First Time Sex

[Danielle]

Hi there,
Recently me and this guy I like have been trying to have vaginal sex. The problem is, he can only get the head in, and it hurts me like crazy! :( We've tried twice now. And yes, we used a fair amount of lubricant both times (as well as a condom -- safe sex is important). I'm scared that we won't be able to have penetrative sex. When I masturbate, I don't insert any objects because it's never really felt pleasant for me, and I'm afraid something is wrong with me where I'm not sexually normal like everyone else...
Did anyone else have this problem their first time, and if so, how do I overcome it? :(

[mrbob360]

is going to hurt for you first time anyway all you can do is get him to stick in slowly and leave it in for a ltitle i know it hurts but its the only way and the other two questions i have to ask does he finger you before putting it in and roughly how big is his penis?

[Danielle]

is going to hurt for you first time anyway all you can do is get him to stick in slowly and leave it in for a ltitle i know it hurts but its the only way and the other two questions i have to ask does he finger you before putting it in and roughly how big is his penis?

He fingered me once last time before trying to put it in. I think he only did one finger but I wasn't really paying much attention to how many at the time (lol). It didn't hurt at all. After we tried penetration that time and stopped, he went back to eating me out and tried to finger me again but he tore my vagina a little bit from trying to stick it in and touched the tear when he started fingering again, and he saw I was in pain and stopped. His penis is about 6 inches and kinda thick but not like, monstrous.

[Trickster]

Sex is always either awkward or painful the first time no matter how much u study it. I think what u got is nerves that is making it hurt. If your nervous your gonna be WAY more tight down there. So some people are unable to have sex especially for anal if their nervous the first time. What u have to do is RELAX. at first it will hurt but u have to relax and itll go away. DOnt force it in if it become unbearable but having sex is like having a shot. U gotta brace ur self and itll all be over soon (well i hope not too soon for sex) but the pain part will be. Try not to have sex the next time but make love so you will be more comofrtable and relaxed

[Danielle]

Sex is always either awkward or painful the first time no matter how much u study it. I think what u got is nerves that is making it hurt. If your nervous your gonna be WAY more tight down there. So some people are unable to have sex especially for anal if their nervous the first time. What u have to do is RELAX. at first it will hurt but u have to relax and itll go away. DOnt force it in if it become unbearable but having sex is like having a shot. U gotta brace ur self and itll all be over soon (well i hope not too soon for sex) but the pain part will be. Try not to have sex the next time but make love so you will be more comofrtable and relaxed

Thanks! Yeah I don't really FEEL nervous when I'm doing it but I think maybe I'm just not consciously noticing I'm tensing up and not relaxing.

[mrbob360]

if you goolge foreplay and sex and find about the techniques and stuff like that might help as we cant discuss techniques on here

[ShatteredWings]

Hmmm i think this fits better in p101.

To questions for boys and girls, ONWARD

[AnonymousUser]

Have you broken your hymen? (popped cherry in slang)


If no, then you're gonna have to break it if you want penetration, it's gonna hurt and you're probably gonna bleed

[Danielle]

if you goolge foreplay and sex and find about the techniques and stuff like that might help as we cant discuss techniques on here

Yeah I've looked up some stuff but it doesn't really help. I think just going slower and waiting until it doesn't hurt as bad so he can move deeper will be key.

Have you broken your hymen? (popped cherry in slang)


If no, then you're gonna have to break it if you want penetration, it's gonna hurt and you're probably gonna bleed

Yeah I've broken it a long time ago, I believe. If I hadn't he wouldn't have been able to get the head inside, or would've torn it doing so (I didn't feel any tearing as described when the hymen breaks).

[Kisha]

I have this same problem :( and I just haven't put myself in the position to try it again

[Danielle]

I have this same problem :( and I just haven't put myself in the position to try it again

Well I'm going to keep trying so if I find something that works for me, I'll let you know. :)

[Dog Desab]

Just tell him to go slow. You'll get used to it

[Pancakes]

Yer gonna have to scream through it for it too get stretched out and good. :P

[Brooks]

Yer gonna have to scream through it for it too get stretched out and good. :P

You have no idea how it works... It should NEVER be this painful.

[smilee098]

It probably has a bit to do with the fact that it is your first time and you're probably nervous. You need to stay fairly relaxed when its happening or else your muscles will be tense and it will be painful. Let him finger you with a couple fingers and get you aroused so it won't be as painful when it is time for that.

[Alice]

The main thing is relax. It really shouldn't hurt that much.

[Danielle]

It probably has a bit to do with the fact that it is your first time and you're probably nervous. You need to stay fairly relaxed when its happening or else your muscles will be tense and it will be painful. Let him finger you with a couple fingers and get you aroused so it won't be as painful when it is time for that.

Sounds logical, and will do.

The main thing is relax. It really shouldn't hurt that much.

Yeah that's what people have been telling me. I guess I'll just have to not think about it so much, have him go slower, etc.

[youngemma520]

take it easy.

[AHSboy]

Have you tried taking a hot shower or bath to loosen the muscles? If not, give that a try. (hope I'm not replying late)

[SeanM1997]

It will hurt the first time you have sex. Just take it slowly and and gradually go faster.