Child Custody/Visitation and Father's Rights

[ShyGuyInChicago]

Often a mother gets custody which makes sense since the mother is the one who carries the child and it is seen that the mother has more of a right to keep her child. Some feel that fathers are often denied custody even when they would be a better parent than the mother. Also, there are complaints of mothers denying fathers visitation for whatever reason. Some say that it is sexist to always give women custody. Some propose that if both parents are fit then automatic joint custody should be granted.

[User Deleted]

I say if the parents are fucked up enough to have a kid and divorce that neither of them should have custody. The child should always have the choice for them self. But at a young age they have no input. So I suggest default should be is that they just live with their grandparents until they are old enough to meet their parents.

[DerBear]

That would not work vulpus

now i feel that this is an issue like for example i think they should take into account 3 factors why the divorce is happening....who has the most stable enviorment....and who if better money wise .... as wtihout all 3 of these things it is hard to make a good life for a child

[Unlucky_Leprechaun]

Often the courts do not know enough about the individual situations to render a true and just verdict (overloaded dockets, etc...) and the judge assumes that the lawyers have the best interest in mind and often that is not what the child desires. The children, if old enough to have witnessed abuse or other things in the household should have some type of input into their future, regardless of age.
Fathers are often left out and yet, are still expected to bear the blunt of the financial burdens.. now supporting two separate households .
The burden truly falls on the judge to make the best call for what he/she thinks but often it is based on sexist beliefs that the mom is the best for the child and truthfully that isn't the case all the time.
I think that the child should have some say and that the decision should be based on what is best for the child and re-looked upon annually or ever so often by the judge since situations change. The child's well being should be number one regardless of the feelings or who has hired the best,most expensive attorney to defend them

[TheMatrix]

I say let the child choose.
Although the child may make an unwise decision, there could be a "weekly status update", in which the child must say exactly what happened in the time period after the last call. If the child's account states abusive stuff or the child requests it, the child will be switched.
Might work, though probably expensive.

[Sporadica]

For ever child custody case I see, probably 1 out of 20 the man gets custody and without a doubt our justice system is sexist. People always think that women can be better people, but what about this whole thing with Casey Anthony where she doesn't report child missing for ages ect.

I saw a screen-cap from a feminist website where a man made an account for his wife and here is a script i made, now these aren't exact quotes, just off of memory

Man - "is this a good site for me and my wife to discuss matters? we've just had a child" or something along those lines
Admin - "its a good site, but you're not welcome here because you're a man"
man - "is it not possible to be sexist against men?"
Admin - "yes!, its not, sexism is a way that men to be superior over women, now you're understanding"