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AltoVaughn
June 26th, 2011, 02:45 AM
There is a lot of background information but here is the general story.
I'm 14 and gay, and one of my closest "friends" is my age and Bi. I've know him for about 3 years and For the last year He is the only person that I think about. Sexually, Emotionally, ect. I understand this and know exactly what I want, It's his action/feelings that confuse me.

He knows how I feel (more or less, I didn't want to sound clingy). And When I told him he said that he loved me too. But after that it was not brought up again for almost 3 months. Then all of the sudden we're becoming closer and closer. More affectionate. Not just on my behalf either. An example would be if we're on the couch I'll be laying in his lap with his arms around me. Also sometimes he calls me his "Woman"...? (I don't know why, but I won't object because he's usually holding me while Saying it) We say We love each other every single time we talk. He tells me some extremely personal information (He says I'm the only one who cares to ask).

Through most of this time he has been dating girls. I would be happy for him if they were not bitches who only annoy him or nasty sluts who he dosen't give a shit about. The only serious gf he had he only stayed with her because she threatened to kill herself if he left her. (that'd done and over with, thank god). I don't understand anything about him besides his mere presence makes my heart quiver.

I would appreciate any Responses from anyone with an oppinion.

AllThatIsLeft
June 26th, 2011, 11:07 PM
Well, I get the story, but not the question.

In my opinion, from what I got it's that you two are really good friends, but still in the awkward "i like my friend" zone... Which means either neither of you knows what the other wants, or he (and maybe you) don't want to ruin the friendship for the sake of the relationship.

He might be scared to actually get in a relationship with a boy seeing as he is bisexual, because it's untested grounds.

give it time or ask him what your relationship actually is.... what does it mean to him?

AltoVaughn
June 28th, 2011, 01:07 AM
Well, I get the story, but not the question.

In my opinion, from what I got it's that you two are really good friends, but still in the awkward "i like my friend" zone... Which means either neither of you knows what the other wants, or he (and maybe you) don't want to ruin the friendship for the sake of the relationship.

He might be scared to actually get in a relationship with a boy seeing as he is bisexual, because it's untested grounds.

give it time or ask him what your relationship actually is.... what does it mean to him?

Thanks for your response,
I've made it very clear what I want, but his feelings remain elusive. I have brought it up and his response is usually along the lines of "I don't know what I want". I don't see how it could be difficult for him to tell me anything after some of the personal things he has already told me.

AllThatIsLeft
June 29th, 2011, 01:28 AM
That's fair, give him some time, enjoy what you have but don't let that blind you from the rest of the world. There could be a boy dying to be with you, and you are too concentrated on what your friend is feeling.

That happened to me and my best friend. Then one day I opened my eyes to the rest of the world, and found an amazing boyfriend which i been with for over a year.