friend doesnt like...

[LifeisLife]

I'm not completely sure if this is the right place to post this and otherwise please move it (:

So my problem with a friend of mine is that I told her I self-harm sometimes but that I have stopped for about a week and her reaction was that I was egotistical and that it's stupid and that I'm stupid. She dislikes me now because I did because she thinks that children in Africa have got it worse and that I dont appreciate the things I have because I self-harm. Then she started to accuse me of being emo or goth (which I am not) and now she wont talk to me. I cant exactly talk to her in real life either because she lives in Denmark and I live in Holland but I dont want to lose her as a friend because we have (had) a really close bond since we were 7.

What should I do? :/

[Tristin.]

shes probably shocked at the fact you are SH. but, she is being rather ignorant. you cut for a reason, she has to understand this.

you are not beeing egotistical nor are you stupid.
try and explain to her once she has calmed down

[love is louder]

i too think its to do with the shock of it especially if she had no idea. give her a week or so then try and talk to her about it. she may just not know a lot about it. just explain to her why you do it and why you decided to tell her about it. if shes a real friend she will come around.

good luck

[LifeisLife]

thanks (: i'll try that but i'm pretty sure she doesnt want to talk to me.....

[love is louder]

well then you have nothing to lose do you
although im sure thats not the case
let me know how it goes..?

[SWMG]

Its a shock to know that your friend does it so give her time and ask for advice of her

[bravo-charlie]

I don't understand this.Yes, people in Africa have it harder than you, and everyone else in the Western world as well.But, she shouldn't just ignore you like this and accuse you of anything.She should be there for you and try to help you. If she is a real friend, that is what she would and should do.

[XxMurderedKissesxX]

Im sorry to hear about how she reacted. Ive gotten the same thing when I told afew of my close friends,its really frustrating and hurtful that u trust someone with something like that and they blow u off because they dont even fully understand it. If she wont talk to u,maybe try sending a email explaining why u SH or send a link to a info site? It might help her understand and not judge so much. I hope everything works out 4 u : )

[LifeisLife]

well then you have nothing to lose do you
although im sure thats not the case
let me know how it goes..? She still hasnt responded and wont talk to me. :(

its really frustrating and hurtful that u trust someone with something like that and they blow u off because they dont even fully understand it. That's exactly how I feel at the moment.

Its a shock to know that your friend does it so give her time and ask for advice of her. I dont think she will respond to any of my chat messages/emails because she is literally not responding to anything. she wont even let other people from that school talk to me (she's the popular b*tch who controls everybody's social lives and can ruin you in minutes.)