How to tell her...and what comes next?

[Veronica_kitty]

I need some help from you who already made this through.

Since my first boyfriend left me for another b!tch and i finally dont care about any more, i am not interested in a relationship with a boy. But since a few weeks i think that i am really falling in love with one of my best friends, who is a girl. i know her for a long time now (about 5 years) and we are hanging around almost every day and every free hours possible either alone or with other friends. She more and more becomes my best friend since i see her more often then my "real" best friend, because i see her more often since those few weeks (let them be 2 months) and we talk about everything, laugh a lot together and she really helped me going through the hard time after my broken relationship. Our talks are so much more profound and we dont just talk about "girl stuff" but also serious things and about the future and so on...And now i always want to be with her and i like her more and more and everday i am happy to see her in school and maybe hang around with her after school in town and see her face and give her normal friends kisses on her cheek...but i wish to look in her eyes and kiss her on her lips and i want to tell her that i totally fell in love with her and that i want to spend all my time with her and that i want to wake up next to her and that i want her to hold me in her arms at night...and i just dont know what she would say...i dont know what the smiles mean she gives me, because i know i could misunderstand them in my state of mind, and i dont know if she spends that much time with me because she likes me as a normal friend, as her girlfriend...or if she just thinks i still need help to get over my last friend. Sometimes i almost cant hold back standing up and go to her when she is laughing about something we talk about and then touch her face and give her a long, intensive and deep kiss...i always dream about that, but it could destroy everything...i dont know what she would do...When i look into her eyes i think i see something like "i will never hurt you, but you must make the first step, because i am like you and i dont know what will happen"...such a warm feeling...i am sorry for this weird story, but i am so sad about this situation...i want to lie in her arms and look into her eyes and want her to move her lips slowly down to mine and kiss me softly...Right now she means everything to me and she is one of two people in my world who know about my ehibitionistic tendency and all my preferences that are some kind of...extrovert, but she doesnt care at all.
And i dont care what anybody would say about us (I juast know that my family would totally be ok with me bringing home a girlfriend instead of a boy). I just know i never felt such a deep love before for anyone. The funny thing about this all is, that i make up everyday just for her...with all the lipstick and stuff i never used before or for my ex.
Thank you all for listening...uhm...reading this and if someone has an idea how i can find ot what i should do...please tell me.

[Portable Desert]

If she is truly your friend, she will understand and accept you for who you are.

[NinjaArmy36]

^guy above me dude not trying to be a pain or anything but it's WRONG to be bi(read the bible). but anyway that's normal she is nothing for then a very good friend to you and there is nothing wrong with that. Because when a friend does something good/or nice to you and you feel like they are they best person in the world that doesn't when you love them to the point of being homosexual. let me ask you something, have you ever kissed your mom? Why? was it not cause you thought she was the best person in the world(or close)? just cause you love your mom does that make you bi? no it doesnt because you love your mom because she loves you. In Greek that kind of love is called "Agape" that is the kind of love for your brother, friend, mom, etc. well that just my opinion on the subject. But being BI/homo is wrong, but if you want to do it that's your choice and you'll have to live with it. THANKS

[Weeping]

Seriously, don't listen to NinjaArmy. It's nothing wrong with being gay/bi. It's not like you choose who you fall in love with?

And well, if you're afraid that she wont take it to good, I wouldn't say anything to her yet, just wait and see what happens.

Or if you like talk about something around the "subject", then you can try stepping in on sexuality, what she thinks etc.

And.. Could be better to start off by telling her like.. that you think you might be bi/gay and see her reaction etc. instead of going straight to that you like her?

:hug:

[Quick_Sylver]

You're perfect the way you are. Ease into telling her, dont go straight blurting out "I love you!". That doesnt exactly work the way it does in movies.

Being gay is not a sin. Being gay is not unnatural. Being gay is against a faith of a few people who believe in a book that was "apparently" written to describe the faith, and those few people really are outnumbered.

Be calm, be cool, be you. Its okay hun. :hug: Welcome to the rainbow. :)

[Harley Quinn]

Now OP, there is absolutely nothing wrong with being gay/bi/whatever. I'm religious, but not to an extreme length. I am also gay, so trust me there is nothing wrong with you. If you want to tell her I can't say that she won't accept it, but there's actually a very high chance she'll understand. I know it's hard, but it does get easier.

[Veronica_kitty]

first of all thank you all for your comments that say i shouldnt worry about being attracted to a girl.
I dont know if i wrote a little bit mistakable (I am not English so i probably make a few mistakes that make my post more difficult to understand) but my big problem is not the question if being gay/bi is wrong or right (i am tolerant and everyone should have his or her opinion about it as long as everyone is free to live like he/she wants. and no one will convince me that my opinion is wrong -and i am catholic and i think being gay/bi is as normal as being heterosexual). In fact i know that my friend of who i am talking about thinks the same way and wouldnt ever have a problem with me being gay/bi. The gay/bi question doesnt matter at all...i didnt care if it was a boy or a girl who i fell in love with and i didnt choose that it must be a girl, because it just happened. The fact that i declared myself "straight" was just because i never felt something like that for a girl before (besides being a little bit curious). But i was never shocked like "oh my god, i am gay!". it just happened and if she was a boy it would have happened too, because i didnt fell in love with her tits or something but with her smile and eyes and how she laughes and our talks and time we spent together.
Sorry if it looked like my problem is if being gay is wrong or not. I know its no problem for her too, because we certainly talked about such topics. What i dont know is if she could imagine a relationship with a girl (next step would be finding out if she wants one with me...), because like me she had one with a boy and i would describe her as straight and not bi. On the other hand when i look into her eyes in moments we talk about such topics like our future and something like that and we hang around in my or her room and dont make jokes or talk about normal girly stuff, i see something that tells me she wants to hold me close in her arms like i want to hold her and i get this feeling that i want to kiss her so much...
And when i'm wrong i destroy everything...
And when i dont tell her i'm going crazy because it hurts more and more and i am also afraid of losing her when i wait any longer...now i'm lieing in my bed and cant sleep (its 37 minutes after midnight where i live) and i dont know what to do...i just know that i will see her tomorrow like every day and then i will finally be alone again tomorrow night without having told her anything and with my heart aching and wishing for her lieing next to me...

[Sogeking]

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OK everybody the arguments stop NOW. All of this is not helping the OP in any way. If you want to continue this, do it via VM. But if there are anymore useless bickering, this thread will get locked and infractions will be given out.