Scared of Sex

[Kryz]

Okay so this is my first post, so I hope I dont do anything wrong or something.

But here's my problem, I'm like deathly afraid of sex for many many reasons (and I KNOW most of them are not normal, since they're not the regular "what if i don't please her", "not big enough", etc reasons)

So firstly and foremostly, I don't like feeling when the skin on my penis is pulled back or anything like that. I don't pull it back to wash it, and I don't think I ever have. During masturbation, I generally put some kind of cloth (towel, old shirt) over it and try to keep the skin up. If I accidentally pull it too far back, I just stop cuz I don't like how it feels >.< I usually just put the skin back up and keep going though, and it feels good. That's how I've always done it, and not 'til recently have I tried in the shower (when I learned that the skin's supposed to pull up during sex) and it was really weird and very hard to do. Never done it with lotion or any kind of lube or anything like that.

So secondly..... I'm also very scared of girl's vagina. I've never looked at a picture of one for more than a couple seconds before looking away and closing the page. It looks really weird. I don't like it. I'm not gay though, I can easily get turned on by any other part of women, just not... that part. And knowing that I'm supposed to put my thing into one of those things, AND that the skin's gonna get pulled back makes me very scared.

I tried reading about it, to learn more about it, lessen my fears, and I found this page:
http://www.aarogya.com/sex-a-sexuality/what-is-sex-a-sexuality/4588-what-happens-before-during-a-after-sex.html
(I dunno if we're allowed to post external links, sorry)
Anyways, most of what it said sounds really.... disgusting.

Every time I think about even just pulling the skin on my penis back, I start shivering and cringing as I remember how it feels. So I guess my question is if there's any way to get over this fear. I would very much like to have sex one day, lol.

Another thing, I've also 'sexted' (a Lot) before and gotten hard during it, but that was before I learned about the "skin pulling back" thing. PS. 'Sexting' to me, is having sex in the form of text, not the illegal sharing pictures with minors thing.

Also I'm 17, in case I'm supposed to post that too

So yeah, how can I not be scared of sex? :O

[TheMatrix]

well, i'm afraid there's not much you can do besides not having sex or giving it a while. if you are REALLY concerned, speak with your doctour or licenced urologist.

out of curiosity, why would you have sex at such a young age?

in addition, a very warm welcome to vt!! :)

[Lil Ill]

As an uncut person let say that you should work on pulling the skin back it helps with cleaning and the more you do it the better it may feel. No one told me this and it used to painful the first times I had to pull it back.

As for the sex part can't help you there I haven't crossed that road yet (13 yo)

[Kryz]

Kay thanks for the advice, though I don't really like doctors >.<

I wouldn't think it's that young, lots of other people are doing it, I think o.o That's not my reason for wanting to though =P I just think it'd feel good. I used to have a girlfriend and we had a lot of.... "fun".

And thanks for the welcome! :D

I suppose I'll try that later then, hope it works o.o

[DerBear]

to be honest m8 if you are afraid of something and wont do it then you will not get very far in life

and if you dont like doctors your not going to be able to get much medical advice as none of us on here are trained doctors

[Psychintraining]

That's quite an interesting problem. What I recommend, granted I'm not a trained doctor and have no medical expertise, seeing as I'm also uncircumsised, is to just slowly acclimate to pulling you're skin back. It's pivotal. It bothered me at first too, but no it goes back effortlessly. Just pull is back slowly, with soap, and water, after a nice shower, that will loosen you up. Continue to try it every time you're naked, until you get use to it. As for the vagina thing, see how you feel in person, with someone you really love :) hope that helps!

[Speedy29]

you gotta try it, or youll be afraid forever once you do it itll be like no big deal

[Kryz]

Thanks to all of you for the help, and I've been trying these past few... however long ago it's been since I first posted this. I've been able to pull the skin back about half an inch or so, which half an inch more than I used to be able to.
I have another question though, I can only pull it back when it's hard, otherwise, it doesn't go back. Is it supposed to be like that?

[adam1995]

Although I am circumcised, I do know that by 17, you should be at least pulling your foreskin back so that you can properly wash yourself. I would make that your first priority, before sex. I'm thinking that once you get used to pulling your foreskin back, you get used to the feeling. I can't help you with the vagina thing. To me, nothing turns me on more... I guess we're all different:) Cheers

[Mynameisconner]

I would wait a little bit until you become more comfortable with the whole aspect of it, and get more comfortable in your own skin!.