Experimenting gone too far.

[boonsim]

I'm a 14 year old guy and my relationship with my 11 year old cousin has changed. Recently, he seems to have become very interested in sex. We had compared penises one time. Just today however, it got too far. I had touched and sucked his penis and had masturbated next to him. Afterwards, I started feeling an extreme feeling of regret. I still do even now. I want this to end but I don't know what to do. He has been attached to me emotionally forever and is really irritating (he also has aspergers which contributes to this). I feel terrible and want this to end. What do I do?

[Lethe]

If you don't feel it is right (which it probably isn't; incest isn't a good thing) then you need to stop doing what you're doing. These types of relationships normally do not end well. You could end up mentally and emotionally harming yourself and him as well. Please think it over, okay? You need to make the change and say that you aren't going to be engaging in this type of behavior anymore.

[boonsim]

Unfortunately, he most of the time refuses to leave me alone. It has been like this since he was born. He keeps desperately trying to do stuff with me (in general, not sexually) and I feel so uncomfortable around him that I really do not want to.

[Lethe]

You need to be assertive with him when he wants to do something sexual with you. You need to tell him no and that it isn't a good thing to be doing with him. If you aren't stern and assertive with him you can't expect him to stop his behavior.

[Unlucky_Leprechaun]

You need to remember that he is a lil kid..I mean 11 is pretty young to be doing stuff like that with. Try to get him alone explain to him in terms he can understand...family and all..like stated, be assertive and strong with him. Maybe attempting to find some kids around his age/grade will help expand his friendship to beyond you, and you need to start expanding your friends list to beyond him also. It sounds like you guys have grown up together... but you both need your space. Don't do it abruptly or just ignore him..he still needs you as a friend and companion and someone he can rely upon in times of struggle. Got to get that separation...Good luck!

[JackShephard]

Well I can tell you that I was molested by my cousin when I was young. Honestly, I was pretty confused by it at the time and felt like it was my fault. But years later when it came up, he apologized. My point is, after a while, our relationship got messed up, but then went back to normal. Also, one piece of advice, if you wan to get this burden off your chest, confess it to someone (in person) It could be a priest, your family, whoever. Its gonna suck if you do but you will be able to make peace better if you do. best of luck