how can you tell your friend that your bi if your scared you'll lose him

[jose1010]

i kinda want to tell my friend im bi but he's not really the type of person who would take it well so what should i do ahh help please, you guys should write your storys might help me thanks

[Magenta]

I told my story on another thread. Personally, I'm not bi but my best friend is. She told me by asking me out, haha. She was rather brave about it.

If you really want to tell him, maybe if he has questions, you could answer them? Often people don't take things well because they really don't understand. However, if you make the option of learning open to him, it'll be fine.

If he doesn't accept you for who you are, sadly, he's not a true friend.

[CaliKid24]

let him know that u arent a different person, but tell him that he just knows more aboout u now.

[Mynameisconner]

From personal experience, you just have to let them know. It will burden you until you do it. I kept it on a personal level with the friends I decided to tell. Every single one that I told took it very well, and have not treated me differently.
Family on the other hand; My mother treats me a little skeptically, and I don't really enjoy it, but that's not to say your friends would do that. I recieved no complete negative intentions from anyone that I told. Let me know if you need anything!

[Default]

There is no sure fire way of knowing if your friend will accept you or not.

Unfortunately this means the only way to know they won't reject you and you effectively lose them is to not tell them. Obviously this is not ideal so I suggest you try and hint at the possibility of you being attracted to the same-sex maybe in a joking way.

After testing the water you can decide if you want to let them know your sexuality or not.

[jose1010]

I told my story on another thread. Personally, I'm not bi but my best friend is. She told me by asking me out, haha. She was rather brave about it.

If you really want to tell him, maybe if he has questions, you could answer them? Often people don't take things well because they really don't understand. However, if you make the option of learning open to him, it'll be fine.

If he doesn't accept you for who you are, sadly, he's not a true friend.

yea your right but you see we were rased to belive that like the same sex is not accetable at all idk its wierd ahhh but your right on he might not be a true friend, but i just dont know what i would do if i lost him i know if i tell him he well tell his parents and then his parents mine and im sure i will never be treated the same way i have a strong feeling about it

[jose1010]

let him know that u arent a different person, but tell him that he just knows more aboout u now.

yea i wish it was that easy ahh but nope, but i might do that with another friends who is way diffrent matter lol

[jose1010]

There is no sure fire way of knowing if your friend will accept you or not.

Unfortunately this means the only way to know they won't reject you and you effectively lose them is to not tell them. Obviously this is not ideal so I suggest you try and hint at the possibility of you being attracted to the same-sex maybe in a joking way.

After testing the water you can decide if you want to let them know your sexuality or not.

that is how i feel and i do play around and thats just it they think im playing around ahhh it sucks

[jose1010]

From personal experience, you just have to let them know. It will burden you until you do it. I kept it on a personal level with the friends I decided to tell. Every single one that I told took it very well, and have not treated me differently.
Family on the other hand; My mother treats me a little skeptically, and I don't really enjoy it, but that's not to say your friends would do that. I recieved no complete negative intentions from anyone that I told. Let me know if you need anything!

i know what you mean about burden because sometimes i just want to say out load that some guy is cute or hot, but i can because they dont know and it makes it so hard because i see how they look at other gay or bi guys, with this face that idk it just kills me everytime i see that because i think that by the look on their faces it tells me how they would be like if i told them im bi. i know what i need, i need gay or bi friends that i can text with i feel so alone but i know im not because i have my friends but i just feel kinda empty because i have no friend that is just like me

[Dack]

If he really is your friend, when you tell him, he will not run away, but instead he'll accept you. Just don't be creepy about it and it should be fine bro.

[HaydenM]

mm one of my best mates recently came out, i have nothing against it. If he is a real friend he will be fine about it. If you have a thing for him it could be abit awkward (as it would even be in a heterosexual relationship).

[sarahtheweber]

I recommend telling him in a place with no people. That way he has a chance to freak if he needs to. You should stress that your not interested in him that way (if your not) so he calms down more. Try to have a civil discussion about it.

[CaliKid24]

yea i wish it was that easy ahh but nope, but i might do that with another friends who is way diffrent matter lol

I did that for a few of my friends, they were shocked at first but everything stayed the same.

[jose1010]

I recommend telling him in a place with no people. That way he has a chance to freak if he needs to. You should stress that your not interested in him that way (if your not) so he calms down more. Try to have a civil discussion about it.

haha yea problam there i kinda do like him a little lol