Sort of boyfriend is pushy

[bleedoutlove]

I've known this guy, let's call him A, for nearly a year. I met him on facebook through a friend, he's 9 months older than me. He's really clever and stuff, but he's really pushy - I only met him 3 times, and he is being not physically anything, but he texts me just sort of, messages asking me to do "stuff" with him, and well I don't particularly want to. I don't want to be seen as easy or anything. And I don't know what to do, maybe I'm worrying over nothing. Thanks

[Hope4u]

if he's acting like that now..imagine what it would be like later...get away from him..you should never do anything that you're not comfortable with doing..sounds like a real jerk.

[VamosToro]

I agree. I can't respect a girl that will do anything. I like backbone.

[bleedoutlove]

I know, I flat out refuse but... I don't know, so, what shall I do?

[VamosToro]

Imagine how many girls he may have done this to. It's not just him and what he wants out of the relationship. No is no. When you feel comfortable you can have a sexual relationship. Until then, get to know him, not his anatomy.

[bleedoutlove]

He's not exactly popular with girls, he's not got the most charming personality or the best looks...I think I'm just easily pushed around

[Magenta]

If you think that this is all he's going to do and you want no part of it, back out now.

Or you can just tell him you want to go slower. A no is a no and he is going to have to accept that. If he won't meet you halfway and wait, he's not worth having around. Doing anything of a sexual nature, I believe, should be between to people who have grown to know and love each other and feel that doing these things is being done at the right time. Anything before that right time should not happen.

If you don't want to be seen as easy, good for you. Relationships, contrary to popular belief these days, are not solely about sex or how much you feel each other up. Both partners should be ready for it and if you're not, you're under no obligation to say yes.

I've gone as far as kissing a guy, I'm 16, have no interest in anything further and if someone can't accept that after I've made it clear, they're gone.

[mrbob360]

block his number and find someone that will treat you with respect :)