what do you think?

[Tristin.]

ok, ill be blunt. my parents are....not really parents, yes my mother gave birth to me, yes they "nurtured" me, but they are not parents.

For the first four years of my life,or so i have been told, i believed my nanny was my mother as did my brother. I rarely see my parents, maybe a week in summer, or for a few days of Christmas, maybe the odd phone call or email now and then. this over the years has led to my brother and i cutting, fighting and, i will admit, thievery in order to get our parents attention (does getting caught taking sweets by our nanny fro woolworths count?). now i know this must seem bizzare, cruel, possibly horrific to some of you, to my brother and i its always how things have been, infact we count ourselves lucky to see or hear from our parents at all. some kids at school never hear from them during term time.

so, this year, our parents shocked us, in our 16th year, they have taken us on our first family holiday, not gone off ski-ing or scuba diving in the carribbean and sending us off to family friends, they have taken us on holiday with them! now me being me, i asked them, why? they replied "you are both getting interesting now" blunt as that. now when they said this, i didnt really think of it, i was just so giddy as to be on holiday with them! but now, i realise the sadness in those words, only now we are interesting? not when we lost out first tooth, rode our bikes without stabilisers, when i won my first medal in fencing, when fin got his first girlfriend? no now when we are 16.

so i ask you, what do you think of this? bad parenting or just misguided parenting? whatever your opinion, id like to hear it please :)

trisssxxx

[Roses_Are_Yellow]

Oh, wow. I'm really sorry. It's not fair that they weren't there for your first loose tooth, or your brothers first girlfriend. In my opinion, they probably were just being self fish; not willing to give up time for their kids. Maybe they didn't want to be responsible for another life-two, and now that you and your brother are older, you can basically take care of your selves...sorry that I sound harsh :/

But, you technically do have a third parent. A parent really is someone who's there for your first words, girl friends, takes care of you, and make sure your safe.

...or at least that's what some people have told me. :)

At least you have your brother and your nanny :) . And, you can be a better parent for your children..

:)

[sydneyboy16]

Hell of a life. I feel for you man, I do. Look. Honestly, your parents - yes they are parents - ignorant: yes - pricks: yes.
A parents that doesn't want to nurture their child/children just because they aren't interesting?? They aren't good parents. I mean, If they are spending time with you guys now and you get along well, then that's great. But.... No. I'm sorry Cus I'm being totally honest here - they aren't parents in the sense of fulfilling a parents role. In a sense, they cheated. Now they hardly know you and you hardly know them. Look what u had to do to try and get sOme attention...
I hope this helps, then again you need to decide for yourself..

- XAV FROM SYD

[CryWolf]

My family is completely fucked, so I can't offer much help. What I can say is that yeah it's sad that you were denied encouragement in the early years. Truthfully they denied themselves the benefit of experiencing all of those cool childhood things with you.
I know its hard, but I would try to have a relationship with them as best you can now. Who knows maybe some answers will come from it for all of you. Even writing this I ask myself if I would do that, and the truth is I just don't know.
I'm sorry because I don't think this helped at all man.
Anyway I hope you get some happiness and peace for this area of your life.