help!:)

[EntertheNinja]

I have been weird thoughts over my sexuality and for the past 2 months I have been pondering whether I am gay/bi/straight or not. I have always liked girls and had a girlfriend in the past, but these thoughts have made me feel really guilty and it's taking over my life. I used to watch gay porn but stopped and used to masturbate to a guy sometimes (as well as girls), both times stopping because I felt ashamed afterwards. I hate these thoughts.

Just wondered, I also keep questioning my attraction to girls now (whether I will be in a relationship with a girl when I'm older etc), I think I will be it's jsut these thoughts are making my mind explode with how much anxiousness they are producing with the thought of me not being striaght. I do want to be straight and I hope I am, can anyone help me, is this hormones and normal for a late blooming teen? or not?

Thanks again, Ninjaaaaaaa

[Love.Hate]

First of i take it your a guy yeah?

Well are you physically and emotionally attracted to men? It could be possible your Bisexual, because your still attracted to girls right?

Many people get confused at some point in their lives over sexuality, dont worry. Its normal. Whatever you are, who ever you are is fine. Be you, dont pretend your something your not.

[EntertheNinja]

yeah i'm a guy, and no I don't think so why?:/

I don't want to be gay though:( or even bisexual really

[Love.Hate]

I don't want to be gay though:( or even bisexual really

Honestly, in my opinion its not one of those things you can choose. Some people disagree, but you are who you are. Its nothing to be ashamed of.

[BennyD93]

Honestly, in my opinion its not one of those things you can choose. Some people disagree, but you are who you are. Its nothing to be ashamed of.

i agree, i had the same issues a while ago concerning my own sexuality, you can suppress your feelings but you can't get rid of them for good. I think most people go through this phase

[EntertheNinja]

I was looking through posts though and I saw WackyZacky or whoever, and his responses are a lot different:/

[Love.Hate]

I was looking through posts though and I saw WackyZacky or whoever, and his responses are a lot different:/

Well, everyone has their own opinion.

You can supress these feelings and be who you want to be.. but not who you are. Or you could just take it step by step and think about who, and what you really want. Remember this could just be a phase?

[EntertheNinja]

I hope it is:) I've never thought about it up until 2 months ago when I first got this feeling, it's awful it's all I concentrate on all the time, I do not want to be gay or bisexual and I don't think I am, these thoughts are depressing me:/

[niceguy90]

you gotta go with how u feel. u can be bi

[EntertheNinja]

Idk how I feel, thats the whole problem, I don;t want to be though!

[LuckyLuke]

Idk how I feel, thats the whole problem, I don;t want to be though!


EntertheNinja, I say sincerely with the utmost understanding and sympathetic chimes in my voice, "too bad".

I know how you feel. There were nights when, despite the overwhelming support I know I'd receive from my parents and friends, I'd cry myself to sleep. I could have sworn I was gay. I was never attracted to woman, I'd watch gay porn exclusively, and, when around town, I'd only check out men. I soon came to accept it. If I was gay, I was gay. Whatever.

But, in the past few months, I've come to enjoy woman more and more. I've started to be turned off a bit by gay porn and when about town, it's rare that I'd check out men and I frequently find myself looking girls up and down and enjoying the view ;).

I'm not saying that this is definitely a phase, it may not be, however; it very may well be. You just need to accept who you are and go with the flow. There's nothing you can do to change who you are.

Good luck and best wishes.

[Mynameisconner]

All of those fears will subside when you realize what you really want, and if you are gay or not. Just let yourself come to the realization before speculating too far in the future. You will avoid all of the stress and anxiety that way. Take it Easy!

[EntertheNinja]

thankyou:/

[TtotheC]

Heya Ninja!

You seem to be kinda going through the same as i am.. Dude i question my sexuality every day because i could get really turned on by gay porn and yeah i've had my fantasies.

But this is what i've learned over the last couple of months, just because you like a certain type of porn or you fantasize, it's all experimental and exciting, because it's probably something you'd never do yourself. Nothing wrong with that, but i too, choose to not masturbate to it because yeah i feel guilty too lol. That's because of your moral values, you feel guilty or awkward after you're done because you dont agree with it, or maybe it's something religious to you, or your upbringing. All psychological really! Porn is just different than a real life intense sexual experience with a girl, i'm a 100% sure of that. There's a lot of straight guys that watch gay porn just for the kick.

I suggest that, if before your worrying, you thought yourself always to be perfectly heterosexual, and you still feel like you could definitely date a girl, stick with that. Keep that in mind, most homosexuals find out early, others dont of course, but being homosexual, they should know because there's no emotional and sexual attraction to girls.

My advice: do what i do. Keep in mind that you're just curious about it, focus on what you like, if you like girls, embrace them, let them in!:) Live for today man, dont worry, relax, and focus on different things than your sexuality all the time.;) i know its hard, but being a teen sucks, take things as they come, one step at a time!

[Sogeking]

Please don't make duplicate threads. If you wanted to add more information or questions, there's an edit button there for a reason. And in your last thread you got a decent amount of replies, I don't know where you got no replies from. Regardless, since these two threads are similar, I'm merging the two. If you want something to add, like I said use the edit button. Don't create another thread. Thank you. :)

[EntertheNinja]

Sorry SogeKing and ThotheC it is all physchological isn't it haha, I don't where the thoughts just came from or when they'll go they are just questioning my sexuality all the time. It's hard not to focus on it because I defintely do want to be heterosexual hehe:) no offence to gay or bisexual people, but it just doesn't attract me, any idea hw approximately these thoughts go on for?

[Aliasing]

It's not approximate. The fact your having these feelings just proves that your a bit curious. Nothing to be scared about. But you shouldn't NOT want to be gay. They are people like you, it's just they have a different sexual affinity.
If you like women, and your having these feelings. There isn't a need to get Guilty after watching gay porn. Your Hormones are just being, what we aristocrats say, "A bitch."

[WackyZacky95]

Read my post as well

[EntertheNinja]

ok thankyou, you assure me its only hormones?

And I know and I'm sorry if I've offeended anyone but I just wouldn't be able to face being gay sorry, don't know why too much pressure probably.

Also, is it normal when your lad mates go to each others houses and you get a bit jealous because you aren't there having fun instead of sitting alone being bored all night?

[Aliasing]

Oh that's normal. I'm like that all the time. Mostly because I get lonely easily.

But yeah your "normal". So go back to your life as it was.

[EntertheNinja]

I'm not saying gay or bisexual people aren't normal

[IanNE]

if youre not okay with being gay then youre probably not!

[EntertheNinja]

Do you think so?

[Aliasing]

Stop ASKING us for the answer. You're obviously not Gay, or even Bi. Your just a misinformed Curious person

[EntertheNinja]

How do you know that though? The thoughts are just on my mind all the time because I just want ME to be the old ME

[redmann]

Just do what ever feels right for you and what you want to do with your life . If your attracted to both and you dont want to have relationships with guys then just be with women. Just accepting yourself dosent mean you have to act on those feelings. be your self and live life to its fullest!

[EntertheNinja]

I don't want to date guys, but I think I've got something serious like HOCD

[kai99]

Heya Ninja!

You seem to be kinda going through the same as i am.. Dude i question my sexuality every day because i could get really turned on by gay porn and yeah i've had my fantasies.

But this is what i've learned over the last couple of months, just because you like a certain type of porn or you fantasize, it's all experimental and exciting, because it's probably something you'd never do yourself. Nothing wrong with that, but i too, choose to not masturbate to it because yeah i feel guilty too lol. That's because of your moral values, you feel guilty or awkward after you're done because you dont agree with it, or maybe it's something religious to you, or your upbringing. All psychological really! Porn is just different than a real life intense sexual experience with a girl, i'm a 100% sure of that. There's a lot of straight guys that watch gay porn just for the kick.

I suggest that, if before your worrying, you thought yourself always to be perfectly heterosexual, and you still feel like you could definitely date a girl, stick with that. Keep that in mind, most homosexuals find out early, others dont of course, but being homosexual, they should know because there's no emotional and sexual attraction to girls.

My advice: do what i do. Keep in mind that you're just curious about it, focus on what you like, if you like girls, embrace them, let them in!:) Live for today man, dont worry, relax, and focus on different things than your sexuality all the time.;) i know its hard, but being a teen sucks, take things as they come, one step at a time!

This is exactly it.

[EntertheNinja]

you sure? :L

[EntertheNinja]

HELP again please, it's torture when I'm alone