In the changing rooms

[FoMo]

Some guys feel totally comfortable with flashing everyone in the changing rooms and they can get away with it. They feel totally comfortable to take showers with each other also.

So how do you deal with taking showers with others guys?? I would act like such a square but I'm trying to act more confident and actually get a long with them and have a laugh. I know in some changing rooms the showers aren't separate, they're completely open.

I also noticed that some guys can speak openly about watching porn and things connected with that subject. How would I go about being a part of those conversations? Because I would like to be able to talk like that without feeling the least bit awkward. To make the friendship more open.

Write back!

[spoke]

i think a comfort level with nudity starts at home. if it's not accepted or allowed, people won't really want to be seen naked by others i guess. the first few times might be really awkward but look the others in tthe eye and try to have a regular conversation.

on the other subject if you are asked about stuff just answer truthfully. if you don't watch porn say so and ask what they look at maybe.

[buddha123]

Being naked around others is strange at first...but it gets better after awhile...most ppl its strange cause of their bodies...We are all at different stages and thats way its strange to be naked around others...but it will be ok...as for talking about porn and other stuff...its hard too cause porn is so tabo...but its apart of growing up

[Jagz]

from personal experience i know that it takes awhile to get used to the sex talk and showers but then they start to become routine and you'll look back thinking what was i so afraid of. and the sex talks just start off not talking about it and then work you way into it.

[gonee]

me and my friends are always naked together whenever we get ready for football practice and showers, were sort of used to it now its like a family tbh

[LuckyLuke]

You need to really just say "who gives a damn". Just let it go.

I found that sleeping nude at home really made me more comfortable walking around the locker room naked because you can experience the feeling of being without clothes.

See, clothing is like a set of armor; it's a protector, a barrier. You can stand there and no one can see what's really beneath you and without clothing you're literally naked and feel more vulnerable. You need to realized that clothes are just pieces of exquisitely designed cloth that rest upon who YOU are and once you let them go, you can shine.

As for the awkward conversations, join in slowly. Don't go from the silent guy who changes in the bathroom to the guy who's screaming about jacking off the next day. Maneuver yourself into becoming friends with them with intricate precision! Just be who you are.

[beardedboy]

The only way to get comfortable about a situation is to experience being uncomfortable. Once your brain realizes that it isn't so bad, eventually you will be able to do anything. If you want to have converstaions about porn, I would just bring it up sometime with my friends. When you guys start talking about something, just ask if they watch porn. Unfortunately not everyone is like my lunch buddies, but I am sure if they are your friends they aren't going to care if you bring up porn, because 95% of them use it. :P Hope this helps.

[THE GR8 MIKE]

If you did that in my school, you'd get your ass kicked.

[chase.]

If you're really worried about it you shouldn't be. Being naked is a natural thing that society turned to shameful. I'm sure most guys were, at one point, just as nervous as you are. Don't worry about it. The best way to get over your fear is to face it. In time, you won't even notice.

[Voleurz]

A couple of my good friends are in my pe. Were very comfortable with eachother and openly talk about masturbation, sex, and porn in the changeroom. I guess im in on "those conversations" but you just have to find friends that your comfortable with.

[ItStOuGhEnOuGh4Us]

Well dude, in time you will be more comfortable. A lot of Guys "talk" in those situations because they too are a little uncomfortable and are trying to make the situation more comfortable. Just jump into the conversation, and all will be okay. a lot a times when people are taught that being comfortable with yourself and your nudity is normal. This starts in the home.

[MustangRacer35]

Sometimes it takes time to get use to changing in front of others. I use to not change in front of others but I eventually got more comfortable and stated to change in front others. It really depends on how comfortable you are with yourself and with others.

[FoMo]

You need to really just say "who gives a damn". Just let it go.

I found that sleeping nude at home really made me more comfortable walking around the locker room naked because you can experience the feeling of being without clothes.

See, clothing is like a set of armor; it's a protector, a barrier. You can stand there and no one can see what's really beneath you and without clothing you're literally naked and feel more vulnerable. You need to realized that clothes are just pieces of exquisitely designed cloth that rest upon who YOU are and once you let them go, you can shine.

As for the awkward conversations, join in slowly. Don't go from the silent guy who changes in the bathroom to the guy who's screaming about jacking off the next day. Maneuver yourself into becoming friends with them with intricate precision! Just be who you are.

Oh yeah I actually do sleep naked! :D Its quite enjoyable to be honest!
Yeah I totally understand. Great way of putting that :D .
I have been a part of one or two but they always seem to end very fast. I guess I'll just have to talk more and make the conversation longer! XP

[virtual.teen]

Yeah sleeping naked feels good with that blanket ((:

[mikeymike]

Just go with the flow bro, becoming close friends about 'normal stuff' is the key, and once that friendship has grown it will naturally lead to the sexual topics and nudity.

[CraigXD]

We've all got the same bits so therefore why would you not be comfertable with being naked/

[jake14]

it's all about getting used to it, i think.

[aaaaa]

once you start talking about that stuff it will start to become normal. also after you start to get used to being naked with others, it will become normal!

[mikephelps]

Yea kinda what others said I was real nervous and shy at 1st cause I'm a very late bloomer (14 1/2 with no hair yet) :whoops:but you get used to it after a while. When you get a boner guys will laugh and tease but not for long and you get to do it when somebody else gets one

[Giles]

With regards to the nudity concern; the more you do it and the more open you become around guys, your age or otherwise, the more comfortable you will start to feel - the only advice I can give you is to just give it a go and gradually it'll get easier and easier.

As for conversations about porn and whatnot, there's no way to get involved in a conversation really. Unless you start it, indirectly possibly, and then see how it goes from there. The easiest way to be accepted by the people that you're talking to is just to be honest, if you tell the truth and they can see that then they may be more likely to believe what you say and accept you because of that.

[MrThirsty]

Yeah, just let go and realize that it's not a big deal, because once you realize that, then you'll be able to do whteve

[APWBD]

I have never taken a shower with another guy but my friends and I talk about jackin off and porn and stuff all the time. its just getting to know your friends for a while and as corny as it sounds, building trust. we can pretty much talk about anything, but we have never had the need to be naked around each other. Although when they come campin with me we will all take showers at the same time (in different showers) and we have no problem with it.

[JohnFitz]

Some guys feel totally comfortable with flashing everyone in the changing rooms and they can get away with it. They feel totally comfortable to take showers with each other also.

So how do you deal with taking showers with others guys?? I would act like such a square but I'm trying to act more confident and actually get a long with them and have a laugh. I know in some changing rooms the showers aren't separate, they're completely open.

I also noticed that some guys can speak openly about watching porn and things connected with that subject. How would I go about being a part of those conversations? Because I would like to be able to talk like that without feeling the least bit awkward. To make the friendship more open.

Write back!


We change naked every day and it's no big deal. We sometimes take showers together and were almost shoulder to shoulder and it's no big deal. We all have dicks so I don't know why it would be to awkward after a while. We chat and laugh naked or not.

[boydude]

Dude, every dude feels uncomfortable at first, being naked. Being naked is amazing and natural. Clothes are just a barrier. Naked we have nothing to offer but ourselves. I am now, after six years of playing sports and junk I am completely comfortable. To handle be confident you just have to say "To hell with what they think, I am me" drop your clothes and do it. Being bold is one of the best ways to fit in, but work your way in as well. Just be natural, you all have the same junk. If you wanna talk about something, slowly bring it up.

[Speedy29]

ive never been naked around anybody really, just gf's nd stuff

[Paladin]

this fall will be the firt time I will be in a school situation where I will be nude with other dudes at school so I don't know how it will be. I think it'll be OK cause I been nude with my brothers and it was OK.

[JJIIYY312]

everyone watches porn so start off with something like "i was watching this the other night and i saw ...." and then as the conversation starts going your in and in the showers if they are open don't feel bad, if anyone makes fun of you just comeback at them with something and eventually your confidence will build but make sure not to show you are nervous.

[steve14]

if theyre talking about porn, talk about it to. you can bend the truth a little. just try to stay focused at what your trying to do. if theyre talking about cars, talk about cars.... make something up if you have to.

[haslam1919]

I cover myself up because i dont like being in those situations

[alh1994]

I can do this with my friends, its just something you get used to.

[Dylan Tyde]

that sort of thing can be wierd at first, just slowly try to get more involved in the conversations. And as for showering, the best thing to do is just chat to your friends like normal.

[orangeandlong]

For me I just listen and talk when I want to....I think first you have to be comfortable being naked and not mind....You also have to admit that you mb too.

[Jace]

Being an athlete, I shower with other guys every day. In the beginning, I was scared because I had only seen my Dad, bro, and porn guys naked, so I was afraid I wouldn't measure up, so to speak, but my brother told me that they were/are just as nervous as I was, so I just focused on the sport during that first time, and whenever a dude made eye contact, I just said, "man, can you believe Carlos didn't show up for practice?" or "Damn, my legs are on fire after that hill we ran" or something like that. On the third time I showered, a senior was there and he looked thirty with all kinds of hair and a big shlong. He said, "YO, Pee-Wee!". And laughed and pointed. I kinda laughed it off and said, "I know, man! It's small, right? I guess it's because mine isn't usually it's full size around naked guys! ". That shut him up. Good luck!

[Viva_Satanica]

If you want to do it, you will. But if you don't feel like it is right, you will avoid it. Simple as that.

[jobrien510]

try not the get a hardon. number one rule, i still cant follow it

[Steve01]

well if the showers are for schools just go and do your buisness. cause the one kid who flashes people are probably faggots. everyone feels the same way. and for the porn conversations it would be with your best friend. idk how my firends and i lead into the conversation topic it just happens. so be patient!

[rokinho]

You need to be comfortable with yourself and how you look and all that and then you will be able to be nude in front of someone, and when it comes to talking about porn and stuff like that, I mean if they do it all the time why would you be discomforted to talk about stuff like that in their presence? :)

[Magenta]

Please don't bump old threads. This is over two months old. :locked: