I'm bi and having a issue

[Bufalo]

So I'm bi and having a boy problem, so I met him at a party and just fell in love. Like I really want to be with him and be apart of his life. But we just met like two days ago and I got his number (FUCK YES). I was so nervous to ask but I drank a little and built up the courage. But I feel like I'm smothering him already. I always start the text out, like he doesn't start the conversation. But he is gay not bi, I'm kinda the man ya know. But I wonder how I should talk to him? Should I give him space or what?

[Tenoramic]

Since he is gay, not straight, so things won't be crazy. Just take it slow. One day at a time, text time once awhile and not text him 20 times a day.

[lolimbrando]

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[AltoVaughn]

I always feel like I'm starting conversations too, It's something that bothers me. Some people just are not good at initiating conversation. By the way don't tell him you think your the "Man". If I was him it would piss me the fuck off.

[DJZS]

Just take it slow :)

[Mynameisconner]

I think constant conversation is good as long as it's not all dead end responses. Also if the want to respond is mutual for each of you. I would just not try to impale yourself on him, start it off as you would someone you'd be able to introduce to your grandparents. Regarding respect and consideration. I'm sure everything will turn out great if you follow all of these people's advice.

[Magenta]

If you think you're smothering him, try backing off a bit and see what happens. Sometimes things just need a bit of a change for them to progress further. Often, taking things slow can work out better than rushing into them.

Definitely, like some people have said, it's harder for one person to start the conversation. If that's the issue then don't worry about it. Maybe if you text a little less, it'll prompt him to start up a conversation. He may feel that he doesn't need to.

See what happens. It'll pan out somehow. :)

[Bufalo]

thank you for the messages everyone, it worked out and were talking. i dont text everyday but we talk here and there. hes always working and we never hang out. it sucks, but i cant force him ya know, everything with sort it self out.


......i hope

[prob1996]

Sounds like it will. Just like everyone says take it slow, rt now ur talking--it's a great start. I'm sure you'll be hanging out soon enough. Some people just take longer getting comfortable with stuff than others.

[Philleeep]

Why dont you just find out when hes free so you can hang out yanno

[Bufalo]

he works constanly, he works at nordstrom haha. but ill try and go have lunch with him one of these days.