Abusive father please help!!!

[quackda93]

My dad is a good dad when he is sober... I guess. He provides well and he sends me to a good school. However, he constantly abuses me verbally and mentally, and sometimes physically. He calls me names like fag and good for nothing with a lot of loud swearing when I do something as small a forget to take out the trash. I can't even take a nap in my house because I fear I should be doing something to avoid him yelling at me. He's kicked me in the chest when taking a nap and poured cold water on me because I should have been less "useless" even though I had practice and a whole day of yard work. This stuff isnt too bad because he does this when he isnt drunk. Last February, while drunk, he threw a plate at my head with full force. Luckily I put my arm up in time and it hit my arm. But I was left with a compound fracture and was forced to have surgery and cast. He also hits me, kicks me, and always publicly humiliates me with his drunken/ high antics. When he is mad at me, he traps me and tells me to walk in front of him, but I can't because I am afraid he will hurt me. He then gets more angry and calls me names. Because I am so scared of him, I feel I cannot tell him the truth about anything if I do it wrong because he'll hurt me or something. When he finds out I lie, he gets mad at me anyway, but I get away with it sometimes. Right now, it's about 10:00 at night and I'm in the park because I am afraid to go home. By the way, my mom doesn't do anything to help the situations, it was her idea to back him up at the hospital and lie to the doctors about what really happened. I feel like there's no way out of this and I feel really stuck. He's so abusive when he's drunk/high/mad, but provides well when he's not (but he still is really mean). What should I do? When my grandma was in hospice and dying, he kept me from seeing her, making all kinds of trouble at home, and even telling my counselor at school all kinds of untrue and bad stuff about me, like I lie... but I only do it because I am scared of him, and my mom says not to tell about his abusiveness... I'm really stuck and want out... help!! Thanks for your time. Sorry it's so long.

[PoseidonX43]

this is very serios you need to tell someone! even if he is your father it is very wrong. vm me if u want to talk!

Sailer16

[MadManWithaBox]

You need to tell someone about that, as soon as. That is serious abuse.

[Love.Hate]

Like the others have said, tell someone. Sooner rather than later or he will only get worse.

:hug:

[Sith Lord 13]

School counselor or trusted teacher, as soon as possible. Someone needs to know what's going on.

[Hershey's Kisses]

Please tell someone now before you end up dying or being seriously injured . Call CPS or police or someone now because you are in danger ad your father should not be hurting you so severely or calling you useless and swearig viciously at you for no reason . If tou need someone to talk to , please message me but I can't send privte messages though .

[Chris25]

Ive had the same problem.. But i knew my dad loved me.. I told him if he doesnt stop i wpuld call the cops.. Stop him real fast! Idk if i would recommend this for it could cause him to get even more mad and take the fone away.. Im sry this is happeneing!! Butbif u ever need to talk im here 4 ya!!

[DJZS]

either go to the police or CPS. you need to do it.

[User Deleted]

Tell the police or something! Child abuse is illegal!

[Tenoramic]

I would seek out help immediately, call the cop right the way child abuse is illegal period.

[Allbutanillusion]

I just wanted to second what everyone else said. This is rather kind of scary. and unfortunate.

I never have understood why people like alcohol so much because it always seems cause people to do stupid things, it rips families apart and it causes many deaths. I don't want to and will never touch the stuff. I just don't understand the appeal.

[rukia_yua]

My dad is a good dad when he is sober... I guess. He provides well and he sends me to a good school. However, he constantly abuses me verbally and mentally, and sometimes physically. He calls me names like fag and good for nothing with a lot of loud swearing when I do something as small a forget to take out the trash. I can't even take a nap in my house because I fear I should be doing something to avoid him yelling at me. He's kicked me in the chest when taking a nap and poured cold water on me because I should have been less "useless" even though I had practice and a whole day of yard work. This stuff isnt too bad because he does this when he isnt drunk. Last February, while drunk, he threw a plate at my head with full force. Luckily I put my arm up in time and it hit my arm. But I was left with a compound fracture and was forced to have surgery and cast. He also hits me, kicks me, and always publicly humiliates me with his drunken/ high antics. When he is mad at me, he traps me and tells me to walk in front of him, but I can't because I am afraid he will hurt me. He then gets more angry and calls me names. Because I am so scared of him, I feel I cannot tell him the truth about anything if I do it wrong because he'll hurt me or something. When he finds out I lie, he gets mad at me anyway, but I get away with it sometimes. Right now, it's about 10:00 at night and I'm in the park because I am afraid to go home. By the way, my mom doesn't do anything to help the situations, it was her idea to back him up at the hospital and lie to the doctors about what really happened. I feel like there's no way out of this and I feel really stuck. He's so abusive when he's drunk/high/mad, but provides well when he's not (but he still is really mean). What should I do? When my grandma was in hospice and dying, he kept me from seeing her, making all kinds of trouble at home, and even telling my counselor at school all kinds of untrue and bad stuff about me, like I lie... but I only do it because I am scared of him, and my mom says not to tell about his abusiveness... I'm really stuck and want out... help!! Thanks for your time. Sorry it's so long.

sounds like my dad, actually...i've tried talking to people, and it's really hard, but well worth while. :) hang in there man

[Clum]

Tell someone dude! Your father sounds like an absoloute arsehole, tell the right authorities and you may never have to see him again. Alternativley, wait until your a bit older and just knock him one he'll never forget

[SOTRainbow]

In my opinion, if you tell someone, they will go and talk with your father : And that will probably get himself angry (Or make him realize what he's doing, and calm down).

So maybe you should talk to him very seriously, just try and don't say anything that would offend him, he's your father and even though he tells you those things : He loves you, and if you use the good words he will understand ;)

[Professional Russian]

yeah my dad did the same to me until i used his own force against him

[rukia_yua]

yeah my dad did the same to me until i used his own force against him

how do you do that??? :what:

[judahtics]

school should have noticed the bruises and with the fracture, well, the docs should have asked you what happened with your dad out of the room.

[Professional Russian]

[QUOTE=rukia_yua;1392491]how do you do that??? :what:[/QUOTE
I pulled a .380 on him and he just backed away and nothing else happened after that

[rukia_yua]

[QUOTE=rukia_yua;1392491]how do you do that??? :what:[/QUOTE
I pulled a .380 on him and he just backed away and nothing else happened after that

Is that a good thing though???

[dinosaur_go_rawr]

tell someone. Just because he's ur dad dosent meen u should have to put up with it.

Btw this is just my opinion but i think u shouldnt trust councilers. A girl was having bad issues at home and told the counciler and they put her in a mental institution. True story

[rukia_yua]

I definitely don't but they legally have to. To think that whatever she told them wouldn't is naive and stupid. You always have to consider the outcome of what you tell someone