Omg I think I'm a paedo

[Mattyboy2]

Let's start off by saying I have an 18yr old boyfriend who is great and the best thing that has happened to me in a longtime.
Well, the other day we were showering after sports and a yr7 class (11/12 tr old) were showering opposite, some guys had boners some didn't it was a normal day..... But this was perfectly blonde gorgeous boy kept looking at me and I was getting pretty turned on.

After school he found me on the way home and we are just chatting and stuff, then he came out with this stuff saying he wasn't sure wether he was gay or not and his friend told him about me and that I might be able to give him some advice.

Short story is: I asked him to come in and things got deeper and deeper and eventually he wanted to have sex.... So we did. :/

I'm not sure whats upsetting me more, the fact that I cheated or that I really enjoyed it and want to do I again.... Plz help... What am I supposed to do next? He's really young!

[CaliKiDD]

it happens to the best of us but babe youre in the prime of you life you shouldnt be tied down...to me..you did nothing wrong you were just exploring your options
lol jk go with the flow do what feels right

[Michigan48111]

Don't worry about it, stuff happens. Do what you want to be happy and if doing stuff with him makes you happy then awesome. There is lots of time left to decide if you want a steady girl friend or boy friend, but for now we are at the age we should worry about fun in life.

[LuckyLuke]

What's done is done and there's nothing you can do to change it. You need to accept what's happened and learn/progress from it to prevent what happened from happening in the future.

Having sex with someone despite being in a relationship is WRONG and even worse is that it was with a child of 11 or 12- even if he was willing. This was a mistake but it's finalized and complete.

Once again, learn from your mistakes and move on.

As for being a pedo, well, I wouldn't label yourself a sexual predator until you age because you're still in that high hormone phase that makes you desire some really highs and lows of various content. I don't think your a pedo, I think you wanted to have a fun time and your hormones overrode your judgment.

Be careful, be safe, have good judgment.

[Boxerbriefs96]

Well, I wish I was in your shoes! If you love this new kid (the young blonde), then mabye you could consider starting having a relationship with him? Mabye the 18 isnt for you? I dont know is up to you and remember: you are still young and there will be many opportunities for you in the future.

[screammonster123]

not trying to be a hater but mistakes happen and as much as you like it cheating isnt good but learn from your mistakes and i would be aware of the age technically it isnt elgal but he is pretty young and you arent a pedo just be aware of what your doing before you do it...sorry and hope it helps

[Unlucky_Leprechaun]

As stated earlier, what is done is done. Sit down and look at yourself..what do YOU want? I mean having a bf @ 15 is good but it does tie you down...if you are comfortable with that then be truthful and tell him and let him know that. It is not fair to either of you if you decide to continue with the yngr guy..you can't have both and continue to sneak behind his back. mIf its the other way, be truthful with the yngr guy and tell him that you have a bf and what happened did... but it cannot happen again. Don't make this decision based on either of their wants and desires, this has got to be how you feel and what is best for you. Good Luck !

[theatregeek]

Personally I don't think 11-12 years old is the proper age for a relationship. They're still so young and I don't think they're mature enough to handle it. I think you should sit down and think about what you want. Do what makes you happy, but just be careful because at 11 and 12, guys aren't usually the top notch boyfriend material.

[Patchy]

Not a puberty question.

Moved to relationships and dating.

[DerBear]

Ok so first of you have said you have cheated a bit unfair to your current boyfriend but no point in saying your a terrible person because u seem to feel bad already

next what u did was and would be considered ilegal as you had sex under age and with someone even younger but due to you not being over age 16+ you are not a pedo

first of all you should consider tell the truth to your other bf because in this modren age everything gets out

and the thing your not going to like is the fact that he is to young and u may be letting the sex factor blind your judgment...

so its really up to you but dont string both of them along as its unfair to them and it make you seem in the eyes of other people to seem like a jerk


p.s most of you seem to think having sex with an 11 y old is ok
and if day it was the other way round and he was the bf that just found out he was being cheated on would we not be saying something else instead of "whats done is done"

[tatu327boy]

What's done is done and there's nothing you can do to change it. You need to accept what's happened and learn/progress from it to prevent what happened from happening in the future.

Having sex with someone despite being in a relationship is WRONG and even worse is that it was with a child of 11 or 12- even if he was willing. This was a mistake but it's finalized and complete.

Once again, learn from your mistakes and move on.

As for being a pedo, well, I wouldn't label yourself a sexual predator until you age because you're still in that high hormone phase that makes you desire some really highs and lows of various content. I don't think your a pedo, I think you wanted to have a fun time and your hormones overrode your judgment.

Be careful, be safe, have good judgment.
A pedophile is an adult (18+) who seeks out a child to have sexual interactions with. You are not 18 or older so being a pedo ... your not.

[LuckyLuke]

A pedophile is an adult (18+) who seeks out a child to have sexual interactions with. You are not 18 or older so being a pedo ... your not.

As I said in the final stanzas of my message, he's not a pedo ;)

[Mattyboy2]

Thanks guys for Everything you've said, I think I'm gonna break up with my bf, I still have feelings but I can't condone what I've done to him so I think it would be better off if we didn't see each other anymore.

As for Isaac, the blonde kid, I don't think I can have a relationship with him, I think just friendship is a good point to be at this point

[tyler007]

Matt..... your not a pedo>>>>>>>>>>>>>>
Unless you took advantage of young Isaac ( not talking about trading bjs)
I really don’t approve of the age difference, more that a year (at our age) is just not right, (in my opinion).
And that you have or had a BF at the time… just makes it harder for you.
And a friendship with him (Isaac) now is going to be rocky and hard at least, because he thinks casual sex with you is ok, and it should not be. BUT if you can be his friend and mentor WITHOUT SEX then go for it.

In the future please try to stick to guys in your year/grade or one up or down….

[Koffing]

You need to tell your friend the truth. Tell him that you love him very much and that you are really sorry about it.

here I got it from (http://amars-world.com/?p=6275)


And with the sex thing. In my eye's, it's not bad cuz he wanted it to ;)

[thebgsamuel]

well paedos dont want to have sex cos they likr it but to feel the power over someone and make him/her do what you want!
you only liked it with him and got turned on in a shower so your not a paedo!

[VamosToro]

That is sort of sick. Obviously you cheated, but that's a totally different story. You had sex with an 11 year old who was not confident in his sexuality. You stole his virginity and put his health at risk. And yeah, you are a pedophile.

[Mynameisconner]

Just be honest with your current boyfriend! Hiding it will making you look intentionally as a liar. It would help to get it off your chest as well.