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Gleeboy1995
June 19th, 2011, 12:36 PM
I know this is a cliche thread but I need help figuring out if I'm bi or just bicurious? Or maybe closet gay and unwilling to admit? Here are some things about me:

1. My first crush was on a girl and I continuously have crushes on girls but starting around middle school I started finding some guys sexually attractive, but I can never picture myself with a guy longterm just physical encounters

2. I fantasize about guys while masturbating alot more frequently then I do with girls

3.I lost my virginity to a girl and I did enjoy the sex

4. Whenever I go into a locker room I try to check out the guys I also like looking at abs and any boys with nice butts (I'm not sure if it turns me on or if its because I'm envious since I don't have abs) but I appreciate nice butts in general male or female

5. I do watch porn but only straight porn really turns me on. Neither gay or lesbian porn turn me on.

6.I have fooled around a couple of guys (down low). I don't enjoy kissing them as much as I do girls, but the intercourse is just as good, as long as I'm not the one being penetrated) and so far they've been better at giving oral.

7. I don't really care for giving oral to guys or girls just receiving, but I have done both.

LoginLeo
June 19th, 2011, 01:03 PM
Well, i wouldn't use any names to name a sexuality, i think that it's different from person to person...
Well, still if you want to know my opinion, then i guess that you are straight curious...
I mean - Can you imagine yourself having a family, falling in love with a guy ?
Any romantic feelings for guys ?

Gleeboy1995
June 19th, 2011, 01:07 PM
Yeah see that's the thing I hate using labels my gut feeling is that I'm just a sexual person who simply enjoys sex no matter what the gender (for a while I thought that meant I was pansexual but I don't have any interested in physical relationships with transgendered people which is included in pansexuality i'VE heard) but it seems like being labeled is unavoidable.

And to answer your question I can only picture myself marrying a female and having a family with a girl (I'm not even opposed to adoption I just can't imagine having a family with another guy or even a relationship with anymore meaning than a hookup).

And with romantic attachment to guys the few that I have had I can't tell if its just admiration mixed with deep feelings of friendship (one of my only male crushes was on my lifetime best friend who I've been friends with since I was 6 but even then I can't see me wanting to date him). All I know any romantic attachment I have to guys is different than with girls. With girls I picture both physical encounters as well as longterm. With guys I can't picture it that way

LoginLeo
June 19th, 2011, 01:13 PM
Well, then i'd call you a bisexual guy, considering the fact that you HAD a crush on a guy (even though he was your best friend for a long time)...
Well, so yeah, i think that you are bisexual (Cuz I also got some crushes on guys, love girls, and can't imagine having a family with a guy)
So... Congratz, i guess ? :)

Gleeboy1995
June 19th, 2011, 01:15 PM
yeah I suppose thats what it is. Thank you for your help

LoginLeo
June 19th, 2011, 01:19 PM
Glad I helped :)

tyler007
June 19th, 2011, 06:19 PM
I aggree with Login Leo....
I think that you could be bi. im bi my self, But i dont think there is any real need to rush into labeling your self just yet, Just to to go with it and and do what makes you happy.