Left it too long?

[clr9823]

Right, so there was this guy who I was very close with for about eight months. It started (well, had a crush on him for three years but this is what started these events) with one joking leg rug from me... this had led to us flirting almost every time we saw each other. This would range from simply giggling, smiling or staring into each others eyes, to having him rest his leg on my lap during class.

Basically, it reached a climax this Christmas when we were at the cinema with the school. We were sharing a sofa with a couple other people, and I had my arm around him and he was resting his head on my shoulder for a bit. Near the end of the film, he looks at me, points to his cheek and says "go on, do it". I jokingly ask what he wants, and when I realise he's serious... I leave it for a second too long, a mate asks us what we're doing and the moment's ruined.

Despite this however he always left a doubt in my mind. He hung around with a pretty homophobic crowd, and would often go "Are you gay or something? Get away from me!" in a joking way, and the time I kinda asked him he denied being gay....

So basically, was there something, and if there was something then would it be worth asking now despite things cooling off between us?

[Tristin.]

hmm, i think he might be scared ot come out, but he sounds gay or bi. and yes, i think you left it too long im afraid :(

[Dimitri]

I beleive if you really think, in your heart that there was something there, that you seriously trust yourself and you think you can handle it then go and ask him. Sit down and talk to him and let him know you are serious and not playing around.

[clr9823]

Yeah I trust myself. I'd rather have a definitive "no" than an everlasting "maybe", being outed isn't a problem for me as (thanks to a backstabbing friend) most people think I am already, and I know I just described the physical shiz but the stuff we talked about was... deeper than all but what the very best of friends would talk about. He's getting back from Honduras next week, so I've resolved either to tell him how I feel or just drop it forever. If he says I left it too long then... well, deal with that when I get to it.

[Dimitri]

You can do it, I have faith.