a story and a confusing question lol

[redmann]

Ok here is it all. I am Gay. well at least i am basically 99% sure i am. i am 17 and almost over puberty so i really think that excuse is not an option anymore at this point in my life. My counselor tells me to not label myself yet but honestly deep down i really extremly doubt that i am straight. and besides to be perfectly honest i act like way feminine. And i dont really want to change, i kind of like being gay. So basically i seriously, like very seriously doubt im straight. Which brings me to my question, i have lately been having a very strong urge to just tell everyone im gay. idk what brought it on but i just want to stop hiding. i am so fucking sick of hiding who i really am. Also i want to start a gay club at my school for people who have gone through the same thing i have and idk i just really feel like i should come out. like all the time i just want to tell everyone. idk what to do any advice would help ( and seriously no hormone shit answers please )

[Extreme586]

Ultimately its your decision whether you tell anyone or not. I personally wouldn't for a couple of reasons. There are always going to be those people who are going to try and make your life miserable or try to put you down for who your are, especially something this touchy. Second, I feel like the only person who would ever need to know is the person I care for in the first place. This would solve the teasing/immature attitudes your sure to get while at the same time you get to be who you are around that special someone. Bottom line is it's nobody's business but your own so why not keep it between you and your partner? Just my personal opinion of the matter atm, who knows, maybe in two years I'll feel the same way as you but for now this is sticking.

[thebgsamuel]

i am 13 and bi but i wanted to tell someone so i told one of my friends but he did not believe me anyway so what ever do what you want say it to every one! but some people might tease you or annoy you about it but don't hide who you are or you are going to be even more miserable and you will know by telling your friends who your real friends are!

[Trickster]

You have been living not true to yourself unknowingly. I think once we finally figure out who we are espeically if were gay we want people to know because its such an exciting moment for us to realize we know who are. I think u shouldnt go overboard because even if people are ok or even embrace gay people nobody likes to have your sexuality rubbed in their face. So take it slow and come out to your closest friends and people u feel will understand. You shouldnt keep it bottled for long because at one point your gonna explode. Just be cautios and enjoy your life to the fullest and dont let anybody stray youfrom your paty

[redmann]

Thank you for the advice! but haha i think i worded it wrong. i actually dont want to tell everyone like run down halls at school telling everyone haha i just want to tell my family and friends
Besides if people see me with a guy they will probably guess anyway

[Unlucky_Leprechaun]

You would be surprised that most already know or have an idea anyway (family and close friends) so it will not come as super shock to them. If and when your ready, just sit down and tell them. if coming out will make you feel better, then yes I say just do it at your own pace and know that some may not like it or want to hear it... just be prepared for possible backlash from some. Good Luck on the club at school, that is a pretty bold undertaking.