Too sensitive/sweet?

[Gir1337]

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[LuckyLuke]

We'll, short summary of who I am, I'm 13. I'm athletic, funny, cool and attractive. I don't mean to offend anyone, but I'm one of the really popular guys at my school. I think of myself as a 8.7-9 out of 10 in looks etc. I get compliments from girls all the time. But I just kinda say thanks and shrug it off cause I only go for girls that are like, extremely pretty etc. This is recent btw, I started talking to one like 3 months ago after I moved to this new school. "I lived in the area and went to elementary school there so I knew people" Started talking, just got to know here, etc. Just to hint to her that I really like her I always tell her that she's beautiful etc. Call her bae every once in awhile etc. Just REALLY sweet like I always am with girls that I like. We kinda start getting to know each other really well etc. Then I find out that she's also talking to this other guy she just kinda met. So she goes out with him 3 days later when we've been getting to know each other for a month or so and they go out after 3 days. I felt like a slap in the face so I shrugged it off a little but I wanted to fight the dude, don't ask me why, just no reason. I was talking to his boy and got em to come to the park, we fought and I beat him pretty baddly, he had a really black eye and i busted his nose to where his face was pretty much all bloody and then stopped and just was like later. She said she wasn't mad at me so I was like sweet. They broke up but it wasnt till like 5 days after they broke up that I found out. And In the mean time when I didn't know she was talking to this other dude. Met her at the park for like 15 mins just to say hey cause I had to go and gave her a hug and left. Then they went out that night. She said it was just bad timing that I tried to go out with her when she's been knowing these other guys longer. Then they broke up. She started talking to my best friend lol, then they made out a few times. And they stopped talking a few days ago. Now its been like, she hasnt really texted me back etc or anything idk. But the whole reason I just wrote all of that was to say is that because I'm too sweet? Cause this has happend with like 2 other girls. Like, I know how my best friend talks to girls and he isn't the sweetest but he just says things like you're fine/sexy, and like just overall a regular guy, not sweet like me.

Sorry for all that, just wanted to give some background info


Alright, where the hell do I start!? I'm going to be lecturing a bit, I'm sorry :(, but it's kind of necessary...

- DON'T FIGHT! What the hell!? You weren't even going out with the girl and because he made a move before you did you decide to hurt him?! Honestly, I know you're 13 (we'll get there in a second) but you need to control your emotions better. Fighting people is NEVER the answer. If you can't end an argument with words, the cowards way out is a punch. P.S., this is coming from a New Yorker, and if I'm saying it- it's damn well true.

- YOU'RE THIRTEEN! Honestly, this girl seems like a breeze, she's always changing directions! The fact that she wasn't annoyed that you attacked her boyfriend is, well, morally reprehensible on her part and the fact that she's dating another guy a matter of days after her boyfriend got assaulted and broke up w/ her for "GD KNOWS WHAT REASON" is even worse! IS SHE REALLY WORTH THIS!? Frankly, she seems like a betch.

- "I'm nearing a 9 on the hot scale but I only go after girls that are extremely pretty".. if you're going after girls JUST BECAUSE THEY'RE ATTRACTIVE, you're going to get hurt much, much worse than this.

- As for the "too sweet thing", well the bullet above makes me think that this is nothing to worry about. That being said, you seem to be innately more gentle on the inside than you appear to be. You seem to WANT to get to know the girl before you ask her out but, seeing as you're going after the likely slutty girls, they don't care much about this. For the woman you seem to want to go out with, you need to be quick, blunt, and to the point. The second you semi-know them, ask them out.

I don't condone you asking out people because of their appearance and I, quite frankly, find it wrong. If you're dating someone I FEEL it should be because of who they are rather than the skin sack that they travel with.

[Gir1337]

I knew it was gonna make her look slutty, but they went out for a month, i fought him like the 3rd day they were going out, i'll post more later, i'm kinda busy :S

[Gir1337]

But yea, shes not 100% slutty. I just feel I lose girls attention because I'm too nice.

[mayerrose96]

A little.

[VamosToro]

It's what LuckyLuke said, you are going for the wrong people. You seem like a deeper person than the people your going for. They are looking for someone quick and easy, don't fall into that though and give them what they want because you could be putting yourself at risk. Keep your morals.