How do I tell her?

[RoseyCadaver]

I want to tell my mom I'm bisexual,mainly because I'm in a relationship with a guy.I've dated girls(I liked em' but I thought I'd try something new)now I really like my boy friend.Idk how to tell her,she wouldn't hate me,she'd told me she would be worried for one us because of it being a hard life.My dad is another story,but I'm not worried about that yet.

I told my good friend,she said I should let her know,and if she doesn't like it the she can fuck herself(her parents are mean to her for being atheist).

I was thinking I start a conversation relating to it or something say i'd date a guy, or something,any help?

I just feel trapt,like I'm in a box.I can't feel the way a full blown gay person in the closet are :( .

[Kitty Purry]

Well I never had to tell my mom I was Bisexual/Gay she just found out, by looking thru my backpack and finding a note my boyfriend wrote me. To me it seems easier if they found out themselves, then if you tell them. But if your set on telling her, then id just sit down with her and just tell her youve been wanting to tell her something for awhile, and just comeout and say your Bi-Sexual, or that you have a boyfriend.. Do you think she would ever suspect that you are bisexual? Cause if she has then it'll probably be much more easy on her. But whatever you decide to do, good luck:).

[Tristin.]

welll im not sure if this will help but i hope it does :)

a friend of mine asked his mum to take him to his local LGBT group. that was how he came out. i thought he was crazy, but it worked :)

if not, just try and tell her in a way that is direct. i found its easier to be blunt with these things xxx

good luck :)x

[Nicci]

Do you think she might already know? I didn't tell my mom I was bi, but would ask her questions such as, "what would you do if I was dating a girl? or brought a girl to prom?" She recently asked me if I liked girls, I was honest and just said that I don;t care who I fall in love with since she had raised me to be a kind person without barriers.

It might be easy to do little hints so you don't shock her to much when you come out. My main concern with coming out was the awkwardness, it helped to have her bring it up naturally. So if you bring it up I recommend leaving hints about you liking guys (i.e. he looks good, etc.) then just asking how she would feel if you had a boyfriend while in the car or something. She will have to watch the road, plus you can look out the window or play music!

Hope that helped!

[RoseyCadaver]

I'm also having a hard time telling myself that,I've always pictured myself with a women(all though i might if my bf starts acting like an ass lol i doubt it though).

I'm just afraid of my family reacting,oh and plus he is black.....and lets say my family isn't only prejudice towards gays...not all my family is racist,just some of my closest ones.....

[Shenron]

Well, you know this really depends on what your relationship with your mother is like. I am sure she will still love you lol. I suppose the best way to approach it would be to a.) drop little hints here and there, or b.) just say "mom, we need to talk" and then sit her down and tell her the feelings you have been having. Tell her that you felt she deserved to know and that you trust she will not judge you for being you. I would say the direct approach would be best but it is up to you.

If you have any questions please pm me :)

So I see you posted while I was posting, so as to your above post:
Honestly, the race thing could be a small issue, okay it could be a big issue. See, with your family already having a problem with gays, as well as being racist, the two together could really push them over the edge. I would reccomend not telling them booth things at once for sure, and possibly not telling them about him at all, unless it becomes super serious between you. As for having a hard time telling yourself, just know that you are not alone and your sexualtiy is not yet fully determined. Know that you are fine the way you are and that you should just be you.

[RoseyCadaver]

I've been dropping a bunch of hints,like "I would try a guy ""Love has no gender"and that stuff.I think shes noticed it a little .

[Shenron]

I've been dropping a bunch of hints,like "I would try a guy ""Love has no gender"and that stuff.I think shes noticed it a little .

Well that is good, now if I were you, I would honestly just pull her aside on day and tell her "Mom, I've been wanting to tell you this for a while but I just didn't know how. I trust you will understand and accept this. I feel as though I could be bisexual. I'm not really sure but I've been having feelings lately.....etc. etc. etc..."

I dont want to gie you a speech to memorize, you should think about what you want to say and what she might ask and think of answers to that. You don't wnat to go about this half ass...

[RoseyCadaver]

Do your parents know?

[Shenron]

Do your parents know?

I know that you are going to say "well then how the hell would you know" but, no my parents do not know, the reason for this is because my father would literally disown me, kick me out, and not help support me in any way if he were to find out. My mother tells him everything, and I am really not sure how she would react. I want to tell them, but I feel it would save me a lot of complication and grief if I just didn't tell them until I am older and no longer need their support.