hi I'm back and even more worried!

[Chris1995]

Hi I'm back, I had a problem about the conflitcion of sexuality for me, it has got even worse and I have even made myself very angry tonight and even cried at how worried I am! I count myself as straight and always have done! I do not want to be gay 100% (no offence). I can think about girls and get erections, but I daren't think about guys for if I get one I will get depressed even more. This guilt is eating me up and I am becoming depressed it is the only thing on my mind!!!

PLEASE please help it would mean a lot

[Cantdefineme]

I don't know if this will help or not, but the whole reason I chose the screen name I did was because I was tired of worrying about whether or not I was gay or straight. What I finally decided is that it doesn't matter. I'm attracted to what I'm attracted to and sometimes that's girlz and sometimes thats guyz. The only difference for me is that I don't feel guilty about my attraction to guyz...that just isn't how I was raised. I was just freaking out trying to figure out which one I was (straight or gay).
I'm not sure I can help you with your guilt except to say that, in my opinion, you are who you are and you don't have control over that. However, I don't know how you've been raised and what is causinig the guilt.
The only advice I can give is to learn to be happy being you... that probably sounds a bit shallow right now given what you're struggling with.

[Chris1995]

its horrible, I do not want to be gay :(

[Tenoramic]

I know what you mean, sometime u just need to relax and think outside the box

[Koffing]

Yea i know the feeling about it. I had it too, but now I'm happy to be me :D
You need to accept yourself and then you will feel better ;)

And if I may ask, Why don't you wanna be a gay? Just asking ;)

[Chris1995]

I don't know I just don't:) btw if you don't mind me asking, are you gay?

I would hate myself :( sorry to all those who are gay

[Pancakes]

Don't be sad about yer sexuality, gosh I am bi and I think Yay everyday

[Chris1995]

No haha, I want to be straight 100% :L I don't want to think ohh men, sorry :/

what can i do?:/ and please dont say try and forget it, cos its impossible

Please don't double post. There's an edit button for a reason. ~Sogeking

[Luka]

I don't know I just don't:) btw if you don't mind me asking, are you gay?

I would hate myself :( sorry to all those who are gay

coward.

jk.


there has to be a reason why, you cant just say "i just dont".. if your attracted to the penis than your gay or it could just be your hormones. ;)


and you say its impossible to forget about guys???well then yea you must be gay.

[Koffing]

btw if you don't mind me asking, are you gay?

I am 99% sure about that I'm gay ;)

[Chris1995]

coward.

jk.


there has to be a reason why, you cant just say "i just dont".. if your attracted to the penis than your gay or it could just be your hormones. ;)


and you say its impossible to forget about guys???well then yea you must be gay.

No I ment impossible to forget about this situation not guys :)

Can anyone tell me if this will pass please?

[Orton220]

You could be bi. Or it could just be a phase that anything turns you on. It just depends. But you cant help what you feel. Im bi. and i dont want to be 100% gay either. I get what you mean. Just relax. "We r who we r"

[Chris1995]

thanks, I forget to say I've only been having the past 6 weeks and before that I've never even once thought I could be gay, it was really weird:/

Oh btw, I forgot to say (again) I have liked girls in the past and had a girlfriend and I have liked a girl recently, I don't fancy men, when I see men in the street I don't go ooh either:/

[VamosToro]

You can choose what lifestyle you want to pursue. If you aren't comfortable being gay, just date girls and live a straight lifestyle. I don't think you can call yourself necessarily gay or not until your like 20 or something when your hormones have stopped acting up. You don't know what you want right now.Everyone goes through this.

[Mynameisconner]

If it's bothering you too much occupy your attention on something else, nd surely you'll be able to relax a little bit. ALso remember that your clarification doesn't happen right NOW, give it a little time and things will become more clear and you'll think you're silly for stressing out over it too much. :)

[Unlucky_Leprechaun]

The labels that society has placed on people are the cause. Be who you are and true to yourself...that's all you can ask. Str8/bi/gay you are still YOU... many gay people have been able to hide or disguise their true identity. For me that would be more horrible than being gay or bi or whatever ,because it would be hard to look in the mirror and see the real "me". As stated above, you body is still going through changes and puberty can make you think of things and do things than you don't understand. I wouldn't try to label yourself but just ride it out and see exactly where it goes and it could just be a phase. You sound pretty torn about it..again as stated, try to not beat yourself up over it.

[Chris1995]

ok thankyou:) and it's really hard to not beat myself up haha, thanks a lot

do you think its just my hormones? i hope so

[Donkey]

Puberty For Boys -> Teen Sexuality

[Solvez18]

im sure most of its hormones

[disassociation2016]

Often they can cause you to be confused. Sometimes all it takes is time. However you might not be straight, and only you know that for sure.

[Chris1995]

Often they can cause you to be confused. Sometimes all it takes is time. However you might not be straight, and only you know that for sure.

I think I'm straight, only up and till past 6 weeks that these thoughts of confusion have arrived. I hope it is hormones, well I hope I am, I think I'm emotionally attracted to females as well not emotionally to males, as I have had a girlfriend before and sometimes think (before these 6 weeks) what it would be like to meet her. However, these past 6 weeks my feelings have been all over the place:/ Also, I have been trying to do less actions that would make me seem a bit more gay, don't know, wish someone could just help me:(

[Chris1995]

what shall i do please? any ideas...