Who takes it more srsly? First kiss

[NeedyTeen]

I was thinking about this earlier what do guys think about their first kiss?
I know my first kiss will be something I will always cherish & remember - an important event in my life. But what about you guys? What r ur views on ur first kiss? Do you actually care more than girls?

guys & gals mention ur opinion & how ur first kiss went if u had it :)

[Hope4u]

I think in general that most girls take it more seriously..we look forward to it from the time we're little..we right about it in our diaries and talk about it with friends and things.

[LuckyLuke]

The first kiss of someones life is a major point because it's the step that leads from childhood to teenage/adulthood, perhaps not in the emotional sense, but most certainly in the physical sense. It also demonstrates who you care about, why you care about them, etc. It's a really nerve-racking step.

My first kiss I tried to make really romantic... It's a bit of a story, hold on ;)

My cousin had introduced me to a girl that goes to his school and participates in similar activities as I do. I really liked her so I began texting her every day and it was about a month later that I'd asked her out on a date and a few weeks after that, asked her to junior prom.

She said yes and was really excited and we continued dating (not official) before Junior Prom. So we met at her friend house for photos and she was wearing this beautiful, elegant, black dress from Betsy Johnson and I had on my white dress shirt. We talked and laughed the entire night and we went to a little after party at her friends house that consisted of everyone sitting in a bedroom watching youtube videos and talking. We sat next to one another the entire night, giving casual glances as the evening progressed.

The morning hours were starting to come upon us and my father said he was on his way and would park around the block. I asked her if she wouldn't mind following me outside and she said, "of course ;)". As we walked out and stood on the porch under the stars I took one step down to be only slightly taller than her and said, "I had a really nice time tonight", she said she did as well, "You're friends are amazing too", thanks she replied. "May I kiss you?" I asked, and she said, "Of course" :wub:.... we leaned in and had our first kiss.

Definitely a perfect ending to a perfect evening. That was my first kiss and it was one of the best moments of my life because of the person I shared it with and how it was done. :whoops:



Please note that I'm a bit more "in touch" with my feminine side so I ted to be a bit more romantic than most guys. I'm confident enough with my masculinity that I can be that way ;)

[Scarlett93]

The first kiss of someones life is a major point because it's the step that leads from childhood to teenage/adulthood, perhaps not in the emotional sense, but most certainly in the physical sense. It also demonstrates who you care about, why you care about them, etc. It's a really nerve-racking step.

My first kiss I tried to make really romantic... It's a bit of a story, hold on ;)

My cousin had introduced me to a girl that goes to his school and participates in similar activities as I do. I really liked her so I began texting her every day and it was about a month later that I'd asked her out on a date and a few weeks after that, asked her to junior prom.

She said yes and was really excited and we continued dating (not official) before Junior Prom. So we met at her friend house for photos and she was wearing this beautiful, elegant, black dress from Betsy Johnson and I had on my white dress shirt. We talked and laughed the entire night and we went to a little after party at her friends house that consisted of everyone sitting in a bedroom watching youtube videos and talking. We sat next to one another the entire night, giving casual glances as the evening progressed.

The morning hours were starting to come upon us and my father said he was on his way and would park around the block. I asked her if she wouldn't mind following me outside and she said, "of course ;)". As we walked out and stood on the porch under the stars I took one step down to be only slightly taller than her and said, "I had a really nice time tonight", she said she did as well, "You're friends are amazing too", thanks she replied. "May I kiss you?" I asked, and she said, "Of course" :wub:.... we leaned in and had our first kiss.

Definitely a perfect ending to a perfect evening. That was my first kiss and it was one of the best moments of my life because of the person I shared it with and how it was done. :whoops:



Please note that I'm a bit more "in touch" with my feminine side so I ted to be a bit more romantic than most guys. I'm confident enough with my masculinity that I can be that way ;)

too cute XD I think you're right though, most guys are not this romantic... :(

[Sage]

It's flesh meeting flesh, and it happens all the time. Anything more than that is all in your head. Why people make such a big deal about it is entirely beyond me.

[Blue63]

Yes, a kiss is "flesh meeting flesh". There isn't a ton more to the physical aspect of it. But what makes it memorable, inspiring, enchanting is the emotion behind it. The innocent yet lustful craving for another. It's incredible.

It's also something I haven't had yet. While my friends are losing their virginity, I'm still waiting to kiss, or be kissed The first kiss is going to be something you remember, I want mine to be memorable, with someone I'll want to remember. Why rush it? I'm secure enough with myself not to care. Maybe I'm just romanticizing it, I'm not sure. Either way, yes, I think it's special. Do guys care more than girls? I think a lot of guys care more than they let on.

[Sage]

There isn't a ton more to the physical aspect of it. But what makes it memorable, inspiring, enchanting is the emotion behind it. The innocent yet lustful craving for another.

Hence "Anything more than that is all in your head," and not everyone's first kiss is innocent.

[LuckyLuke]

Hence "Anything more than that is all in your head," and not everyone's first kiss is innocent.

But it being "all in your head" is what it's all about! Of course it's all in your head! It's pure, unfiltered, raw emotion for the person that you care so deeply about that you can no longer restrain and must meet their lips with your own.

Sex can be just sex. Kissing, well, to me and to many people I know kissing is more than sex. Kissing expresses the desire, lust, admiration and perhaps even love that you have for someone. Kissing really isn't so much for physical pleasure as it is for emotional pleasure. As the saying goes, "the $5 hooker will do anything but kiss".

And as for some peoples first kiss not being "innocent", I'm sorry to hear that. Maybe you're not, but I certainly am. Everyone deserves that special moment.

[Blue63]

Sex can be just sex. Kissing, well, to me and to many people I know kissing is more than sex. Kissing expresses the desire, lust, admiration and perhaps even love that you have for someone. Kissing really isn't so much for physical pleasure as it is for emotional pleasure. As the saying goes, "the $5 hooker will do anything but kiss".


Haven't you guys seen Pretty Woman? :D

Yes, I agree. While sex is more instinctively intimate, kissing is more genuinely intimate. One can have sex with a stranger pure pleasure, but few people kiss strangers for pure pleasure. It's all the stuff in your head that makes it so incredible.

[Sage]

But it being "all in your head" is what it's all about! Of course it's all in your head! It's pure, unfiltered, raw emotion for the person that you care so deeply about that you can no longer restrain and must meet their lips with your own.

Sex can be just sex.

I just think a lot of people operate on a completely arbitrary double standard where something in your head can be the greatest thing in the known universe and something in your pants can just be something in your pants. With the right flowery language, I could easily make a one-night stand sound just as if not more romantic than touching someone elses' face with your own in highschool.

Romanticizing anything and everything only clouds one's view of reality and sets a lot of people up for horrible decisions. I'm genuinely bothered that nobody I know seems capable of pragmatically appreciating someone without sticking their heads up in the clouds.

People make affection out to be something grandiosely bigger than it really is, and everyone knows they're doing that, and nobody wants to come to terms with that reality.

Further on the matter: If any one gender (generally speaking, I think women care more) cares more about such things than the other, it's because society expects them to. This is the way things have always been, and I can't stand it.

[SuperSuraj]

I agree with sage, its just a kiss imo, like she said everything else is in your head.

[NeedyTeen]

Thanks for all the replies! :)

I must say the first story was too cute! I hope my first kiss is something like that.

"Further on the matter: If any one gender (generally speaking, I think women care more) cares more about such things than the other, it's because society expects them to. This is the way things have always been, and I can't stand it. "

That's what i wanted to know. we watch tv and see that women always care more and men don't, that's why i started this...to see if what society says is true. do boy generally not care because they don't, or because of society?

for me, i think your head has a great effect when it comes to kissing. (not that I would know lol) but it just seems that it does..

[Sage]

for me, i think your head has a great effect when it comes to kissing. (not that I would know lol) but it just seems that it does..

Not everybody feels something emotionally when they get intimate, either.

[Iris]

your body gets flooded with endorphins when you kiss. Of course there's a lot going on psychologically as well, but physically it's so much more than (for example) the casual touch of a handshake.

[LuckyLuke]

I just think a lot of people operate on a completely arbitrary double standard where something in your head can be the greatest thing in the known universe and something in your pants can just be something in your pants. With the right flowery language, I could easily make a one-night stand sound just as if not more romantic than touching someone elses' face with your own in highschool.

Romanticizing anything and everything only clouds one's view of reality and sets a lot of people up for horrible decisions. I'm genuinely bothered that nobody I know seems capable of pragmatically appreciating someone without sticking their heads up in the clouds.

People make affection out to be something grandiosely bigger than it really is, and everyone knows they're doing that, and nobody wants to come to terms with that reality.

Further on the matter: If any one gender (generally speaking, I think women care more) cares more about such things than the other, it's because society expects them to. This is the way things have always been, and I can't stand it.

- But you'd know in your head that that one night stand wasn't truly as fabulous as you were making it out to be. A kiss is something different for most people, a kiss can be special, magical, something that sex just, well, isn't.

- "Sticking their heads up in the clouds" is what young love is about... you don't have to make "stupid decisions" but young love is meant to be pure bliss, raw and unrivaled emotions that send your head into the clouds whenever you think about or are with the other person.

- Affection is supposed to be that, affection! You're demonstrating to the other person how much you care about them.

- Yes, I'd agree with you that women generally care more about it simply because society expects them too as long as the opposite is true, that men generally act that they don't care as much because society doesn't expect them to.

[Love.Hate]

Not everybody feels something emotionally when they get intimate, either.

I have to agree with this.. i guess its all about finding the right person, but so far for me it has been nothing more than a physical act.

My first kiss was truely horrible and put me off for ages.. years infact. I like reading all these romantic stories, but truthfully i cant see whats so special about it.

[Dog Desab]

I never really got kisses. Well when I'm sober, drunk I'm everywhere all over a person. Only time a kiss feels really special(personally) is during foreplay. A first kiss is more of a stepping stone than anything.

[superstar2067]

My first kiss was a month ago (I was 16 and still am). I was at this small party and the topic got onto how far each of us had been. When it came to me I sheepishly admitted I'd never had my first kiss. So my crush who happened to be there grabbed my neck and said "Get over here" and gave me my first kiss. We ended up making out for about 15 seconds and when we were done I was dumbstrucked and so happy but now that I look back at it I REALLY wish it went differently. I'll probably tell people in the future about my first 'sober' kiss which still hasn't happened :(