Anyone else feel like talking makes it worse?

[December]

Everytime I try and talk to someone about how I am feeling, I feel like they are just going to get tired of me and stop being my friend because this isn't a problem that's going away anytime soon. I feel like they'll get tired of how down I am and having to deal with my depression and such.

I know people say "real" friends won't do this, but it always makes me feel worse thinking about it. It's like I feel guilty for talking about what's going on inside my head because I am burdening and/or inconveniencing someone else with it.

Does anyone else feel worse after talking to someone about how they feel?

[CyanideGoodnight]

Yes. I even apologize profusly after talking about a relapse with a friend. I feel better about the issue, but I feel horribly guilty and annoyed at myself for HAVING to talk about it in the first place.

[Iris]

Yes I always feel guilty. Now the only person I talk to (besides my shrink) is my best friend who's also depressed. We spill everything to each other so I hear all about her depression and her cutting and she hears about mine.
Maybe try to talk to someone who's going through the same thing so they'll understand why talking about depression can seem repetitive

[Maeria]

Yes I always feel guilty. Now the only person I talk to (besides my shrink) is my best friend who's also depressed. We spill everything to each other so I hear all about her depression and her cutting and she hears about mine.
Maybe try to talk to someone who's going through the same thing so they'll understand why talking about depression can seem repetitive

at the same time, in my personal experience..
it's kinda like feeding off each others sadness. ;___;
It only made me more depressed.

[Iris]

at the same time, in my personal experience..
it's kinda like feeding off each others sadness. ;___;
It only made me more depressed.

I know sometimes she brings me down. But it's worth it to feel so understood. Loneliness is a horrible feeling, and thinking that there's no out there who truly understands you sucks. Idk maybe it's just me...

[Maeria]

I know sometimes she brings me down. But it's worth it to feel so understood. Loneliness is a horrible feeling, and thinking that there's no out there who truly understands you sucks. Idk maybe it's just me...

nono you're right..meh. I know how you feel.

[smalltowngirl9189]

Yeah even posting on VT I feel guilty

[Joshh97]

Yeah I can't tell anyone mainly because they will tell me to get on with my life and stop over exaggerating that's why I keep it inside me, it will come to an end at one point whether its me jumping off a building or something good finally happens in my life

[Love.Hate]

Yes i always feel guilty about it.. i dont want to burden others with my problems. They have their own too sort out.

[DifferentTides]

I feel that all the time especially now. I use to trust one of my friend's (he was my best friend at the time) with all that type of stuff, and unfortunatly he did get tired of hearing it. He didn't seem to care from my perspective, and all i ever was doing was being honest because he deserved to have an honest friend. And that was right before it triggered a few month of depression (if you can call it that) on my part.

But, I have someone now who seems to want to help, who won't leave me even when im being totally negative. He practically saved me from doing anything i would have regretted, even before i could get addicted to cutting. Now that is a true friend, and I still have my doubts about everything thinking to myself "what does he see in me" or "im to much of a problem for you", and when i do talk I always seem to apologize for being such a burden or whatever. A real friend will want to help, and if they don't they are simply ignorant or are not you friend at all.

[Magenta]

I hate burdening other people. I feel like I'm just going to drag them down with me and the guilt tends to make everything worse.

Then there's the reason I stopped seeing a therapist. For me, talking doesn't make me feel better. Sure, I'm saying what's going on but that's just it. I'm just saying it. I don't feel relieved. Sometimes I feel the need to tell someone but that's why I post here. It doesn't really matter. People can ignore me and I don't have to waste money on something that only makes things worse for me.

[Eagle63]

I don't know about you, but I would rather vent to a close friend about a problem than vent to a random stranger that your parents are paying. I know that you don't want the "real friend" lesson, but that's got to be it.

I'm open for discussion too. PM me once I get 100 posts.

[Amaryllis]

I know what you mean. Sometimes I just need to tell someone so bad but I know they have problems of their own and so many people look up to me. All my friends tell me I'm their counselor, their psychologist, their shoulder, how could I ruin their image of me? I've cut, been anorexic, bulimic, I'm bingeing right now, I'm bipolar, I have OCD and I want to die and I feel bad for saying all this because I feel like people will think less of me. And my friends don't know about ANY of my problems. None! They think I'm fine and dandy. Everyone thinks I'm strong, understanding, kind, I feel like the opposite of all that.

But feel free to PM me if you ever need someone to talk to :) I'm willing to listen if you ever need ears and I'm willing to read if you ever need eyes and I want to help. You're not alone

Faith And Trust

[TrAnSMaN09]

I know the feeling, My boy always tries to get me to talk to him, but i can't i feel like he has his own problems and doesn't need to deal with mine,

[Amaryllis]

I know the feeling, My boy always tries to get me to talk to him, but i can't i feel like he has his own problems and doesn't need to deal with mine,

Your boy as in your son or your boyfriend?

[RockstarRocks]

Omg someone who feels the same as me. I always say same things I think people will get bored of me cause I say same things. I also fell embarresed about my problems so I don't talk about it anymore much. Weird cause I never used to feel that way.

[DJZS]

If you really find the right person to talk to you will feel good after you talk. you just have to find the right person.

[beag_amhain]

i always feel guilty n sad cuz most people think im someone im not n dont like when they see the real me, ive 2 friends that know the real me that have not left, i count myself lucky in that case, but most the time they force me to talk, but i still hate doing it

[User Deleted]

Yeah, I love giving input but when I want to ask for help I feel like a bitch about it. Even if I just helped them through their problems I don't care, I feel like it makes me look bad, seem bad...be bad...

[HeartCoreHannah]

I always feel worse when I talk to my mom about what's going on in my head, but only because it makes her worry then she cries. Don't worry about being a burden to your friends. They want to help you. They want you to get better.

[RockstarRocks]

Sometimes I wish people would cry when I tell them stuff mom and sister for insrance. St first they did or they would at least have tears in there eyes. Now they act like no emoshion or get annoyed or angry. So I feel alone.

[XxMurderedKissesxX]

Yep. Afterwords I feel guilty and like imma complaining pain in the ass,I get worried that im being an annoying inconvenience. I always apologize and feel horrible. And the more I talk about it,the more I think about it. Even when I really need to get it out and just tell someone,I hesitate because I dont want them to think im crazy,or damaged,and I know everyone has problems,so i feel selfish for bringing it up. : /