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ackmedsgirl666
June 23rd, 2011, 10:54 PM
so i got myself into BIT OF A MESS
theres this guy
we go to school together and we didnt really talk like hardly
anyways i was at the sound of music festival this big party they have at the lake down by my house that lasts for like 5 days
anyways i was chilling with my friends and he came outta anywhere
i could see that he had been drinking and he was being a total flirt and he was holding my hand and constantly having his arm around me and funny thing is i liked it.. we hit it off pretty good and we have been talking on the phone and such ever since we have been inseperable
his gf who is also one of my good friends dumped him and they are 100 percent done. my other friend kelsie who is sisters with the dumper tried to unsuccessfully get them back together. she had witnessed us being very touchy and she confronted him and asked him what he sees in me thats so much better then her sister. he wouldn't tell her but he told me after.... bigger boobs, nicer personality and body etc etc.. anyways heres the prob.. i thought he was my age and had graduatred gr 12 cuz in our school yearbook it shows that he graduated grade 12 but he didn't. we were talking the other day and i was like dude im pissed at u for graduating grade 12 before me and hes like wtf and im like ya wtf hes like no id didnt im only in grade 8(now grade 9) and im like oh fuck. hes only 15 and im 18.. idk what to do now cuz hes rele into me and im into him and he keeps being all clingy and lovely dovey and flirty with me and i do it back and im enjoying what we have going on but im afraid of the age gap. i know that as long as we don't have sex we should be ok until he is 16.. i mean i don't want ppl to think im a pedophile and thats why im so stuck cuz i really really like him and the feelings between the two of us are mutual. infact i spent all day at his house and he kept turning me on like biting my neck and shit.. im confused and scared
HELP!!!!!

patrick99
June 24th, 2011, 11:25 AM
Do what ever you thinks right. I mean if you do break up with him you'll still like him and he will feel the same.

User Deleted
June 24th, 2011, 11:32 AM
Well if you truly have feelings and a strong connection of personality wits another person than why abide to modern society? If the two of you really are that emotionally connected you don't have to break up. Otherwise you could be friends still (If he really does care for you he would still be friends after a break up) and everyone would be happy right?

ackmedsgirl666
June 24th, 2011, 11:42 AM
yes we aren't dating just yet we are waiting but technically if i date him it's considered illegal cuz hes a minor and im an adult :(
thats why im so confused

User Deleted
June 24th, 2011, 11:51 AM
I say wait it out until he is not a minor and until then just 'get to know each other' :P Hehe, but seriously, cant you just wait until he is an adult as well and just be friends and hang out until then? He would surely understand if it involved legal matters right?

ackmedsgirl666
June 24th, 2011, 11:53 AM
i guess
its not rele me whos being flirty its him
he was like biting on my neck and shit
and i enjoyed it and i feel bad for liking someone so young
shoot me now

User Deleted
June 24th, 2011, 11:56 AM
Well again, if he has any real compassion for you he will understand if you say it makes you uncomfortably.

Also again if you have a strong enough connection of personality and culture you should be able to overcome the physical aspects of a relationship in this case age difference.

ackmedsgirl666
June 24th, 2011, 12:00 PM
ok sounds cool
i'll see wut i can do and see if i can talk to him

User Deleted
June 24th, 2011, 12:01 PM
Alright tell us how it goes once you get around to it:)

DerBear
June 24th, 2011, 12:23 PM
i looked it up dating a 15yo is not illegal the illegal thing would be if you and him had sex

User Deleted
June 24th, 2011, 12:25 PM
^^^^^

So as long as you're comfortable with it you can date him without worry ;)

ackmedsgirl666
June 24th, 2011, 12:28 PM
oh ok thats what i thought
if i can i will hold off on the sex

User Deleted
June 24th, 2011, 12:30 PM
If you want to be super-safe you could just say to not only him but yourself "I will not have sex until marriage" honestly I think that would be pretty easy.

DerBear
June 24th, 2011, 12:31 PM
oh ok thats what i thought
if i can i will hold off on the sex

"if i can" to be honest thats not good enough...you need to because for your sake and his

even if you recoreded him begging you for it the courts will send you down without a second thought