my ex boyfriends ruining my life help :(

[brokengirl16]

i was with my boyfriend for a year and a half and i thought i loved him the world i really need help he scares me so much and i have no one else to talk about it as im not confident enough to tell anyone before we broke up he asked me to have sex with him said it would help us become closer id be with him for a year and ive never even did the small things like finger wank suck things like that we only ever kissed i didnt wanna lose him i loved him so much so we had sex it was only for about 5 minutes because i was scared. A week later he spilt up with me said id gained weight and then a week later he wanted me back id found out he had kissed a girl whilst r spilt i didnt want him back. Two weeks later i went a party he was there he told me loved me the world then he kissed a girl right in my face i told him i dont want to see him ever again. He inboxed me on facebook and said hes going to tell everyone we had sex if i dont go see him so i went to see him he was just trying to kiss me but i went home after a hour he texted me and inboxed me saying if i dont get back with him he will tell everyone what a slut ive been. Im so scared of him ive blocked him on facebook and changed my number but what can i do if he spreads this shit around about me im so scared of him and now i feel like such a slag for having sex at 16 i regret it so much and i cry every single night about it please someone help :,(

[bravo-charlie]

I'm sorry to hear this.From what I can tell, he's blackmailing you, basically.There is not much I can say to help, other than saying if he does, spread things around like he pressured you into having sex with him, and all of this other shit.That is all that I can come up with...for now anyway.I wish you the best of luck on this.Sorry I couldn't be of anymore help.

[jack off freak 562]

tell hi to fuck off or you ll kall da police

[brokengirl16]

thank you just dont want to me known as some slut because im far from one:( i dont know if i even have the guts to lie if somebody asked me either but thank you xx

[brokengirl16]

i have saved all the threating texts he has been sending ive also still got the messages on facebook i will keep hold of them alot of them are worth showing to the police too

[Maeria]

wow. you are most definitely not a slag, and I'd tell the police rather then have HIM tell every other person out there your own personal sexual stuff. If people do find out, it doesn't make you a horrible person or a slut of some sort, it's none of their goddamn business, plus he sounds like he treated you like shit and lead you on. what he did was uncalled for.

[brokengirl16]

thank you that made me feel alot better the things hes did to me are uncalled for im starting my new college in two weeks and he told me to 'WATCH OUT' when i go there because hes also attending the college im really scared to see what he will do :(

[Kaius]

You need to get the police involved now. He shouldn't be treating you like that. Blackmail is a crime and it will be treated as such, especially when it involves threats to your own personal health. You're not a slag in the slightest, honestly. 16 is the legal age and a lot of people don't even wait until then, to be a slag you would have had to sleep around an awful lot. You weren't to know he was going to turn into an ass after a year of dating him. Believe me, people have a way of hiding who they really are until the relationship is pretty much over, its happened to me many times. As I said above, you need to speak to the police. If they don't take legal action they will at least give you advice on how to carry out a restraining order against him, meaning he will not be legally allowed to contact you in any way.

[Fiction]

You're 16, and you've had sex once. I promise you you are NOT a slag. I know exactly how you feel though. I lost my virginity at 15, and I regret it now. It's a horrible feeling, but it's not your fault. It may take time but you do get over it eventually. You shouldn't regret it, it's the past now, and you are NOT a slag.

As for the blackmail you should get the police involved. What he is doing is wrong and not your fault at all.

PM, VM or email me anytime. :hug:

[brokengirl16]

thank you for the comments it's made me feel alot better about the situation thanks alot everybody <3

[MattVon]

If I can deal with my ex spreading rumours about me raping her, then yo ucan most certainly survive his bullshit. Put it this way, if he was to spread shit around about it I'd take it to your advantage. You'll find out who your real friends are, its how I handle my situation when my ex said shit, I knew who my real friends were, and who actually believed her BS. At the end of the day, if shit does go down you know who you are, no one else. If people believe him or judge you then they're clearly not worth knowing at all. I can honestly say your ex sounds like a fucking pathetic loser to be doing what he is doing, he will do it to the wrong person and it won't be the police he'll be seeing to, it'll be someone twice his size who would prefer to show him a lesson or two.

But as people have mentioned it is recommended to get the police involved, it'll get shit sorted out but I can guarantee you this, if his attitude is persistent to making your life like hell with blackmail, he will really hate you for getting the police involved. Now this isn't me saying "No, don't go to the police if he's nasty".. It's more like, if he really does cause shit, you can expect it after the police, I'd just rather make sure you're prepared than feel guilty for getting the police involved. Obviously, if he causes more shit the police will take further action.

Just know that he's not worth your time, and people who find out about his lies are not worth knowing if they judge you or are not on your side.

Stay strong.