Please give me advice on this one (private story)

[ViolinPro]

Hello, I feel very tight cornered,while typing this because I remember this.

Me and my mom have a housemate, we share the living room, kitchen and bathroom. he was very mean to me when I was little, (dont blame on my mom, because, well... its a little bit private) and when I was 11 years old, i saw him once masturbating (only his penis showing) and watching pornography, my mom was away, and he had his door open. he knew I came out. Somehow with words he lured me in. I tried to act like I didnt know he was masturbating or watching porn. I heard him masturbating behind me. I tried to act it out. sooo.... hes 35 or 36 years old, my mom just knows (cause i told her) that I saw him watching porn, but I didnt tell about the male part.
Next, when I was 12, I was home alone again (with the roommate) and when he awoke, I saw him naked (I MEAN IT, totally NAKED:eek: ) no underwear or ANYTHING he looked in the window to see if my moms car is there. I quickly ran to my bedroom, and again tried to act out that I didnt see him. He tried luring me in again to the living room (probably for me to see him naked). And a couple of months after ( i was still 12) he was telling me all this stuff that you have to have sex with an older guy, not my age, and that when you actually suck in the sperm, he said its a good tingling feeling.

GUYS i just dont know what to do!!! plz help me this is SERIOUS. My mom never knew this, im too embarrassed to tell her. ANd you know, this guy rommate helped her with the legal documents and bought us VERY expensive stuff and took care of our animals when we werent at home. So I really cant say this to my mom. BUT PLZZZZZZZZZZZ tell me ANY advice YOU THINK OF WHEN YOU READ THIS. because, it all depends on me, i could call the police and tell them everything, i could do lots of things he'll feel bad after.

SO make NO haste, help me help mememememe.

THANK YOU

kk xoxoxoxoxoxxoxo

[go bfmv]

you should tell the ploice he sounds like some kind of pervert

[The Resurrected One]

Does this belong in Puberty for Girls?

[schrei jess]

No better place for it really, JNJ. So I think it's fine here.

As to your problem, all I can say is that you should talk to the police, maybe a school counselor first, talking directly to the police could be really intimidating. But you dont need to let this continue, this man is obviously perverted and some kind of child molester. Please dont let him keep making you uncomfortable - no matter how much he has helped you and your mother, no amount of help or things or money gives him the right to sexually exploit you.

[Underground_Network]

Jess is right. You should probably go to a counselor before anything else. You can even try to resolve this problem, although unlikely maybe somehow you could get the housemate to stop annoying and harassing you. If this harassment continues and a counselor isn't helping than my only advice is to go to the police.

[Sapphire]

As everyone else has said he has no right to make you feel uncomfortable. You often see with paedos etc that they befriend the child and their carers just to get close to the child without suspiscion. Tell someone now before things escalate.

[ViolinPro]

hey guys thanks for advice, thats what I was thinking, that hes getting close to me by helping and all that stuff.
Im a violinist, and I have already have my own website, and have given concerts with orchestras.
do you think that hes trying to get money from me if he gets close to me??

I forgot to tell you something, when I was like 8-9 years old we had a talk about his enemy, and somehow he told me that maybe when I will 18 y.o. he can marry me. I got a really weird feeling(closer to bad feeling) to him. If ill be famous, he might be my husband by trying to have sexually contact (WHICH WILL NEVER HAPPEN) and that way be rich together.
just a though

kk oxoxoxoxoxoxx

[Underground_Network]

AWKWARD... but possible... Get him out of your life as quickly as possible. This guy is a pedophile, and for exposing himself to you, he can get some serious jailtime, go to someone before he gets in your head, or possibly into your pants.

[punkvegita]

Deleted By AC.wakebordin.06 For A Rude Remark.

[schrei jess]

Deleted By AC.wakebordin.06 For A Rude Remark.

If you dont have anything HELPFUL to say, then DONT SAY IT at all.

[Bobby]

He was given an infraction

[punkvegita]

bobby ill do the same to you if you dont shut up

[schrei jess]

bobby ill do the same to you if you dont shut up

Deary, Bobby is a moderator and can give you an infraction - you are a regular member, brand new at that - and cant do anything, so you should be quiet.

[punkvegita]

well you like guys who look like girls and wear girl pants so you better be quiet

[schrei jess]

well you like guys who look like girls and wear girl pants so you better be quiet

I sure do, but I wont be quiet about it - Ill tell the world - I LOVE GUYS WHO LOOK LIKE GIRLS AND WEAR GIRL PANTS - YEAHHH!

[Bobby]

Stop. Stop. Don't post in this topic unless you have something to help the original poster.

[ViolinPro]

guys, this is no help to me, not being rude, but this is a serious question, and youre talking about something else. go to the chat place. PLZ dont thinkim being rude

kk xoxoxoxoxox

[schrei jess]

Sorry hun!

Like I said earlier you need to do something immediately. Please dont be afraid to talk to someone you trust, or someone like a school counselor. You do not have to let this continue, he has no right to do what he is doing no matter how much help he has given your family. I highly advise you to see a school counselor as soon as possible to get this taken care of, he has no right to sexually exploit you no matter what he gives you.

[thesphinx]

yes please talk to some one!

[football]

man i would deff like tell him 2 lay off and watch urself u never know wut he can do i would have to tell my mom this guys could be hostile to you

[Gamebreaker]

Er, tell your mom to evict him. Also sue him for abuse.

[ViolinPro]

thnks for advice, but I STILL cant. you cant believe how much he has done for us. u cant believe.... and hes been nice
but sometiemes his rude

P.S. how do you put a photo or a video under your smiley membership???

kk xoxoxoxox

[Underground_Network]

Um... although off topic, to get a picture under your smiley (an avatar), go to usercp, look under settings and options, and click edit avatar. You can then upload a picture, or find one on any site on the internet, pending appropriateness and size.

[Wiszbone77]

Call Ze Police!

[Kamloops.man]

Ok seriously you have to call the police, this should not happen
he is
1. Exposing a minor to pornography
2. Trying to MAYBE [[I'm not saying most likely it might be]] rape you...
3. Exposing a minor to illegal pornography [[as in luring you in when masturbating]]
CALL THE POLICE

[ViolinPro]

OH SHIT (im so sorry ppl and mods) but this is just... Im so UNCOMFORtable right now. oh shit.... look what happened an hour ago. My mom went away, and I was practicing my violin when my eye started hurting and I wanted to wash it. So the bathroom door was open and it looked as if nobody was there. When I ran in the bathroom, I was him, putting his pants very quickly, I kind of saw his (male part) but thanks god he didnt know that. Then he started talking very fast to me he said, "You know I just want to be comfortable, youre just scared. Youre scared to see my dick, here look at it". and I tried to pretend my eye REALLY hurts, and I started washing it with full speed and crying that something got in my eye. I than ran into my room, and he followed me, telling me the same thing. oh f***k!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I cant believe it... Previously he was exoposing himself and masturbating with his door open. NOW hes trying me to look at his MALE PART!!!!!!!!! I feel so bad and tight now... oh shit
Im sorry, im really sorry, but if you would be in my place... i hope you will NEVER BE!

[Underground_Network]

Wow, get help NOW! We can't just go to your house and kick this guy's ass, I mean, I would if I could. But no matter what good deeds he has performed, call the police. Get him in trouble, I don't give a fuck if he gives you a million dollars every tuesday, he's fucking up your childhood, and what do they say? Something like childhood is supposed to be a time of joy and fun. Go have fun, you don't need this pedophile scaring you half to death. Living with fear and paranoia can be damaging to you not only emotionally but physically. Do you want to live your life in fear? Call the police. Send this guy to jail. Someone in your household has to do the right thing. Since this guy can't seem to realize he's doing anything wrong, your the one who has to step up and screw him over. Its up to you to save yourself. Your superman, and you have to save Clark Kent... You get me? You've already let this go to far, don't let it go any further. Please, call the police, at this point there's nothing else you can do. For all you know, next time you see him trying to reveal his "male part", he might force you down and rape you. You always have to be prepared for the worst, and when you can stop this possible act of evil from happening, you must, and in this case you can stop him before he goes to far. Don't let this go too far, or I promise you, with all my heart, you will regret it. I don't want to make you feel bad, I just want you to realize the cold hard truth. I don't think someone like you deserves to punished for doing nothing wrong, and in reality, by not calling the police, your punishing yourself, allowing harm to come to you. Don't let him violate you. Fuck him over by calling the cops on his ass. Call the cops, trust me, no one is going to say any different, no one is going to teleport to your house, shoot him to death, and along with his body, mysteriously disappear. CALL THE COPS!!!!!!

[waldor]

I wonder what ever happened to this girl, she hasnt been on in a week. hope she called the police and got that sick asshole sent to jail

[ViolinPro]

Im sorry guys, I just have been busy lately, so.... u know.
GUYS IM SOOOO FREAKING HAPPY>>>>
oh im crying.. from happiness
im moving to another state in the east coast, and I wont be seeing this asshole anymore!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!! im so happy... guys thank you for ur advices, but this is even better, thank you thank you thank you

[ViolinPro]

by the way i forgot to tell u that he looks at pornography right? but not only women... he especially looks at GIRLs LITTLE FUC*ING GIRLS. about 11-15 years old ITS BAD
anyway, IM MOVING YEAHEYAHEY im skipping and singing lalalalalala
heheee im moving moving moving moving and once again MOVING

[Ironic Infidel In England]

Good for you! that guy's a paedo and it's good your getting away from him! (however, don't double post, just edit your last post)

[Underground_Network]

by the way i forgot to tell u that he looks at pornography right? but not only women... he especially looks at GIRLs LITTLE FUC*ING GIRLS. about 11-15 years old ITS BAD
anyway, IM MOVING YEAHEYAHEY im skipping and singing lalalalalala
heheee im moving moving moving moving and once again MOVING

Hmmm, I live on the east coast... But anyways, where does he get pics of 11-15 years olds naked? Thats completely illegal. So either he's been taking pictures of them, or he knows of an illegal porn site. You should have gotten this guy arrested... But its good to hear you're getting away from him. :yeah:

[waldor]

i agree you should call the police and tell them everything so he will have to register as a sex offender and so he will never do this to someone else. talk to the police they are there to help with these sort of things and he needs to be punished!!!

[Underground_Network]

Yeah, don't let him do this again, you know what he makes you feel like, what if he does something worse to a girl around your age? Trust the guilt will hurt more than any physical pain. If you still have the chance, turn this guy in, he might not be able to hurt you any more, but that doesn't mean he won't find a new victim.

[Xull]

So I am totally confussed!Did she call the cops or not?

[waldor]

we dont know yet. as of right now no but i hope she does

[Gumleaf]

i think we should leave violinpro to make her own decision on what to do. i think we all have strong opinions, which is great. but we wern't their and we didn't see or hear what was happening so i think its her decision whether she tells anyone or not. i think we should let her enjoy the fact that she will be getting away from this animal rather then try and make her feel guilty. you all may not agree, but thats my opinion.

[ViolinPro]

I just had a question. do any of u guys have a serious problem?

oh yeah, and thank you trigger.

[Xull]

i think we should leave violinpro to make her own decision on what to do. i think we all have strong opinions, which is great. but we wern't their and we didn't see or hear what was happening so i think its her decision whether she tells anyone or not. i think we should let her enjoy the fact that she will be getting away from this animal rather then try and make her feel guilty. you all may not agree, but thats my opinion.

Good idea, I did not think of that.
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@ violinpro,
no..why?

[kikicupkake]

sorry for my lang. but kick his ass you shouldn't have to put up with that. tell you mom ya it's going to be embarasing but it the right thing to do but if you mom doesn't beleive you talk to you school counsaler then maby the police becase your a miner (under the age of 18) so he can do some ..... never mind a lot of jail time becase he is hrassing you and tring to git it you pants. O, and if know one belives you vido tape him then go to the police becase you have avadents. well i hope that will help you (sorry for my lang, kick that son of a mother fuckers ass hard for me that dame molester is trying to get in you pants so kick his ass hared well sorry agin to all that read this for my lang)

[waldor]

I believe that is is fully her choice of whether to tell someone or not but no matter how embarressing it would be you need to go to your mom or the police and tell them. What if he does this to someone else and that person never tells and so on. He needs to be punished violinpro and you the only one that can do it. What if he did this to someone before you? Dont you think you would have wanted them to tell the police so he wouldnt have had a chance to do the same to you? All i am saying is that he might do this to someone else and scar them for the rest of their lives. I am sorry if i am coming across as mean but it needs to be done.

[Iron]

A sick, dememnted, low-life pervert is what your dealing with.
Continue to ignore and find as many people who you don't feel uncomfortable with to try and help you.
e;g School Counsellor, Parents, Guardians, Grandparents,

I would suggest contacting the police and just telling them discreetly what he's doing, as long as the point is brought across

[MoA117]

Either tell your mom about this or tell the police about this immediately!! Money doesn't matter in this case. This man could go and rape little boys and girls if you don't do something!!!

[I'm cool like spongebob]

tell the police

[Lifesreject]

I dont no about in the states but in the UK there is a special number called childline where kids can call and talk to a couniller about things its totally confidential and they can give you advice and help you its really good.

[Crazysam]

WHATEVER IT TAKES TELL YOUR MUM EVERYTHING (EXACTLY WHAT YOU'VE TOLD US) WHEN UR DAD IS OUT RUN PREFERBALLY WITH YOUR MUM STRAIGHT TO THE POLICE STATION AND TELL THEM EVERYTHING!

its quite obvious that this man has a problem and is a pervert and it is your duty to stop him before he bocomes abusive!

[Maverick]

tell the police
Don't bump old threads especially when you have nothing constructive to add to them

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