....Taking a..break.

[XxMurderedKissesxX]

So,my bf just gotta outta the hospital and his father brought up a good point that he doesnt need to be worrying about me when he has his own issues. So when his exams are over im going to explain why I think we should have a break,and for him to think about it. Knowing him hes going to freak and be stuborn so ill just have to outright push it. Last night I had to talk to him normally but it was killing me,the whole time he was saying how much he loved me,that he missed me,he couldnt wait to see me again...I know his dad doesnt want us together which makes this so hard,because as much as I hate it,hes right that now isnt the best time for a relationship...right? Im so stressed and worried idunno what to think anymore. But if im doing right thing,why does my heart feel like its being ripped out?

[Kaius]

In all honesty I don't think his dad has the right to meddle in your relationship, you should be seeing what your boyfriend wants, not what his father wants. Its gonna hurt your boyfriend if you separate yourself away from him without him really knowing why. You yourself sound like you don't want this and i doubt he does either.. Ask him about it, ignore his father.

[aussiebunnie]

So,my bf just gotta outta the hospital and his father brought up a good point that he doesnt need to be worrying about me when he has his own issues. So when his exams are over im going to explain why I think we should have a break,and for him to think about it. Knowing him hes going to freak and be stuborn so ill just have to outright push it. Last night I had to talk to him normally but it was killing me,the whole time he was saying how much he loved me,that he missed me,he couldnt wait to see me again...I know his dad doesnt want us together which makes this so hard,because as much as I hate it,hes right that now isnt the best time for a relationship...right? Im so stressed and worried idunno what to think anymore. But if im doing right thing,why does my heart feel like its being ripped out?

I think you should compromise rather than take a break. One question you should ask yourself is do you love him? If you do, you could be throwing away something you will regret. Most people I know who are on a break usually never get back together. I get the feeling that most of your decision is down to his dad not wanting you two to be together. Would you still hold the same position if his dad approved your relationship? That's a real hard thing to do. I think you don't want to upset his dad. I think maybe you are probably feeling scared to talk to his dad about it. Try and talk to your parents about it and see what they think.

But I think you should try and compromise, rather than taking a break, put a probation on your relationship where you can set the number of times you can meet per week etc. This will allow him to concentrate on his issues while you two still are committed to each other.

[LuckyLuke]

It seems to me that the best thing FOR HIM is to stay with you. He's not worried about you, you're fine. You bring him happiness and that's really what he needs after his ailment.

That being said, if YOU don't feel like you can handle this than you need to discuss that with him.