Rant about father

[User Deleted]

I'm just sick of how hypocritical my dad gets. He is so immature and gets pissy if I make a joking face like cartoony-mad to be funny when he sings like a retard on purpose and acts like a drunken idiot. He disrespects my fears and comport zone. He criticizes everything. For example I got stuck sailing for 9 hours and he wont respect I want to avoid water. He tells me "If you fall of the horse get back up." Maybe I need chance to recover from last fucking week when I got a second degree sunburn and 'minor' traumatization on water. And about fast food? Cant you be a little less of a whore and not demand an explanation before you stop bugging me like the ass you are. I don't want to talk about an embarrassing moment in my past now leave the damn subject alone. You are rude, bossy, pushy, mean, and I completely understand why my mother divorced you. The only reason I'm happy now is because my aunt and uncle are here. Otherwise I want to be back in my hometown with my mom. And worst of all, I haven't told you how mean you are, because I'm not a little shit head yet you still fail to realize all the restraint I worked up for you. Go suck a pig's pussy.


Here comes the non-ranty part where I need advice. I cant stand being around him much longer as that clearly states. He cant even go a week without saying something insulting, rude, ect. I am planning on telling him once I get to AK and back with my mom that I'm not visiting him anymore. It has just gotten too hard for me to bear. I snapped and told him (After he insulted me for at least the third time today) that if I had a BB gun that I'd shoot him in the head (I know, you don't say that stuff, but that's why I need help and am planning on not visiting anymore, its just so hard to stay cool now) I don't crack very often or easily but this is daily and beyond frustrating. I cant think of anything better. If anyone can help please do.

[CryWolf]

That's a hard situation man. I'm not in the best position to offer answers but I can say that I think I may know how you feel. My dad left when I was 10 and I have not seen him since. My mom has made it clear that its my fault and I realize that it is but she won't accept an "I'm sorry" from me which is all I have to offer. I can't change whats happened. She said he left because he saw something in me that was just like him and he couldn't deal with it. I've asked and asked what it was he saw, but she won't say. She just tells me how bad I've messed everything up and made life hell. My mom is in a halfway house right now so we only see each other once a week, but those visits are hell. So dad is a ghost and mom hates me.
I realize that this doesn't make you feel any better. But I can say that you're not alone. And after reading your post I realize neither am I. That helps. :)
If I could make one suggestion, maybe try talking to your dad without losing your cool and just tell him how you feel. One thing about it is you will get that out and in the open, and if he doesn't respond well you can always say what you were planning to initially.
Well I believe it will work out for you man, and if there's anything I can do let me know dude. Just remember you're not alone :)

[ItStOuGhEnOuGh4Us]

Hey man I'm sorry that you have to deal with this situation. It's very difficult. I would try talking to him, be honest and tell him how his actions make you feel. It's obvious from your post he is insensitive to your feelings. If nothing works through talking, then maybe you should avoid him for a while. This may show him you are serious. Perhaps talking to your mother would help as well, or someone you can open up to. If you ever want to talk, I am here man.

[User Deleted]

Ah fuck, it gets worse. Wanna hear about the straw that broke the donkeys back? Well he has called me on a daily basis for a month now an irresponsible, gay, lazy, bum. And what broke the donkeys back? Well, He told me, and I quote: Have fun with your trailer park life in kenai joe Now Kenai and Joe are uncapitalized in the quote because I feel it better matching the amount of respect he dealt to us.

Also I told him he was being mean and he laughed, scoffed a little, and said he was baing nice so that didn't work. I can't avoid him for for more days and if I can struggle through that, I can never see him again if I so choose. And I was wondering if anyone had a better idea than leaving a whole side of my family because I cant think of anything else.

Everything is failing. I am failing. I don't know if I can struggle through these four days without cracking. Every day is harder. A stronger insult. I have never heard of a situation like this. Not the solution anyways. God help me, I don't know that I can ever see him again without a divine interference.

[ItStOuGhEnOuGh4Us]

I just want to hug u and make u feel a little better. Hang in there. I'm here if u want to talk.

[Allbutanillusion]

That is a difficult situation. Your dad sound like a very angry man. Could it be that he is disappointed with is own life, so he takes it out on you? Also is it that you are gay that he has this hostility toward you? I am just trying to understand.


Also, learn to walk away, I mean you arguing is just going to make it worse. Even though it may be very hard to do, you need to not encourage arguments by talking back. I he says something to you that you don't like, rather than attacking him back, just turn and walk away. I know that is hard but at least people won't feel so angry.

Also , what do your aunt and uncle think about this, do they ever step in to clam the situation? Ease the tension?

[User Deleted]

That is a difficult situation. Your dad sound like a very angry man. Could it be that he is disappointed with is own life, so he takes it out on you? Also is it that you are gay that he has this hostility toward you? I am just trying to understand.


Also, learn to walk away, I mean you arguing is just going to make it worse. Even though it may be very hard to do, you need to not encourage arguments by talking back. I he says something to you that you don't like, rather than attacking him back, just turn and walk away. I know that is hard but at least people won't feel so angry.

Also , what do your aunt and uncle think about this, do they ever step in to clam the situation? Ease the tension?
Well lets do this in order. He has issues, anger issues. He lashes out at everyone at some point or another. But I have been around him more being that he is my father and it is a vacation so I think I take the blunt of his anger. No, I'm not gay, he is targeting me. Now its not that I'm insulted by being called gay, it is the intention of putting me down.

I don't talk back usually. I lashed back the one time stated earlier and otherwise I have sat taking the insults calmly making it clear that I am annoyed. More or less calm. He doesn't get mad about when I make it clear. He just randomly goes after me occasionally.

My aunt does. My uncle doesn't. My step mom does.


On a brighter note, I am going to try telling my grandma. I think she might be able to help so I'm crossing my fingers.