Parents fighting .. What should I do ?

[Hershey's Kisses]

All long as I could remember , since like first grade or earlier my parents fought. Cursing , screaming , throwing , hitting ... A few fights have been quite violent , on particulsry in third grade when my mom threw all of my dads stuff outside and drove away . They fight a lot sometimes and my older bro feels the need to be involved . Anyway , what should I do when they start screaming and throwing stuff out of the window ? My house is absolutely tiny ao even if Im I'm my bedroom, I still here the shouting and cursing. What do you do if/ when your parents argue ? I'm not sure what to do ... It sometimes goes onf or hours and I dint want to be involved and it sort of bothers me .

[DerBear]

Well i cant really re-late to that as even though my parents have been married for many many years :) and still act like newly weds lol (not sure of spelling)

all that i suggest is you go for a walk just leave the house walk but stay out for a bit like an hour or 2 just to make a point......try it

[Hershey's Kisses]

Well I have no porch or backyard , so I'm not sure where to go ? Lol my parents fight a lot over the same things.

[Iris]

I know how hard it is :(. Listen to really loud music to drown out the screaming. And you can go walk in the street not just your backyard/porch.

[DerBear]

Well I have no porch or backyard , so I'm not sure where to go ? Lol my parents fight a lot over the same things.

as the OP said you can go for a walk outside i know it seems like u will be alone but maybe its for the best as i think bad things can happen in these situations

also have you tried talking to them about this

also i suggest not lisening to loud music as to be honest ur parents may take there anger out on you for playing it too loud ----> i suggest the walking instead

[Iris]

Edit: listen to loud music on your headphones

[Hershey's Kisses]

Ok, I guess I'll have to either take a walk or listen to some music on my ipod.

[DerBear]

Have you tried talking to your parents about this topic??

[Derek951]

Wish I had a good answer for you. It's a tough situation I'm sure. Part of me says try to talk to them and tell them how it's affecting you. But another part says to stay out of it. Whatever problems they have, it seems to be with each other, not you.

[Magenta]

Ouch, I remember this stage. My parents split up when I was eight and it was nasty. I remember lying awake at night and listening to them yell and scream at one another. It's amazing how they think that yelling after you go to bed will make any difference, isn't it?

While it's true that they're issues are their own, you need to tell them how this is affecting you. You are their responsibility. I know that hurting their children is the last thing they want to do but in the heat of the moments during these fights, they'll have forgotten about that.

Past that, the best you can do is turn your music up, go for a walk and just stay out of it. Sadly, things need to take their course and hopefully it will work out for the better.

[Ben Michael]

Yeah my parents just started arguing this past year I just try to go upstairs and watch tv and listen to my iPod.

[Smartypants]

When my parents argue, I feel like Im being tugged by either side so I just zone out and pretend I don't know them. Sometimes I listen to music, or just walk away, or pretend to be invisible. :(

I hate being stressed about their disagreements so I just leave them on their own business.

[oceandude33a]

i personally think that its very unhealthy for the fights to be getting voilent with you there. so when theyre fighting try to get out of the house and let them work it out. depending on how violent dont be afriad to call the cops or ems

[Kujiro]

It depends on the situation, it's generally not wise to intervene, doing so may cause the other party to think you are taking sides.

But if there is a fight, it's best to ensure no one is hurt.
It may be hard to take it down, but walking off is to escape it entirely, regardless they are your parents and it's best if they are still together.

It's going to be really hard if one finally decides to walk out on the other.

If you feel confident, you may choose to talk to them individually, to find the root of the problem.
I believe it's likely due to miscommunication and it's snowballed to catastrophic levels over time.
Try to talk to them at the right times.
This is a very difficult task at our present standing, but I'm not telling you it's going to be easy, I'm telling you it going to be worth it.

Good luck
*smile*