Any ideas on how to keep a relationship secret

[Ben Michael]

Yeah I just got in a relationship with my dream girl  and I was wondering if anybody had any ideas on how to keep our relationship secret from anyone especially my parents. The only person that knows about us is her closest friend and I trust her.


P.S. We text and FaceTime but we don't talk in person for the sake that my parents won't find out.

[Dog Desab]

Can you just act as though you two are good friends and hang out. I don't see why you can't have a relationship in public without telling either of your parents. What I mean is that other kids can know about the relationship but just leave your parents out of it. It's kind of pointless to be in a relationship without seeing the person in real life.

[Ben Michael]

I completely see your point and thank you for your help 

[Magenta]

Might I ask why you need to keep it a secret? Wondering if I could help in any other way other than just repeating the advice that you could pretend to be "just friends". However, while it's not a total lie, I think it would be better to find a positive way to approach the subject with your parents.

However, it is your choice to tell or not. :)

[DJZS]

Why do you want to keep it a secret?

[Derek951]

I gotta admit, I'm wondering too. Why would your parents have a problem with it.

But if you really really need to keep it secret, then the less people who know the better. Even if you tell friends, it could get back to your parents someway somehow. And don't save emails or texts. I know some parents can be snoopy.

[Ben Michael]

The reason why I need to keep it a secret is that my parents are total wack jobs they think that if I have a girlfriend that I'll have sex and I've tried to explain to them how its completely normal for guys to have a girlfriend and that I would hold off on the sex I'm 14 for craps sake and when they hear me say that they just get mad and throw a fit lol so that's why and the girl goes to church with me if one person at church found out.....they'd tell my mom and I'll be in crap up to my neck. And @ Derek I have to delete my all of our texts, my parents like to invade my privacy constantly which sucks lol

[Hope4u]

sorry that you're parents feel and act that way...just be cool and guess act like friends or whatever and maybe your parents will ease up on you after a while.

[Magenta]

Ouch, yeah, my mum was like that for awhile. As you get older, they'll back off a bit. They're trying to be protective because you're growing up and they don't want you to get caught in the heat of the moment (because, fine, I'll admit it as much as I disapprove, kids have sex at the age of fourteen or younger) and then possibly think of it as a mistake. They don't want that for you.

I remember my mum talking to me about whether or not I'd be off having sex now that I'm 16. Oh god, that was an awkward conversation. However, my mum had a point. She was telling me that she would be supportive but sure, she'd get in my face and bother me about it because when she first had sex (at my age o_O), she hated it and regrets it.

Don't worry about it. Just act like you're friends and when you're comfortable telling your parents, go for it.

[Derek951]

Do your parents have an age that they think will be ok to date? I know you like this girl a lot, but if you get caught your parents will be more strict than ever.