Am I wrong here?

[OnlyHuman]

Ok so I am very new to this site but a friend said she use to go on here when she had problems with her eating disorder and said that it is a really good community of people that I could talk to/vent to about my self-harm issues. So A little background, I started cutting about a month and a half a go when I just had so much drama at school going on then problems at home were even worst, my dad disowned me after my parents got divorced and I started to feel empty and emotionless. I started cutting just to feel something and I thought it would only be once just to let everything out but it just got worse with everyday that passed by and it felt like I had no control over my life.

Because of this i decided to tell one of my closest friends about it and he opened up to me saying he had done it before as well but has been cut free for two years. He said I needed to stop because he has been down this road and he didn't want to see me go down it. I agreed I would try and stop but I ended up only able to go a week without cutting then starting back up again [this happened twice].

Now I told him about this and he is like, "I hate to do this to you but if you can't stop then I won't talk to you. If you cut I won't talk to you until you are one week free of self-harm." He called it "Tough love" and that he was doing it for my own good, he is my best friend and knows that I vent to him about everything and vise versa and I just feel like I am letting him down and it is making matters worse. I decided to tell my other friend that directed me to this site and she said what he was doing was horrible and that it isn't something that you can just stop doing it is something I need to work at.

The thing is, I just feel so bad like I should be able to stop like it never happened and that I am being selfish and disappointing/letting him as a friend. So is he doign the right thing or should I confront him and tell him that he is doign more harm to me then good?

[Twistember]

Well if he's really your friend, he would be there to support you, not ignore you and leave you free to hurt yourself. He said he had done it once, so he should understand how hard it is to stop. If he really wanted to help, he would take away your cutting utensil. I don't think he's doing the right thing. Maybe you should tell him that this is hurting you more than helping you.

[Indecision]

Yeh, my boyfriend (was a friend then thouugh) said that to me. He said 'If you do it again, i'm just going to leave you. You're upsetting me.' He was everything to me, I don't know how I'd cope. But because things got worse, I did it again. I didn't tell him at first, but I just got so guilty, I told him. Turned out he said 'If you cut again, I don't want to have anything to do with your self harm anymore, it upsets me more than you think.' eh. Things get better than you know, believe me ^.^ .

The fact you've managed to stop for those weeks is really good. It shows you really want to stop for him, and even for yourself's sake. Self harm's a horrible thing - i've been cutting for around 1.5 yearsish, I can't remember when I started, but the longest i've been without SH is 3 weeks, i'm now 2weeks 5days.
It's hard, I know. But stopping is always the better option.