cheezygreez
July 8th, 2011, 10:28 PM
So let me tell you the story of my fling with this girl Hailey. She was a senior this most recent school year, and I was a junior, but we have a lot of mutual friends and we had 1 class together so I slowly but surely got to know her better over the course of the year even though I hadn't known her at all before the year started. She's a beautiful, friendly girl so it wasn't long before I developed a crush on her, although I thought my chances with her were a little farfetched so I kept the crush from getting out of control. In late May, though, things changed. We were at a friend's birthday party, and after she sat down next to me and I struck up a conversation, we ended up cuddling for a while with her head on my shoulder and my hand on her leg (admittedly both of us were a bit drunk but not wasted or anything). Over the rest of the weekend, I was unsure if I could make a relationship with her work since I knew she was going away for 6 weeks the second half of summer. So the next week at school (last school-week of the year) we talked a lot in class and stuff, and we went out to lunch together one of the days and had a great time. Then summer started. Our schedules were out of sync and I took a trip so I ended up not seeing her for a few weeks but we texted each other a lot. eventually I ended up taking her on a date to the beach. I asked her to be my girlfriend that day and she said "maaaaybe? we should date a little more first." I was somewhat bummed but I managed to make the rest of the date fun and not awkward at all. Later that night she texted me saying she had a great time and that she liked me (:D) and the reason she said no to being my girlfriend was because she was going away for 6 weeks and she didnt want to only have a couple weeks together before she left, saying that she'd "rather wait till [she] got back." so I saw her a few more times over the next couple weeks, none of the times were dates necessarily but they were coordinated efforts to see each other nonetheless. then on July 3rd she left on her trip. I hadn't seen her for a week when she left and the last time i texted her was on June 28 (I sent her a goodbye text the day she left but got no response). then, yesterday things went downhill big time. I log onto facebook only to see that Hailey is now "in a relationship" with a boy named Vincent who I don't even know. As you can imagine my immediate reaction was utter shock and pain. I then proceed to talk to my friend Jerry (who is on the trip with Hailey, they are in a band together playing gigs in Jerry's home country of England for 6 weeks) who says that he met Vincent at the airport and that he's been giving Hailey shit for screwing me over like she did, also adding that Hailey is a really flakey girl (Jerry, along with my other friends, was entirely aware of my fling with Hailey). According to facebook, Hailey and Vincent's anniversary is June 28, 2011 (i.e. the last day i talked to Hailey before she left). So I sent Hailey a non-confrontational facebook message saying I would like an explanation because I'm very confused. I haven't gotten a response yet (which is understandable considering their internet access in England is really sporadic). So my question to you guys is this: 1) How badly did she really screw me over? 2) Why would she do this to me? 3) Would it be ridiculous for me to still want to date her if her and Vincent break up? (I wouldn't sell myself out to be with her, but I still am very into her and think a relationship with her would be amazing). Thanks for reading, I know it's a long one.