14 Years Old..

[Heisen8erg]

Okay, so im almost 14, and ive been with my girlfriend for over 4 years now.. Were very open with eachother, and lately we've both been thinking about sex.. Ive known her for over 6 years and im completely comfortable with it.. But im still not sure about it.. Were gonna use a condom, we dont want a baby or anything, and i feel extremely comfortable with her. I want to do this with her, but im afraid it might effect things in the future, im confident it will work out but i want abit of reassurance. Were both smart about this and were not stupid, we both think itl be good for our relationship. What do you guys think? I dont wanna hear "Your only 14 thats wrong!" please...

[Genghis Khan]

As long as you're using some form of contraception and you're comfortable enough with each other which, I assume is true not just from your post but the fact you've been with her for 4 years. Go for it dude.

[paul955]

For your age, damn you are fucking smart and mature for wanting to be safe. If it's okay with the both of you, go for it.

[Magenta]

Okay, well, I do not approve of sex under the age of consent but you don't want anyone to preach so I won't.

If you're aware of the risks and consequences of sex, go ahead. But there is no rush. Some people are with their partners much longer without having sex. At your age, waiting will not affect you badly. But if you both think that's what you want, just be responsible.

Even though you don't want to hear it, I do think 14 is way too young but it's your choice and I do think that you are smart for making sure it will be safe beforehand.

[Joshh97]

Try a lot of foreplay before would give you some reassurance

[Fireteam2479]

I'd say go for it... Word of advice though? DO NOT BRAG about it. What happens in the bedroom, stays in the bedroom. Do whatever you like, experiment in all areas of your mind & have fun with her. Sex should be fun, safe, & enjoyable so do what you want... Later in life, you'll learn that Sex is a rare thing for guys to get. :)

[Pancakes]

Exactly I was 13 but she was like you're gonna wear a condom and I am like I know I am not stupid but at least some of us 13-14 year olds are being smarter then the ones who want kids lol :)

[Alice]

OK, so you say you're ALMOST 14. That means you're 13. How old is your girl friend? It seems as though you've given this a lot of thought. It sounds like you're ready. I was 13 when I first had sex, the guy was 17 and took very good care of me.

[mark15]

well its okay u should do but wear condom

[Giles]

As long as you're both comfortable with the idea and know how far you're willing to go then it should be fine. Just be sure that you're sure it's what you both want, because once you've done it your relationship will not be the same. Be safe and have fun.

[DoctorWho]

Do what you heart desires and you will be happy in the future

[Schizothemia]

Something I would like to emphasize is communication. This is an issue even most adults have with sex. Communicate with each other, let each other know what works or doesn't work, it makes the experience more enjoyable and allows you to become closer. From what you've told us, it's clear you both have discussed it, and as long as you are smart about it, and take it slow I'm sure you guys will be fine.

[tyler17OKC]

good for you for knowing to need contraception. If you are both comfortable with it and you take all of the necessary persuasions, I would go for it.

[terbear]

14 is a little young in my mind, but if you want... go ahead

[Nookie813]

P.i.m.p

[Kujiro]

Definitely it is not advisable,
But It is generally your decision.
If your are able to take into consideration what are the consequences and most importantly be responsible for them, then I believe it's whatever that floats your boat.

As your junior in age I am in no position to say you should or should not, but I believe;as you mention both of you are smart. You have already made a decision before posting it here, but I trust you would choose with wisdom and insight.

*smile*

[Skyhawk]

14 would be a bit young in my opinion, but I am not you, you are you, you decide your decisions, so whatever floats your boat.

Just don't brag about it, possible consequences.

[ExhibitG]

I personally think you are too young. I know you didn't want to hear it but when you get older you are going to look back and think the exact same thing. it just comes along with maturity. you have all your life to enjoy sex with someone you truly love and I just don't think now is the time.

my own opinion is that if you aren't financially able to take care of a child, don't have sex because no condom is 100% guaranteed protection. and abortion is absolutely out of the question for me.

[JoeyNg]

Do that!age doesn't really matter.like me and my BF,both 13,we already had sex and that's because we love ,trust each other

[abc16]

Like you said you love and trust eachover, so dont fret about it!

[joeyjorulz]

no one has mentioned this but have you considered...rubbers break!!!

and you know what that can mean?

your gf should consider going on the pill as well.