My mom wants another baby:(( feels wierd

[dannyhendon]

I'm a kinda ordinary guy there's me I'm 14 and 3 younger brothers and my sister, so it's kinda normal but its annoying too sometimes. But my mom and dad separated like 2 years ago and my mom has a boyfriend now which sometimes is wierd but the worst thing is they told us they are "trying" to have a baby brother or sister for us! Urgh that sucks non of us want new brothers or sisters!. And I guess my step dad means trying is like there gonna be doing sex all the time?? Totally freaks me out it's gross. And I really don't get why my mom and step dad want to do it when I have to share rooms now it will get worse all because they want to start having sex it's stupid!

[mrbob360]

he reason that could want another baby is to have something to share together with each other because it could feel to each other that they want to leave something and care for something that is both their own bloods because atm all you and borthers and sisters are your mums blood not your step dads so its a lovers thing that you will learn in time when ur grown up :)

[dannyhendon]

I get it kinda but it just freaks me out like does that mean my mom and step dad are gonna start doig sex all the time!! I think its totally gross. He only started to sleep here a few months ago does that mean theve already tried sex

[Perseus]

I get it kinda but it just freaks me out like does that mean my mom and step dad are gonna start doig sex all the time!! I think its totally gross. He only started to sleep here a few months ago does that mean theve already tried sex

Lol, then don't think about it.

[DerBear]

I get it kinda but it just freaks me out like does that mean my mom and step dad are gonna start doig sex all the time!! I think its totally gross. He only started to sleep here a few months ago does that mean theve already tried sex

lol this is funny

to be honest your thinking of yourself and your happiness not your parents i get it 5 kids its probably crampt as it is but its a lovers thing.

and yes they will be having sex but wait until you have sex or just think of it like any other person having sex dont think about it as your parents having sex and you should not care about your mum and Step dad having sex anyway

can i ask what the living arrangments anyway because if you have a big house it may not be so bad

[mrbob360]

well no jus cause your just trying for a baby doesnt mean you have sex all the time unless you really want to but why are you even wondering about this leave them to it and if they end up with a junior its their descions and have you spoke to them about it? say that you might not happy with another baby

[dannyhendon]

we really dont have any room dude! we just have a room for me and brothers we all share and my sisters share there room soo hoping I dont have a brother! My mom said wel get bunks soon but thats still sucks

[DerBear]

so you have 2 rooms that sucks i doubt he will get placed in your room as 3 people already its tight as it is why dont you ask your mum and express your feeling but keep on at her about it because unless you got a bigger house its not going to work

p.s i am basing this on simple math due to the fact i live in a roomy house and its only 4 people including myself

[dannyhendon]

and I have told them but there like " we here what you are saying but its not your decision" it's unfair! and he is stricter than my real dad now he lives at home i kinda stopped getting spanked when I was like 11 now im 13 and he has a few times. Even when I said I didnt use to he was like . Youl get whs your given.hate life now

[dannyhendon]

mom was like you can get 4 on two bunks but it's like only just room to fit two in it's going to be so baad!

[DerBear]

a baby cant sleep on a bunk

[Pancakes]

Deri serves one of the best points babies can't sleep on bunks until they're four or five for safety reasons. :) By then you'll probably have your own little space :)

[dannyhendon]

ye I know they mean when its old enough to not sleep in their room I think

[Spook]

There is really no reason you should be grossed out. I'm not gonna avoid the question- if he started sleeping at your house a few months ago- yes, they most likely have had sex- and not "tried" because given that you are 13 and over, they are probably a considerable age to have done that before--they aren't going through puberty. :P

Anyways, I have always wanted another sis/bro, especially a baby, but I understand your point of view- it is cramped and you have no privacy, and don't want to add to that. Maybe you can ask your mom to put off on having a baby until you can move to a larger house.

I agree with the others on the fact that it's a lovers thing. Your mom's boyfriend just wants one child that shares his own blood. I've noticed a few problems though-

1. Not trying to be snoopy, but don't you think it's a good idea for your mom and her boyfriend to get married before they think of children?

2. It would be kind of weird to be living with a half-brother, in the tense that your other brothers and sisters may exclude him for that reason- it often happens that way.

Anyways, just talk to your mom about how you feel, and I think she will understand.

Best of luck,

~Caitlin