My Brother

[flashstep96]

KK try and hang in there with me okay?

My brother and I are both the 15, Me being the younger (only by 33 min). the thing is: I've taken the role as the older brother; so (I'm gonna call him C) C looks up to me; like ALOT. I personally don't have any feelings towards him whatsoever; Not Love or hate. To me; C and I are just Housemates; simple as that.
Like all family realtionships: we have a few problems. Keep in mind that this IS NOT me being mean to him; I'm simply Describing what I see and know.

C and I are TOTAL oppisites; although we are Identical twins. And thats where things get...iffy.
I have very high emotional self control; it's somthing I've developed from early childhood. it has saved me; and hurt me. C is the oppisite. He Gets VERY emotional and has NO control over it. And It's not hormones; He has extreme difficulty coping with the daily drama called Life. He Goes to the concelour office EVERY DAY at school because he keeps having emotional meltdowns. Mom gets mad because she works full time and Hates gettin pulled away for something as simple as her child going to the office.

That's only part of the problem: He has no social skills at all. (again; not hating on him; just being brutally honest) Whenever I'm at school random people who I don't even know come to me and Say things like "hey is your brother okay? he was crying in class today" or a very shocking one "Hey (Name), Tell your brother not to kill himself okay?" And whenever I'm with freinds: he comes up and Starts talking quite loudly about his life and blah blah blah me me me me ME. and doesent even stop to think "Wait; how bout I listen to people around me instead of thinking about myself for five minuets: after all they probabbly have their own lives too." Nope....
I'm not lying when I say i see the akwardness my freinds have when they are around C. They listen and talk to him but have a face that says "What the? who is this kid?"

Also he's always talking about "progress" and all the great things he's going to do. For example: 5 min ago he texted me saying "I've realised my mission is to change the media back to before when I became a devil's advocate"
What the flip!?!?!? Is he freaking Dillusional???? He makes all these false assumptions about people and acts like he's doing all the Human Psychology analisis Bullcrap when in actaullity he knows nothing. -_- yeesh!

Look, in all honesty: He has partial brain damage: so He isnt very mature and he can't see things clealry. He lives in his own little world. The family is worried sick beacuse: "how will he Live on his own, drive, have freinds ect." The maturity thing is the reason why he looks up to me so much: he copies EVERYTHING I do, and constantly tries to better me. (that part I know is taottaly natural)

Geez........

[TheMatrix]

you said he has brain damage?
then i'm afraid there's not much you can do but make the best of it.
sorry.

[Neverender]

So what do you want us to do about it?

He clearly has developmental issues. He should be in a different stream in school where he can develope THESE issues, not being shoved into a large classroom that he clearly can't handle.

[Roar]

If he looks up to you then you need to step up and be the best role model you can. I know you don't like it, but for his sake you need to do it. I know it doesn't seem fair, but he's your brother and you're stuck with him. Try to make the best of it. You aren't the only person in this situation, I promise.

[RoseyCadaver]

If he has brain damage,you should try to be more understanding.

[Shenron]

I believe all that needs to be said has been said, being the fully functional brother that you are, you should man up and learn that he needs you. In your post you said it was always "me me me" with him and honestly that what it sounds like with you as well. As his brother you should care about him and try to support him, especially since he is developmentally challenged. I'm not trying to preach here, but for God sake, read what you posted and tell me that doesn't sound selfish...

[flashstep96]

*Sigh* Yeah, I know It's really freaking selfish, but It's how I feel.

[Shenron]

*Sigh* Yeah, I know It's really freaking selfish, but It's how I feel.

I understand how you feel, and I know that your brother can in some ways be a burden to you, just try and see things from his point of view and be glad you are fully functional. Try to be a little more understanding that's all. PM me if you need to talk.

[prob1996]

Wow. A friend of mine has a brother that's austic and it can really tough to deal with. I can't imagine how tough it is to live with them but he really does look out for his borther. he really is a cool big brother and tries to show him stuff. If he doesn't have alot of friends, he probably idolizes you. have patience.

[Unlucky_Leprechaun]

Sorry to hear. I really think that you KNOW what is the best thing to do here. Explain to your friends at school he has developmental issues (which I am sure they already know) and your trying to help him all you can so give him a break. Just try to be supportive as you can, after all he is your brother and deep down I think you care deeply for him. Teenage years are tough enough without having to deal with issues you shouldn't have to and it can be...pretty stressful. I can imagine. You do need to reach out to someone also..because you cant do this alone. Getting emotional support up here is a good step in the right direction....keep up the lines of communications... you need it.... Good Luck and feel free to contact me if you need to talk..

[JackShephard]

I had a similar situation. I have a stepbrother. I will call him J. J and I are about the same age but he is actually six months older than me. Same issues; very socially awkward, doesn't know exactly how to handle certain things, and looks up to me. A LOT! I have a lot of good friends, he has a few (mostly because he goes to a school where there are 6 kids in his class) I am assertive in things that I want or need, he is not. I have had a few girlfriends, he has a crush on a girl. I take risks, he stays in his shell. He is like you said, in his own little world. It used to be hard for me when I was younger to be the bigger brother, but I learned that it's just someone that I have to live with. When I have friends over, he does seem to be chatty and in some cases, bothersome, but my friends are pretty understanding. I treat him like everyone else and before when he had no self confidence, I would help build that through doing things with him and interacting with him like everyone else. Sometimes, yea, I needed some space, but I pretty much helped him come out of his shell. Now, he is very much less socially awkward and has made more friends (even some of mine)

My point is, if him being the way he is bothers you, don't isolate him. Just be the bigger brother. Help him build confidence and do things together like basketball or air-soft wars (what J and I did together a lot) He just might come out of his shell and be his own person. Don't let it bother you that he is awkward around your friends. If they are good ones, they will be accepting and understanding.