HIV....need help

[Michigan48111]

OK I need some help here friends. I found out today a rumor I heard last week is true. 2 friends of mine from school (guy and girl) that have been dating have both tested HIV+. I don't care which one gave it to which one, they are both my friends.

But I don't know what I should say to them now when we hang out. I don't know if I should avoid the subject or talk about it with them. I know they are both a freaking out right now, but I have never known anyone else to have this and it's all new ground for me.

Anyone out there been in this spot where a friend found out they are HIV+? I know I can't catch it from hanging out with them, and even sharing a can of coke. I am not worried I'll get it from them, I don't want to ignore it but I also don't want that to be the only thing we ever talk about now.......anyone able to help? Pleeeeze?

[scuba steve]

You found out someone has HIV and you're worrying about what you're going to do?

You don't have to say anything. Why would it be any different, they're still the same people. And personal advice, I wouldn't mention it AT ALL! You're worrying what you're going to say? What do you think's going through their mind? Total humiliation now that it's out in the open because of this "rumour" that's been spreading!

[ShatteredWings]

HIV is comunicable through sexual body fluids, blood, and breastmilk.

Don't have sex with them, don't play with their blood (which is kinda creepy usually in the first place), but it's not like mono. you can't get it by sharing food or anything like that.

They're still the same people you knew before.
TBH the dx shouldn't change anythin in your friendship unelss you let it

[mrbob360]

why do you "need" to talk about it theres no reason unless they start talking about it but just don't mention it but if rumours are going round school they are going to want you rsupport to make them happy while they going through this terriblle times so dont mention it give them a break

[ThePiegonMonkey]

What does it matter? The HIV they may or may not have isn't going away so you will have to accept it and be kind or not be friends anymore.

[Lethe]

You found out someone has HIV and you're worrying about what you're going to do?

You don't have to say anything. Why would it be any different, they're still the same people. And personal advice, I wouldn't mention it AT ALL! You're worrying what you're going to say? What do you think's going through their mind? Total humiliation now that it's out in the open because of this "rumour" that's been spreading!

I agree with this post completely :). You don't need to talk about it, since it doesn't affect you. You can't receive it unless you have sex with them or exchange blood or other fluids with them. You don't need to say anything or alter your relationship with them at all.

[Boxerbriefs96]

You dont really have to say anything about it or even bring it up. Just because they have HIV doesnt make them any different really.

[SuperSuraj]

Yeah what everyone else said, don't bring it up. I really don't think they are proud of it themselves, no use in humiliating them anymore by trying to force an awkward conversation with them. Just be a good friend and let them feel like nothing has changed in your relationship with them (because nothing should have changed tbh it doesn't affect you) and act like everything is still normal, let them deal with their own problems, don't add to them by making more.

[Trickster]

Dont bring it up. they are suffereing enough by themselves and as teens they probably think their gonna die (which is false now a days) just relax and dont have sex with them and dont share any bodily fluids. U can still share food, and combs and clothes. Its not like it attaches to the clothes. Just treat them like your friends, that will be the best and most simple gift u can give them now

[Weeping]

Just act normal. It's not like it will change your friendship? And if I were you, I wouldn't bring it up.
They probably don't want to "think about it more than they already do", right?

[massivet]

Just be yourself and keep things as normal as possible because honestly if your not having sex with any of them, it dosent affect you