How do you know...

[Extreme586]

when someone who is the same sex as you likes you as more than a friend?
I was thinking over this year and how well it went as well as the ups and downs I had. The person I am into is a guy who had the same class as me and we didn't know each other at all until this year. Through the year I barely said two words to him, I just find it unusually hard to talk to the person you like for fear of saying the wrong thing so I kind of shut him out this year.

We sat next to each other always talking to the people on either side of us rather than each other but now that I think about it he did some strange things this year. He has layed on my shoulder to hide something on the floor inbetween us (it was something of someone else's), he has layed on my lap to pick things up he has dropped, he has randomly done funny things when he wasn't being surround by his friends between the two of us and I smiled/laughed every time.

Now I don't want to make the assumption that he isn't completely straight off of little things like this but it just doesn't make complete sence to me why someone like him (very cool kind person) would go out of his way to even acknowledge me, a very shy person who barely has said two words to him through out the entire year. He has all the friends he could want, very cool popular people who have nothing but good things to say about him. So why did he do these things this year and what do you think it means, am I over thinking this?

[Magenta]

Obviously, the best way to find out is to ask him. I'm not the best at interpreting actions really...

I can see how that would be difficult though if you don't know him that well. Is there any mutual friend you know who you could ask? There are risks though to asking a third party as they could tell this guy or he could find out and not appreciate it very much.

If you really want to know, maybe casually bring it up in conversation.

Also, don't ever think you're not good enough for someone's attention. Lots of people think that the "cool" people are the ones everyone goes for but that's not true. You have your own qualities that people will like and notice. :)

I don't think you're over-thinking this, just curious. Good luck and sorry I couldn't help more.

[Extreme586]

Thanks you helped out a bunch, I guess the only real way I will ever know is if I ask him personally instead of trying to decide meaning out of signs. Though I must say this summer is really dragging along, I can't wait too see him again so we can find out more about each other.

Edit: As for asking a third person, I really don't think that would work. I feel like it would raise unecessary questions and suspicion. If it ever got back to him without me talking to him first it would probably throw him in the wrong direction, I would rather just ask him myself and keep it between us.

[Unlucky_Leprechaun]

Is there anyway to contact him during the summer...just start txt-ing or a phone call one a week-- or do you think he would freak out?
After that maybe a meet at the mall or go see a movie? Just casually let him know that you think hes fun to be around... let things go slow of course... but it sounds like he might be interested...just trying to figure stuff out also...curious..esp when you said of his friends weren't around.
I'm similar to you... pretty shy overall and have had some "crushes" but was always chicken to say something to them for fear of rejection or humiliation.
Good luck

[Extreme586]

I like the idea of checking in with him every now and then, but it just doesn't feel like we are even that close... But who cares, I'm bored as hell and have been thinking about him non stop so maybe I will wait until he's on facebook next or something and just ask what he's been up to and just catch up and what not.

As for some of the things he has done, like lay his head on my shoulder, he did that just at random in the middle of class, he didn't look to well that day/ looked kinda tired and I was shocked out of even saying something. I turned my head to look at him but just turned slowly back because I honestly was brain locked for a while after that.

I can't wait for the summer to be over though because I have changed my life style a bit and hopefully it will make it easier to go about socializing in general and even getting the guts to ask him to hang out with me. I feel like a different person since school ended and want to test myself out.

[LDK Ven]

sounds like he does strange stuff but its hard to know through here...
why dont you trust your intuition and judgement?

[Extreme586]

I don't like my judgment in this case, instead i will probably just come forth and try to have a detailed chat with him and just simply ask him why he even bothered with me this year. After all he has plenty of friends, and there are other kids he didn't treat the same as me yet i felt just as awkward as they seemed. I guess I will just have to wait for an answer, although it sucks cuz some nights I can't even sleep because I am so caught up in different emotions I get for him through out each day.