what do you do if your close friend touches you?

[bethany2shop]

he has been my friend for 3 years just as a friend and he touched under my dress during a hug. we hug for each greeting. how do you deal with this? i said 'hey youtouched my underwear' and he said 'its normal to be affectionate'. my boyfriend was the only person touch legs etc. before today :what:
what if my friend touches there again? i love his friendship - top 3 ever!

[IFWT]

Well, i would say that he should keep his hands of if you have a boyfriend? I doubt you boyfriend will think it's okay if you just say "well he touched me". So i would tell him you're not comfortable with him touching you in these places.

[bethany2shop]

Well, i would say that he should keep his hands of if you have a boyfriend? I doubt you boyfriend will think it's okay if you just say "well he touched me". So i would tell him you're not comfortable with him touching you in these places.

its soo hard to tell him , he just says 'its normal to be affectionate' , i said it twice and then he said 'dont be silly its just me!'. are you sure im not overeacting :what:

[IFWT]

You are definatly not overreacting :/ he should respect that you have a boyfriend and that certain parts of the body are private. I have a gf, and i don't let guys touch her. It's not alright for him to touch you, really.

[bethany2shop]

You are definatly not overreacting :/ he should respect that you have a boyfriend and that certain parts of the body are private. I have a gf, and i don't let guys touch her. It's not alright for him to touch you, really.

guess its for sure wrong then , this is so messy : (

[IFWT]

guess its for sure wrong then , this is so messy : (

Well you know, this is just my opinion. But i see you don't feel comfortable with it, and he should accept that. And yes, i know it's messy :/ life can be sometimes..

[bethany2shop]

Well you know, this is just my opinion. But i see you don't feel comfortable with it, and he should accept that. And yes, i know it's messy :/ life can be sometimes..

yep seems like it :yes:

[IFWT]

Well hope it all works out for you :)

[bethany2shop]

Well hope it all works out for you :)

thanx for sure :D:D

[LuckyLuke]

Just be assertive when you say, "Don't touch me there"

If you add in that you "have a boyfriend" it may convey the message that you don't MIND being touched there by him, just not when you're seeing someone.

[bethany2shop]

Just be assertive when you say, "Don't touch me there"

If you add in that you "have a boyfriend" it may convey the message that you don't MIND being touched there by him, just not when you're seeing someone.

true thats tricky. sometimes when guy friends hug me (as greeting) i like how my chest feels on their chest if my bra is the soft one. but thats probably common for male/female hugs, not for romantic reasons :)

[Craig1995]

If u dont want him to touch u like that just tell him. If u dnt mind then jjust go with the flow.

[bethany2shop]

If u dont want him to touch u like that just tell him. If u dnt mind then jjust go with the flow.

i guess its alright , or good preparation :):)

[Ryhanna]

Touch his underwear and see how he likes it? Oh... no that might backfire on you. :P

Just tell him you're uncomfortable with him doing it, and ask him to stop.

[Pancakes]

Be like woah there lol just tell them what your uncomfortable with that...

[LuckyLuke]

i guess its alright , or good preparation :):)


Please, please don't allow this to continue if any of the below are still in affect:

1- You feel AT ALL uncomfortable, which I believe you do because you've made this post. People who enjoy being fondled don't make VT posts asking if it's okay.

2- You still have a boyfriend that you care about. If you really care about him, you wouldn't allow this to continue happening.

[bethany2shop]

Touch his underwear and see how he likes it? Oh... no that might backfire on you. :P

Just tell him you're uncomfortable with him doing it, and ask him to stop.

He did it again yesterday but not my undies but on my legs during a hug and i said stop and that its cheating on my boyfriend and he stopped but he said 'ur no fun' :(

Be like woah there lol just tell them what your uncomfortable with that...

For sure i told him only boyfriend can touch those parts or else its cheating :)

Please, please don't allow this to continue if any of the below are still in affect:

1- You feel AT ALL uncomfortable, which I believe you do because you've made this post. People who enjoy being fondled don't make VT posts asking if it's okay.

2- You still have a boyfriend that you care about. If you really care about him, you wouldn't allow this to continue happening.

No problem , it was tricky at first because my boyfriend hadnt touched there but now he has so its like 'only my boyfriend touches there' .

[ashley95]

Your "friend" doesn't respect you. Find someone else to be friends with, you don't need him

[bethany2shop]

Your "friend" doesn't respect you. Find someone else to be friends with, you don't need him

ok maybe. just its really hard to tell someone in case they get angry :( but i might just stop hugging when greeting so no rubbies.

[User Deleted]

Well if he is really your friend he will understand you feel you need more space when/if you tell him :)

[bethany2shop]

Well if he is really your friend he will understand you feel you need more space when/if you tell him :)

yeah for sure :):):):)

[CyanideGoodnight]

I personally would slap him and tell him to learn some respect. That's just me though.

[bethany2shop]

I personally would slap him and tell him to learn some respect. That's just me though.

lol surrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrre :lol:

[Lil Ill]

Look, if he's your friend he should respect you when you tell him to stop, weather you have a boyfriend or not if you don't want to do it you don't want him to do it. Part of being a good friend is mutual respect for each other, if he keeps doing it this maybe a person who you can do without in your life

[bethany2shop]

Look, if he's your friend he should respect you when you tell him to stop, weather you have a boyfriend or not if you don't want to do it you don't want him to do it. Part of being a good friend is mutual respect for each other, if he keeps doing it this maybe a person who you can do without in your life

yep your right , i just feel guilty cos when he does homework with me at my house last year i wore just underwear without a skirt - might be my fault for being too silly.