My cousin wants me.

[Carly99]

My cousin has tried things with me.

Is it normal to do sexual things with my cousin? Is it normal that he wants to with me?

I guess I don't know where the line is.

[suicidenote.]

I wouldn't say it's unnormal for cousins to WANT to do things with eachother, but actually doing them is not normal. I personally don't think it is right for cousins to do things with eachother, no matter if it's 1st, 2nd, 3rd, or 476th cousins, it's not right.

[Carly99]

What if he won't stop if I tell him to?

[suicidenote.]

Then that would be considered sexual battery, which is against the law. If he doesn't stop and you want him to, you need to tell someone. An adult.

[Carly99]

I don't want to get him in trouble. And I'm very sexually active so I don't think it's a big deal. I just want him to stop.

How can I convince him? I think can make a deal like I'll do this or that every once in a while if you ask or we can agree on something. Idk

[anonymous53]

No, don't make deals with him. Tell him to stop, if he doesn't stop. Tell your parents and let your parents handle it with their brothers and sisters.

[Carly99]

You guys are probably right but I just don't want him to get in trouble because of me.

[anonymous53]

He'd be getting in trouble because he's being an idiot. Not because of you, none of this is your fault and don't feel like it is.

[Carly99]

But I've talked about sex with him. Like what I've done and with who. I'm like the only sexually active girl he knows that's close to him. If I didn't have a bf maybe I would experiment with him. But since I am experienced I don't a have desire to do the things that he has me doing. I just feel like it's my fault. He's a good guy.

[anonymous53]

It's not your fault, but maybe its time to stop talking to him about the sexual area of your life. :)

[Dark_Desires]

well just explain to him what u did to us and what do u by he wants me if its sex than its wrong but i have seen so many posts about sisters brothers cousins experimenting but i think its normal if hes a nice guy he will stop i just think a good chat will work a serious 1

[LuckyLuke]

You've done nothing wrong and it's NOT your fault if he gets in trouble. He's on the borderline of sexual harassment and it's better that you say something now to stop him then wait and later in life he gets himself into some REAL trouble.

Tell him with a straight face and stone eyes, "stop" and if he doesn't listen, report him to an adult IMMEDIATELY.

[Carly99]

well just explain to him what u did to us and what do u by he wants me if its sex than its wrong but i have seen so many posts about sisters brothers cousins experimenting but i think its normal if hes a nice guy he will stop i just think a good chat will work a serious 1

Is it still experimenting for me if I've done everything?

[anonymous53]

Carly. You obviously do not want to do this with your cousin. You know it's wrong. Tell him to stop, if he doesn't stop then report him to one of your parents. They can handle it themselves. He might get grounded now, but look at it this way. If he doesn't learn this lesson now then later in life he could get in serious trouble with the law.

[BOSS]

Well if you wanna be inbred lol But seriously NO this is NOT good try to let him know you aint doing a thing with him and tell him to go find some body else to hit on.

[DerBear]

well u can marry your cousin these days i think

but i still feel you should talk to him and tell him to stop as i still think it is rather wrong i mean experimenting is probably borderline ok but going further into sex is not

i think a good chat with your cus is needed

[Carly99]

What's the diff between experimenting and sex??

[death_to_my_heart]

all i have to say is be careful

[Carly99]

Why be careful?

[anonymous53]

Family is meant to stay family. You will have to see this person for a long time. Sex/experimenting inside family is generally a bad idea, ruins relationships etc. I'd say don't do it,

[HaydenM]

Although many people may have fantasies and that could be considered normal acting on it wouldn't be normal. If you wanted to do it I would say go for it but obviously you don't. My only advice to you Carly would be not to do it because he wants to. If he pushes you kick him in the nuts and get away from him. Any unwanted sexual advance is sexual harassment and is illegal. Although you might not want to get him into trouble that doesn't mean you have to give in to his advances

[Carly99]

Thanks for the responses everyone. Ur all really sweet.

He forced himself on me again. I waited til after he finished cumming to talk to him. (he's more reasonable after)

He said he'll tell people stuff and even though my parents know a lot, I can't have them knowing some things about me.

I don't mind doing these things that much. We worked out a deal. I love him like a good friend. I guess it's worked out the best way possible.

I'm glad I have u guys to talk to.

[kyle95]

There's nothing "normal" about his behaviour. He should focus his attention outside, not plunder the family for his selfish jollies. If this continues, talk to your Mum, experimentation is one thing, abnormal behaviour is quite another.

[DerBear]

i encourge you not to go by this saying "A family that plays together stays together"

because well he is your family...i think u should talk to your parents

I really do

its 1 think to experiment its another when its abnormal behavour

[Carly99]

Ok so what's experimenting? I mean I know what it is but what can I do with him that's experimenting? Ya know?

[anonymous53]

Thanks for the responses everyone. Ur all really sweet.

He forced himself on me again. I waited til after he finished cumming to talk to him. (he's more reasonable after)

He said he'll tell people stuff and even though my parents know a lot, I can't have them knowing some things about me.

I don't mind doing these things that much. We worked out a deal. I love him like a good friend. I guess it's worked out the best way possible.

I'm glad I have u guys to talk to.

No, now is the time to report him. Not to your parents, the police. You said he forced himself on you, which implies rape. You need to STOP him RIGHT now. Before things become worse.


I repeat TELL YOUR PARENTS RIGHT NOW. GO INTO THEIR ROOM AND TELL THEM
Experimenting is usually exploring ones sexuality, it usually happens at young ages where NEITHER party knows the ins and outs of sex.

[LuckyLuke]

Thanks for the responses everyone. Ur all really sweet.

He forced himself on me again. I waited til after he finished cumming to talk to him. (he's more reasonable after)

He said he'll tell people stuff and even though my parents know a lot, I can't have them knowing some things about me.

I don't mind doing these things that much. We worked out a deal. I love him like a good friend. I guess it's worked out the best way possible.

I'm glad I have u guys to talk to.

CARLY. This is unacceptable. Whether or not you realize it, you're being sexually abused and, however unfair it is, it's YOUR job to stop it.

DO NOT wait until he finishes cumming! He shouldn't even be naked near you. Your tone is one of fear, not of excitement. STOP HIM. STOP HIM. STOP HIM. Do it now or you'll never be able to.

By him blackmailing you, he's keeping you in his control. That's NOT, NOT, NOT okay. "Good friends" don't do this. They care about you and don't FORCE you to do things you don't want to do.

TELL SOMEONE! Please Carly. PLEASE. You need help! It's NOT YOUR FAULT and he's not a good person however much you believe he is.
~
As for experimenting in your last post, this doesn't constitute experimenting because it's not two consenting people trying new things to see whether or not they like it. It's one male sexual assaulting a female in order to gain pleasure from things he's done before.

Carly, please, you seem like a beautiful and innocent girl- don't let him control you.

PLEASE CARLY, WE LOVE YOU AND CARE FOR YOU DESPITE THE LIMITED CAPACITY IN WHICH WE KNOW YOU. YOU NEED HELP AND YOU NEED TO STOP HIM. Go. Go now. Go tell someone IMMEDIATELY.

[HaydenM]

Carly, i know you don't want yet another person telling you to stop it but obviously you don't want to be doing these things and it should be stopped immediately, next time kick him in the nuts or something but don't go through with something you OBVIOUSLY DO NOT want to do.

He is sexually abusing you and you should stop it immediately.

[madjoker525]

I wouldn't say it's unnormal for cousins to WANT to do things with eachother, but actually doing them is not normal. I personally don't think it is right for cousins to do things with eachother, no matter if it's 1st, 2nd, 3rd, or 476th cousins, it's not right.

actually, once you get out passed like 7th or 8th cousins (maybe even less) there is no blood relation anymore, and the amount of familial genes is so minute, that it isn't necessarily wrong, because its only family by title (so not incest or anything)

also, ditto to Luke and Hayden above

[Carly99]

Hes my second twice removed. is that legal?

[LuckyLuke]

Carly, it shouldn't matter if it's legal. STOP IT DAMNIT!

And if he's twice removed, he's not even related by blood... so there'd be no complications with children.

[madjoker525]

Carly, it shouldn't matter if it's legal. STOP IT DAMNIT!

And if he's twice removed, he's not even related by blood... so there'd be no complications with children.

like luke said, a relative twice removed has no blood relation.
but, even with the title "cousin", its still wrong in the eyes of many, and highly frowned upon

[dents]

carly you need to step up for yourself and stop taking this unnecessary abuse. You should not have to make deals with your "cousin" if he keeps throwing himself on you. Make an stand for yourself. Its for your better good.

[HaydenM]

Carly, I'm sorry but at the moment the fact that he is your "cousin" is not the issue. It wouldn't matter who was blackmailing, extorting or pressuring you into doing these things, That is what is criminal about this. Now I know you don't want to hear it and I don't just want to be another person telling you that you need to do something but PLEASE, do something now before it gets too late, if he is extorting you with him knowing things you have done with other guys, well I'm sure your parents would rather hear that than if he extorted you with telling your parents that you two got together.

[mbishop94479]

Maybe she's had a history of something like this and is just used to it and doesn't care. That's always a possibility. She's very sexually active.

[madjoker525]

Maybe she's had a history of something like this and is just used to it and doesn't care. That's always a possibility. She's very sexually active.

could have something to do with it, but she said that he isnt, or at least not as much as her.

[Carly99]

could have something to do with it, but she said that he isnt, or at least not as much as her.

He was a virgin until me. I think.

[madjoker525]

do you think he continues just for sex or what he thinks is love?

[dents]

He was a virgin until me. I think.


after all of us are telling you that he's abusing you, you actually go ahead and have sex with him. I'm sorry but something is wrong with you.

[Carly99]

after all of us are telling you that he's abusing you, you actually go ahead and have sex with him. I'm sorry but something is wrong with you.

Hey fuck u jackass.

We already had sex before this thread and ur holier than thou indespesible advice.

At least these people care about me. Ur just a jerk.

[Voldemort]

well i guess its ok, if its a far cousin, like 3rd or 4rd.

[anonymous53]

Carly TELL SOMEONE

[mbishop94479]

I think you're viewing both this and the other thread's issue through a warped perspective. Everyone's telling you something, and you're ignoring it. You insist nothing's wrong or you don't do anything. Just try to think about it. Read what people are telling you and think.

[Carly99]

Ok ok lol

[Tommy-]

Do not tell anyone! If you told his parents or yours it would be really awkward for both of you. Its all down to what you wanna do, you can go for it and we won't think any less of you and if you dont we still wont.

[anonymous53]

Do not tell anyone! If you told his parents or yours it would be really awkward for both of you. Its all down to what you wanna do, you can go for it and we won't think any less of you and if you dont we still wont.

I'm sorry Tommy, but this is the worst advice I have seen this entire thread.

Carly. Bottom line is, you need to tell someone. TELL SOMEONE

[Tommy-]

I'm sorry Tommy, but this is the worst advice I have seen this entire thread.

Carly. Bottom line is, you need to tell someone. TELL SOMEONE

No dude, thats the worst advice, the guy hasn't done anything wrong and you want her to destroy their relationship? Yeah thats surely the right thing to do :/

[anonymous53]

No dude, thats the worst advice, the guy hasn't done anything wrong and you want her to destroy their relationship? Yeah thats surely the right thing to do :/

Read the entire thread please Tommy. There are multiple times where she said "He forced himself on me" He has done plenty wrong.

[Lawliet]

As stated above, the best thing to do in this situation is to tell someone. If you let him continue this behavior he may end up hurting himself as he becomes older. Reiterating what those said above; Just tell someone.

[madjoker525]

No dude, thats the worst advice, the guy hasn't done anything wrong and you want her to destroy their relationship? Yeah thats surely the right thing to do :/

if you've read the entire thread, you would know she doesnt really want to continue in this manner, so telling someone would be the best path

[Jennifer's Ashes]

I have some hot cousins, but I would never ever make a move on any of them. No offense but thats creepy.

[kaitlynn_george_1996]

How old is your cousin??And i think it is wrong of doing stuff with your cousin because its still your family..But if yo love him and he love you then i dont really think it is a problem..Its not your fault when he is trying to have sex with you,and thoughting things that you dont want him to though..

[madjoker525]

How old is your cousin??And i think it is wrong of doing stuff with your cousin because its still your family..But if yo love him and he love you then i dont really think it is a problem..Its not your fault when he is trying to have sex with you,and thoughting things that you dont want him to though..

you definitely contradict yourself here
"i think its wrong but if you love each other its okay" ?

and from what ive read n been able to decipher, she doesnt feel about him how he (says) he feels about her

[HaydenM]

you definitely contradict yourself here
"i think its wrong but if you love each other its okay" ?

and from what ive read n been able to decipher, she doesnt feel about him how he (says) he feels about her


I'm pretty sure I don't show somebody I love them by unwantedly sexually advancing on them and extorting sex or whatnot from them. Maybe I'm just old fashioned but that doesn't seem like love to me.

My opinion on the matter is that the fact he is her cousin does not matter any more (although it is not the norm his other actions are much worse).



Carly, whether or not you tell somebody about this I shall leave up to you, but you need to end this "relationship". He is making unwanted advances and extorting you for sex. If anybody was to do this it would be wrong. Just break it off with him. I know things might not seem great as they are but the longer you are part of this the worse it would get.

Find a boyfriend outside of your family that accepts you for who you are and doesn't try to push themselves onto you. You deserve better than a cousin trying to sleaze onto you and get in your pants.

[RoseyCadaver]

Tell your parents.What he did is NOT acceptable.

You said he just came on you and started having sex?That is what I believe rape.I know it can be very hard,trust me,but the best thing to do is tell your parents.

So what if he tells them you've done other sexual things,what do you think they'll be mad at?Him making sexual advances on you,or something you did with most likely consent?

[HaydenM]

thanks
:yeah:Cousin,!!! yeah !! good
its one of the easy way to love some one.....:yeah:

And its easy to approved with family member,,,,and support ur family ok keep try ing....


^ does anybody understand any of that ^

[terbear]

What are you? Rednecks?

[Conner Davies]

my cousin wants to have sex with me and I want to as well, we’ve both seen each other naked and I've fingered her and she's given me a hand job. We’ve both 13, what should I do??