Should teenagers be encouraged to masturbate in order to get them to delay sex?

[ShyGuyInChicago]

I was watching a YouTube about a woman who met an older man when she was 16 and had 4 kids with him. He then abandoned her and she struggles to take care of her kids on her own. She only got involved with the man in the first place because her father was rarely at home and she wanted male attention. This clip is from a CNN documentary called Black in America. The documentary mentions that more and more black women are having babies out of wedlock and are often raising their children without help from their children's' fathers. It is also said in the documentary that black teen girls who grow up economically disadvantaged often do not think they can seek high education and high-paying careers, but they know (or rather think in some cases) that they can be good mothers. So they simply have kids at a young age without much money or education and that leads to their children growing up poor and in some cases growing up without fathers.

I saw a comment that said this:

That IS the solution. If you put off having kids until you're 27, you have plenty of time to get an education? and have a career.

I think it's time to distribute free vibrators to at-risk teen girls. It will discourage teenage girls from having sex.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7CdwfNB-w20&feature=related

For the record the comment is one of the highest rated comments of the video.

What I have been wondering is that what if in sex ed, teenagers were encouraged to delay sex and masturbate as an alternative. I advocate comprehensive sex education. But I think that it could be a compromise to pleas both the abstinence-only and comprehensive crowds, since in away teens are being taught how to embrace their sexualities in a healthy way. However, I still think the best thing is comprehensive sex ed.

[User Deleted]

Discouraging sex (like alchaho did) will increase interest prematurely. It is not the solution to make an army of stimulation craved cities.

[Bimmerhead]

What I generally do with my younger brother is encourage him to wait until he has it with someone he trusts. Also when he decides to have sex to do it safely with protection on both ends IE condoms and birth control. As Joe pointed out with some kids it actually goes the other way if your constantly telling them not to have it. It also depends on the person. It WILL happen eventually. Preventing STDs and pregnancy at a young age is what I try to prevent whenever I give advice to kids younger then myself.

[bravo-charlie]

I agree with you guys. If you tell people not to do something, they will be tempted to do what you told them not to do. Discouraging something will only increase people's lust for it, like how the government tried to ban alcohol back in the 1920s. You can't prevent STDs or pregnancy, but you can make people aware of the consequences of sex. It depends on the child's maturity level as well. It is their decision to have sex or not, and their decision to see to their baby that it get fed and taken care of, along with its mother.

[Sage]

We need to encourage teenagers to masturbate now?

[ShyGuyInChicago]

We need to encourage teenagers to masturbate now?

I am talking about encouraging teens to masturbate as an alternative to sex.

[Genghis Khan]

Gone from giving away free condoms to this already? Lord, what is this world coming to?

[Sage]

I am talking about encouraging teens to masturbate as an alternative to sex.

You're missing my point. They already are and it's clearly not working.

[Rainstorm]

Telling someone not to do something doesn't make it stop; it can simply encourage them to do it even more.

[User Deleted]

Telling someone not to do something doesn't make it stop; it can simply encourage them to do it even more.

Thats what we have been saying :P

[Genghis Khan]

A better solution would be to implement the Islamic Sharia Code (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sharia_Law) and stone unruly teenagers who will have sex before marriage.

[User Deleted]

A better solution would be to implement the Islamic Sharia Code (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sharia_Law) and stone unruly teenagers who will have sex before marriage.

Nice and brutal... not my style in the least :P

[Sith Lord 13]

We need to encourage teenagers to masturbate now?

This. Teens do it on their own. They don't need to be encouraged. Not discouraged, maybe, but not encouraged either.

[Perseus]

I don't know about you, but masturbating doesn't make not want to have sex. I still want to have sex no matter how much I masturbate.

[Genghis Khan]

I don't know about you, but masturbating doesn't make not want to have sex. I still want to have sex no matter how much I masturbate.

Agreed. This can help in the short term but won't suddenly stop people from wanting more, in fact encouraging masturbation will probably get people to think about sex even more and as a result have more sex.

[ShyGuyInChicago]

You're missing my point. They already are and it's clearly not working.

I did not know that people were telling teenagers to masturbate as an alternative to sex. Of course, as I said in my original post comprehensive sex ed is the best..

I don't know about you, but masturbating doesn't make not want to have sex. I still want to have sex no matter how much I masturbate.

Do you think that it is possible that masturbation might serve as a deterrence, like preventing a person from cheating, or keeping a personal or religious vow to abstain from sexual intercourse? It could be a way for some people to avoid having sex at times they feel they should not.

[Continuum]

I doubt that this would have an effect on the mindset of teens. Only strict laws will, but those wouldn't be practical either. :yes:

[ShyGuyInChicago]

I doubt that this would have an effect on the mindset of teens. Only strict laws will. :yes:

Why do you think that way? Do you think it is possible that some people may masturbate to curb their sexual urges and prevent them from acting on their urges in ways that could be unwise/harmful.

[Genghis Khan]

Do you think it is possible that some people may masturbate to curb their sexual urges and prevent them from acting on their urges in ways that could be unwise/harmful.

Not necessarily. I mean, if you masturbate more than most people do, then it's likely you're thinking about sex a lot more, and it's also likely that you find it more difficult to control yourself. If you're really that sex-driven, I doubt getting consolation from your palm will stop you from doing something unlawful.

[Neverender]

I am talking about encouraging teens to masturbate as an alternative to sex.

They've already been doing it for decades.

Just look at p101 for examples. Hundreds and hundreds of examples.

[Continuum]

Why do you think that way? Do you think it is possible that some people may masturbate to curb their sexual urges and prevent them from acting on their urges in ways that could be unwise/harmful.

It simply doesn't work. It isn't easy to remove sexual thoughts with mere masturbation. In fact, it makes you want it more. As Rawal had said, more masturbation means thinking of sex more. And, besides, masturbation is a private affair. Would a teen want to be encouraged by a public entity? No, I imagine it to be humiliating if you would accept free masturbatory aid from the government.

[Amnesiac]

It simply doesn't work. It isn't easy to remove sexual thoughts with mere masturbation. In fact, it makes you want it more. As Rawal had said, more masturbation means thinking of sex more.

Actually, masturbation releases sexual tension. That's why teenagers do it. Alas, it may subdue the urge to have sex, but only for a few hours. There's no point in having the government create a public program to encourage something that almost everyone does anyway.

[thebgsamuel]

it should not be obligatory but your parents cant get mad if they find you doing it!

[Magus]

it should not be obligatory but your parents cant get mad if they find you doing it!Parents already know you are doing it. It's called being a "teenager". Fuck, you should hear my father's teenage 70s funky stuff he did.

[RoseyCadaver]

Parents already know you are doing it. It's called being a "teenager". Fuck, you should hear my father's teenage 70s funky stuff he did.

Rofl.My mom knows I do it,she just say I better not to it all the fucking time.lol.

I realy have no stance on this debate because most teens already jackoff and yet still we have prewed pregnant teens.On the other hand now that is not as tabboo recent numbers show they've gone "down".So I'm a bit neautral on this.

[thebgsamuel]

i think anyone can do what they want you should not be incouraged to masturbate anyway most people do so you should encourage to use condoms! thats a good thing!

[cmdexe]

A couple of centuries ago when strict religion really was common, people were STRONGLY encouraged not to masturbate or have any kind of sexual contact.. as a result, hardly anyone got pregnant outside of marriage.

I don't think that's the way forward, but, just putting it out there.

[embers]

you should not be incouraged to masturbate anyway

Why not?

A couple of centuries ago when strict religion really was common, people were STRONGLY encouraged not to masturbate or have any kind of sexual contact.. as a result, hardly anyone got pregnant outside of marriage.

That's probably because in those strict religious societies, it was probably illegal or heavily frowned upon to have sex outside of marriage.

[Wicked_Syn]

I honestly believe telling teenagers to masturbate instead won't cause any drop in sexual activity amongst teenagers. There is a reason why we masturbate and there's things that we obviously think about when we masturbate. So I don't see how encouraging us to masturbate more will help with preventing teen sex..

[User Deleted]

I honestly believe telling teenagers to masturbate instead won't cause any drop in sexual activity amongst teenagers. There is a reason why we masturbate and there's things that we obviously think about when we masturbate. So I don't see how encouraging us to masturbate more will help with preventing teen sex..

The thought is people just want stimulation (in terms of masturbating, sex, ect) however that is rarely the case.