Underage Sex?

[beardedboy]

Hey guys. I just wanted to know what your thoughts on sex between two people (male or female) under the age of 18?

I have been going to see a therapist recently and we somewhat talked about this. First, I learned that in Maine, 16 year olds can legally give consent for sex, and even as low as 14 can with some more restrictions. But on an emotional level, I think that underage sex can help. Like with identity. By having sex with a female at a younger age, a young male will probably be more likely to be attracted to women. I used to be a non believer of underage sex, thinking that it was wrong and stupid, but after thinking about it, it is now just a natural part of human nature. What are your thoughts?
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[Skeptical Bear]

It's supposedly an adult act, but as long as there are safety pre-cautions. Then I don't think it's that wrong.

[massivet]

Personally I think if your able to realize the precautions of sex and sometimes what the outcome can be, then I think you would be ok. Its all about maturity and some people see sex as an act of lust, and some people see it as an act of intimacy. Our hormones are raging throughout our teen years, and sometimes we don't know what we want. But personally i don't think having sex at a younger age will attract you to women. Its about how you feel afterward

[Lil Ill]

this is a tough 1, I think young people becoming more mature at younger age, but I also think we need to be careful because sex is more than just physical. I never had sex but for some reason I don't think casual sex is the right thing for young people, but I have friends who think casual sex is the best kind to him it allows them to explore to determine what type of person the wanna be and what type of person they wanna be with.

I don't know I guess it depends on the person and how mature they are.

[ajp1993]

I have no problem with it. Heck I've done it!
Everyone is different though. For me I was ready but others might not be at 14.
Underage sex is going to happen you cant stop it. But proper sex-ed means you can at least do it properly informed

[Jawbreaker]

Don't really see much to condemn other than taking the necessary pre-cautions for any sexual act.

[beardedboy]

Agreed. Thanks guys for your input. :D

[lolman iron]

To be honest, that is a stupid law. I mean, you ARE human under 18. If I got the chance to have sex, I would do it, since I am human.

[beardedboy]

To be honest, that is a stupid law. I mean, you ARE human under 18. If I got the chance to have sex, I would do it, since I am human.

I see what you mean. But people go through a maturity scale which is like a curve on a graph. There are certain things that people learn at certain ages. For example, when you are a toddler you learn that when you touch your penis it feels good. maybe 6th grade is when you learn to masturbate. 16 is when you have sex. So if that toddler, for example, learned that touching his penis feels good before being a toddler (like 3 instead of 4) then it skews the rest of the curve. he might start masturbating in 3rd grade and then sex in 6th grade. I know it may sound confusing, and maybe that still doesn't concern you, but just take into consideration that even though you are human, you still make mistakes. Imagine two 14 year olds getting it on, and they never heard of condoms, for some reason. That girl could get pregnant, and so another abortion. Or even if they know about condoms, they might not pay attention to putting it on correctly or they do something that screws it up so it is faulty. I am not arguing for one side or the other, I am neutral, but I am just trying to figure out people's responses. Thank you though, I appreciate it :D

[Alice]

I see nothing wrong with it. I'm 15 and have had sex since I was 13. I even had sex with a 42 year old man when I was 14 (long story)

[Giles]

By having sex with a female at a younger age, a young male will probably be more likely to be attracted to women.

I don't like how you've phrased that. Suggesting that being attracted to women is better?

I think that underage sex is fine in most cases, assuming that it's not like <13. As long as the people are safe then it seems fine.

[Boxerbriefs96]

I am a believer in this as long as its clean and safe.

[ajp1993]

I see nothing wrong with it. I'm 15 and have had sex since I was 13. I even had sex with a 42 year old man when I was 14 (long story)

You had sex with at 42 yr old guy when you were 14? By choice or is that not a story you want to be telling?

[madjoker525]

nothing wrong. as long as there is consent and youre safe

[michael.95]

To be honest the whole "Underage" thing is ridiculous... It's the same as being the legal age, your age is a number this doesn't change anything. I think as long as you know what your doing, you know the ins and outs of it and are up for it then sure, go ahead and do it. Being mature is key in my opinion.

[mrbob360]

the legal is 16 but i think it doesnt matter as long as you know what your doing and you r doing it safely and its consented i hate rapeists so think go ahead and do what you feel is right

[ItStOuGhEnOuGh4Us]

Personally I don't think it's a question of a person or persons PHYSICAL age.(within Reason) More Importantly their "MENTAL" age. I know some people 18 and over, that quite frankly aren't mentally prepared for that.
Hope that makes sense.

[michael.95]

Personally I don't think it's a question of a person or persons PHYSICAL age.(within Reason) More Importantly their "MENTAL" age. I know some people 18 and over, that quite frankly aren't mentally prepared for that.
Hope that makes sense.

Yes that does make sense, that's another key factor.

[BrianTheGiant]

If two people have sex before they're mentally ready, only they suffer, not someone else. At least not more than they would suffer because of any other ill luck.
I'm all for guiding people and warning them, but since it doesn't hurt other people than the ones having sex I don't think it should be forced just because someone people should be a certain way.
And sure it would be better if people waited until they were mentally ready, but there's a lot of stuff people do before they are mentally ready, because it's part of growing up and often the exact thing that makes them mentally ready.

[Dare99]

I'm so lucky I live in Maine then.:D

[TopDog]

It all depends on who you have sex with. Where I live (in France) it is fully legal as of 15, but your first time is the one you'll remember for the rest of your life. You don't want to remember your first time as shagging some slut down a backstreet ally just because you were horny one night! You want it to be intimate and passionate, with someone you trust and if it means waiting a year or 2 until you find the right person, then it's best to wait.

[Cybercode]

if we look back in the caveman days, the life expectancy was pretty low, and when caveman and cavewoman got the urge, the would...well you know. but we are teenagers and our bodies are going through changes everyday. it signals that we are sexually ready. but then came along rules and religion. basically saying sex before marriage is bad. my opinion is that we are now in the 21st Century and we have school and academics to worry about. But the problem is that teens are focused too much on having sex than academics. that's why society today is all about sex and stuff. yes it is natural, but life isn't about sex. it should be between two lovers ONLY if they are physically and emotionally ready. but as a teen i suggest focus on academics and such than sex.

[Dark_Desires]

i think if teens are going to have sex be educated about the pros and cons and know about protection i see sex as something to people really really close and in love do but if ur going to do it u will so my advice is use protection

[Sporadica]

It's supposedly an adult act, but as long as there are safety pre-cautions. Then I don't think it's that wrong.

I agree with the safety precautions but by the definition of "adult act" to me it seems that our definition of adult isn't correct. im thinking adults can be alower age, some young teens are as mature/smart as adults

[prob1996]

So many factors come into play when deciding if u should have sex or not. Emotionally, mentally, physically, education, risks all factor into it. If they happen to be under the age of 18 and are safe and smart about it, why not? They are some so-called "adults" that can't even handle it

[jonjon1998]

i am a big believer in underage sex. Especially when it involves me haha:)

[kentucky girl]

I don't see anything wrong with underage sex as long as it is safe sex.

[FearsomeEnder]

Humans have turned sex into an "adult" thing only adults can do it save you innocense kids no i believe if a kid wants to have sex let them

[kuuliluuk]

Few thoughts... As soon as hormones start to drive you, it should be essential that you can have sex with anyone you like according to same rules that apply to grownups. Like no forced sex, avoid diseases, unwanted pregnancy etc.
It is also normal for underage people or for people who are just starting one or another activity to make mistakes. We learn from mistakes. We cannot be ready for everything at our 18th birthday!!! Without experimenting or trying. From what underage people are protected? From ourselves? Ridiculous!
So, use your common sense, respect yourself and others, and have sex as safely as possible!!!

[Ambrosia]

OP banned. :locked: