weekend and talk on the phone every day. We often found ourselves liking the exact same thing. For the past couple months we have been arguing a ton, and I find myself trying to "pull away" from him. I get aggravated when I talk to him on the phone, not like I used to. Today he asked if I wanted to sleep over at his house, I lied to him and told him I was sick with a stomach flu. I feel so much built up tension.

Why is this? Should I just abandon him and find another friend or would that just be wrong? Should I keep him in contact and just keep pushing along?

[Tristin.]

i had this for a while with a friend, we just didnt talk for ages and then we were ok again :)

[Perseus]

Why do you two always argue?

[Portable Desert]

I don't know. Its always about little things, the kinds that don't matter.

[TrAnSMaN09]

im going through the same thing with my best friend, we used to chill every weekend, and we never fought, but now i can't stand her, I always tell her im busy, and that my mom says No we can't chill, im just sick of the person she is now, she's turned into a whore, and a druggie, and she only cuts for attention, so im sick of it, the only way i can talk to her is if im bored outta my mind, or really upset because she makes me happy, so idk, i miss who she used to be i think thats why were still friends, because i keep hoping she'll change back to that, i see it alittle bit, sometimes, but not all the time like i used too,

So i know what you are going through hunnie, but im sorry, i have the same questions as you, so i can't answer yours, im throughly sorry hun <3

[Perseus]

I don't know. Its always about little things, the kinds that don't matter.

You could always discuss with your friend how you're annoyed that you two always argue, and that you don't like it, and it's making your friendship not as good as you'd want it.

[prob1996]

At some point you and your friend are going to have to have it out. You shouldn't keep in touch and keep pushing along because you might damage the friendship beyond repair. You shouldn't just abandon him w/o explaination because that is just wrong and you've been friends for awhile and he deserves better. You wouldn't want him to do the same to you. Let your feelings be known and explain that maybe you two need time apart. he might not understand now but at least you did it in a way that just didn't crap on the history you two have.

[HeartCoreHannah]

You're bound to have fights with your best friend and get annoyed with then, especially since you've been friends for a long time. Try going a week or so without talking to him, then you'll realize you miss him and still want him in your life.

Good luck. (:

[Portable Desert]

We have already discussed arguing, I ask him nicely if we can change the conversation before it gets out of hand-and then it gets out of hand.

[Perseus]

We have already discussed arguing, I ask him nicely if we can change the conversation before it gets out of hand-and then it gets out of hand.

No. Actually talk to him about it. Say something on the lines of, "I hate how we argue all the time. I feel like it's making me distance myself from you, and I just don't like it. What's goin' on [with the arguing]?"

[Portable Desert]

Basically how it went :(

[Drew7]

if that's how it went, not much you can do

[Perseus]

Basically how it went :(

Like Drew said, then there's nothing you can do. Your friend is just an ass.

[Angel Androgynous]

I think your friend is insecure. Does he apologize later? Or do you kinda have to bring him back to earth? Maybe something is troubling him.

[Kujiro]

Friendship is something that is like sand, the harder you try to grab on to it. the more tend to leak away.

But friends and besties are what builds our character.
me thinks that you should calm down, and think of the better times you had with him.

Obviously when you are upset about something or angry with someone, everything he does is wrong in your perspective.

Dont take friendship for granted because it will be more depressing if 2 besties have decided to part ways and end up regretting that decision.

The sour feeling bites harder than relationships.
Treasure them.
and make the best of them.

Cheers.

[Tango]

When I was younger, me and my best friend argued for years. We constantly fought and never got along.

We finally got tired of each other and just stopped hanging out and talking for a few months. Now we are really good friends again and hang out all the time without fighting. So maybe that's what you and your friend need to do? Just take a break from talking to him for a while.

I don't think you can just drop a friend, especially a best friend.

[Kujiro]

When I was younger, me and my best friend argued for years. We constantly fought and never got along.

We finally got tired of each other and just stopped hanging out and talking for a few months. Now we are really good friends again and hang out all the time without fighting. So maybe that's what you and your friend need to do? Just take a break from talking to him for a while.

I don't think you can just drop a friend, especially a best friend.

Yup I second that. Take a breather and work things out when alls cool and calm